This is going to be a long piece. I have this thing running in my mind and I need you to help me with mature advice. I have been a dumb ass broke niggar since I left UNIBEN 7 years ago. All attempt to get a good and loyal girlfriend had been abortive owing to my joblessness. Even the few ladies I dated or the few that agreed to date me, na so so bad luck I dey jam everywhere. Disappointments here and there. At times I would cry and curse the day I was born. Three years ago, I was depressed and suicidal, thank God for my mum who caught me in the kitchen when I was about leaving the world by the way of Snipper.

Everything was the same for me until August last year when I met this lady that changed my whole story. I met her on one of the escort/hookup sites that I saw here on Nairaland. She caught my attention and I decided to hook up with her with the little money I managed to save as Konji no gree make I sleep. So, I decided to offload somehow since I am not a fan of masturbation.

I don’t believe in superstition or spiritual influence but my experience with this lady changed my belief. Now, I don’t even know what to believe anymore. The first day that I bleeped with this lady, one of my uncles in Australia who I have been begging for money to start a business for several years called me and told me he has decided to make me manage one of his businesses here in Nigeria. I was very surprised. Since that day, my life has not remained the same again. Now, I have 2 classy cars, I have made a great progress in my building project here in Lagos; by the grace of God, I will be moving into my new home before the end of December this year. I have been managing my uncle’s business so well and it is growing bigger by the day, he is well impressed. Glory be to God and thanks to my girl who had been by my side all this while, giving me advice. Mind you, she is also a UNILAG Economics graduate.

Now here is my main concern. I proposed to the same girl last week and she gladly accepted my proposal. So, we intend to get married in December before moving into our new home. Unfortunately for me, my uncle saw my recent posts on Instagram and Facebook and called me to stop any arrangement to marry the lady. He said she is a cheap prostitute and that is all he would tell me about her and he is serious with it. I knew her background but I don’t know how to convince my uncle that she is now a changed girl. So, I had to confront my girl and ask her if she has ever had anything to do with him. I showed her his picture. At first, she denied ever meeting him but after much persuasion she opened up.

She told me she met him as a client who called from the same escort site. She said he flew in from Australia last year, a week before Easter celebration and he hooked up with her for a day. After a day service, he requested that she should stay for the weekend and increase the pay. So, she complied. After the weekend, he gave her the offer of being his second wife. He promised to come and see her parents before going back to Australia blab bla bla…she later told him that she does not like the idea of being a second wife because she was raised from a polygamous family. So, he felt really bad. She said she stopped picking his calls and later blocked all means he could use to contact her. After telling me all these, she said she doesn’t want any problem with my family so she would consider it as her fate. She dropped the ring I gave her and asked me to move on because she would. I have been trying to reach her since Thursday but she kept rejecting my calls and not replying my messages. As at yesterday I tried checking the site I met her and saw that she has updated her profile there. Mind you, she had deleted her account when we started getting serious. This makes me feel so bad. I am confused. I can’t even think through anymore.

Now that I know the reason why my uncle doesn’t want me to marry this lady and my uncle is coming to Nigeria in December to visit his family and entrust another business in my hand, but he is still insisting that I should never think of marrying my girl, what would you advise me to do? Please, I need your mature advice. It is not necessary that you respond if you don’t have anything reasonable to say. Thanks for your time.

Your uncle's admonition clearly stems from jealousy and the girl's refusal to be his concubine and not because she is "a cheap prostitute" as he'd have you believe.
If it indeed takes two to tango and he had patronized "a cheap prostitute" and even desired to make her his wife, what does that make him? A cheap prostitute patron, I suppose. You see say na him own name long pass abi?

My guy, no listen to that your jealous uncle jare.

Follow your heart, go find that babe, beg her, and wife her even if your uncle goes on to withdraw his businesses from you, trust me, that babe good fortunes go bring you better luck and most likely lead to your uncle business to crumble.

No be out of hatred or deliberate shiiit, na just life, karma, and some kind life ish wey person no fit explain.

Of a truth, there are some people you'd cross paths with and your fortunes will be looking up. The reverse holds true in some cases too.

The life is just some deep shiiit mystery in all.

Funny you rock the same boat your uncle rock and you got lucky after eating food meant for elders.Both of you enjoying the girl star abi. Girl sef no fit stop her hustle.If you care about her get her out of that old business.

I’ll advise you listen to your uncle, let her go, as she said ‘she considers it her fate’ plus you know why he is telling you not to get married to her.

But wait, the elders would have more to tell you.

I don't know what to type but let me use this opinion to invite Deborah98 to the podium. thank you

This movie is a familiar one

After booking space, i went to read.
Now after reading i don't know what to comment!!

Here we go again

You, your uncle and your fiancee are the same. Oloshos!
I fear for the offspring of the three of you.

Listen to your uncle, but follow your heart.
Goodluck

What is the name of the site? Let me help you call her to come back to you. E get why

I am serious o

daddytime:
Your uncle's admonition clearly stems from jealousy and the girl's refusal to be his concubine and not because she is "a cheap prostitute" as he'd have you believe.
If it indeed takes two to tango and he had patronized "a cheap prostitute" and even desired to make her his wife, what does that make him? A cheap prostitute patron, I suppose. You see say na him own name long pass abi?

My guy, no listen to that your jealous uncle jare.

Follow your heart, go find that babe, beg her, and wife her even if your uncle goes on to withdraw his businesses from you, trust me, that babe good fortunes go bring you better luck and most likely lead to your uncle business to crumble.

No be out of hatred or deliberate shiiit, na just life, karma, and some kind life ish wey person no fit explain.

Of a truth, there are some people you'd cross paths with and your fortunes will be looking up. The reverse holds true in some cases too.

The life is just some deep shiiit mystery in all.

Thank you very much. This is very helpful.

uruba23:
Funny you rock the same boat your uncle rock and you got lucky after eating food meant for elders.Both of you enjoying the girl star abi. Girl sef no fit stop her hustle.If you care about her get her out of that old business.

Thank you. I will try my best.

Backcheck:
I’ll advise you listen to your uncle, let her go, as she said ‘she considers it her fate’ plus you know why he is telling you not to get married to her.

But wait, the elders would have more to tell you.

You must have got it twisted somehow.

LadySarah:


You, your uncle and your fiancee are the same. Oloshos!
I fear for the offspring of the three of you.

This is not necessary. You should be more concerned about the little ones you are raising or intend to raise. Will they be the type calling people names on social media without taking time to understand their story. If we look deep down you, I am sure you are sitting on worse things that can't even be shared here.

Abilistic:
Listen to your uncle, but follow your heart.

Goodluck

Thank you.

Are you not worried about her speed of 'updating her profile' if she is 'really changed?'

Perhaps both parties have heavily edited the version shared with you.

How do you even fight for a 'relationship' where the second party is MIA?

DanielJones:
What is the name of the site? Let me help you call her to come back to you. E get why

I am serious o

Lounge45. She is one of the premium escorts.

Thank you.

bukatyne:
Are you not worried about her speed of 'updating her profile' if she is 'really changed?'

Perhaps both parties have heavily edited the version shared with you.

How do you even fight for a 'relationship' where the second party is MIA?

Of course I am worried. One of the reasons that got me confused if she has actually moved on. I am sure she is not looking for money. She is doing fine. Maybe she just wants to use it to hurt me. But I dont think I deserve this from her.

HubertHarold:


Of course I am worried. One of the reasons that got me confused if she has actually moved on. I am sure she is not looking for money. She is doing fine. Maybe she just wants to use it to hurt me. But I dont think I deserve this from her.

What was she looking for with your uncle? Was she not doing fine before you met her?

One of Nairaland’s made up stories of things that never happened.

Just ask your uncle to be candid with you and explain his reason behind telling you not to marry her... Let him explain where she met her and the circumstances surrounding the meeting ... all in a matured way...

Do not be hasty to tag your uncle as jealous.. hear from both sides and apply wisdom...

I think you should marry the lady, do it low-key though.You, your uncle and the lady are no saint.She will even be more loyal and faithful to you.New catch you will be meeting now will be after the front seat of that your new two flashy cars.

Everybody is just shouting you should wife her.

nobody saw the fact that she easily droped the ring and imediatly went back to the escort site and updated her problem....her mind sef no too dae the comittment sef.

i might be wrong though.

Don't marry her bro. Your decision to wed her is based on some good luck she brought you. On the off chance that you marry her and you experience some off times, will your love stand the test of time?

Both of you deserve fresh starts. N you sef start making better decisions too. Wetin carry you go the escort site sef wen you were supposed to be nursing a broken heart?

Anyways, I feel this could be an an advertisement of some sort for the escorts' site but what do I know?

Am a graduate too, I need job badly, Can you connect me?

This one that both uncle and nephew are fighting for the same cunt hmm. One of two things are likely to be the case here

1. It's either that b!tch's cunt is extra ordinarily sweet Or
2. She's very good at giving a particular style that no other b!tch can

But how on earth do people even consider marrying professional prostitutes?

I know 97% of our 9ja girls are prostitutes but at least they're not professional ones. There are levels to this thing. Even a good number of nairaland girls are prostitutes but like I said, they're not professional ones so they are manageable.

OP, do you want to marry her because she fvvks so well and brought Goodluck to you or because she's good enough?
How do you expect a professional prostitute not to fvck so well? It's her craft, she's paid to fvck, so why won't she be a good fvcker?

I always say I don't care how good your character is, if your cherry is not intact or at least broken by me, then you're a hoe.

Even if your uncle gives you the go ahead, abort that mission. When push comes to shove, your wife will fvck men to pay your children's school fees.

Me, marry a known professional prostitute? God forbid. I'm still struggling to even manage the unprofessional ones.

Meanwhile, give me a link to the site, lemme check it out

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HubertHarold:


This is not necessary. You should be more concerned about the little ones you are raising or intend to raise. Will they be the type calling people names on social media without taking time to understand their story. If we look deep down you, I am sure you are sitting on worse things that can't even be shared here.

I don't sugarcoat words.

The three met themselves on an escort site means they have the same thing in common.

He who comes with equity must come with clean hands. His uncle whose deal with his fiancee didn't go well suddenly decides to disparage her, why? What crime did she commit that he hasn't committed?

Can the uncle call a family meeting where his wife is and explain why he doesn't want the lady for his cousin. Of course he can't!

The Op and the girl deserve themselves. They should marry.

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Klass99:


I stopped reading at this point and just started laughing. Nice one

Cheap prostitute

Patron of cheap prostitute.

See the difference na