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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by katyamizotta: 3:17pm On Sep 20, 2020 |
SecretSpy666: Forgive. Speak with them from afar. They will try to strike you using their kids. 1 Like |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by mufutau55(m): 3:24pm On Sep 20, 2020 |
Abandon all of them too. |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by mex2bad: 3:31pm On Sep 20, 2020 |
Olatoman: I am quoting the above post because I agree with most of his advice to you. In addition to his advice I will say... My brother, I read your post and I can imagine how you feel. I advice that you forgive your parents not because of them but for your own good. Also try to have a relationship with your half siblings, note that they have no fault in this situation. Some will be good and you will have a beautiful and healthy healing relationship with them. For the ones that aren't good you maintain a formal arms length relationship. In all of this never forget one thing, in life only God can't fail you, don't rely on any man to make you happy. Also don't let anyone put you under any form of financial pressure or obligation. If its N1000 you can send to half siblings or parents without stress, send it and no more. Set financial and relationship goals and work to achieve them. It is natural for your people to come to you because you are progressing, hold God close, forgive all, send little gifts (if and when you can afford) and live your life. God bless and keep you. |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by Nobody: 3:36pm On Sep 20, 2020 |
Almost part my story when I lost both my Parents... This Guy is really a nice guy to even think about what to do I swear. smh... |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by val68(m): 4:27pm On Sep 20, 2020 |
Your parents are bad example of a good parents.... they should jst go and ask for forgiveness from God. You can forgive them, but be very careful with them especially when you are dealing with them. Dont let them get closer at all if not you will regret your life. Trust me you can't satisfy them no matter what you give them because they're evil parents. 1 Like |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by SaintUlot: 5:00pm On Sep 20, 2020 |
@secretspy666, see those people that claimed to be your parents as dead to you. You have been living as an orphan since all this while and it is too late for that to change now. Those your so-called parents wouldn't have remembered you if you have been consumed in your struggle. Don't let anybody coerce you to have anything to do with them, because they just want to reap where they didn't sow. Forgiving people like that will give other irresponsible parents more motivation to misbehave, with the hope that they can abandon their child and come back to reap if such child luckily make it in life by chance. God himself says you shall reap whatever you sow, please don't change that narration and don't let anybody manipulate you emotionally that they are your parents, they can't be replaced, it's a lie. Me and my family say no to Irresponsible parents. |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by SaintUlot: 5:03pm On Sep 20, 2020 |
@op if you forgive them and if things change the other way round for you unfortunately(I pray such misfortune won't befall you) They will abandon you again. |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by SecretSpy666: 5:20pm On Sep 20, 2020 |
Thank you all |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by DTutu1: 5:27pm On Sep 20, 2020 |
Well, in my own opinion you may not have gotten to this level of education and status if you were with them or any of them. You are a child of destiny which needs to scale through the difficult road to attain maturity! As for forgiveness, no one can advice you on that because I know your heart has already told you what to do. If u are still confused, pray over it and ask your fiancé about it. |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by Bianda24: 6:24pm On Sep 20, 2020 |
Oizee:Thank you very much for your prayers. May the Lord continue to uplift and favour you on every side. I agree with you when you said something about forgiveness. If one does not forgive, what can one do. I also agree with you when you said "if I am eating chicken, he will be eating ponmo". As a matter of fact, that is what I am doing. I gave him money but these are money for food. I feel he does not deserve more than that from me Like you said, many people who do not know my story always admonished that i should asdist him big time after all he is my father, but I don't give in to their emotional blackmail. I always remember vividly what my late mum went through in order to put food on the table. My dad left my mum when she was 35 years old with 4 children and she never married another man despite the fact that she was beautiful. According to her, she did not want to bear children for different men. Besides, those men might not like her children. She sacrificed a lot for us; her happiness, health and freedom and my dad was busy marrying and remarrying other women. It may interest you to know that my dad used his clout to get bursary for her step children in my state and these children are from another tribe while I couldn't secure a bursary. Time and space will not permit me to narrate the whole episode. Thank you and God bless, it is nice to know that someone understands me. |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by Sunnimuslim: 12:18am On Sep 21, 2020 |
This is almost related to what Eminem went through. He also neglected his mum when he became successful but he still help out his step siblings from their abusive mother. |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by AngelicBeing: 6:41am On Sep 21, 2020 |
mufutau55:Hian, Lol, Hajj don vex |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by mufutau55(m): 12:31pm On Sep 21, 2020 |
AngelicBeing: Nah true, my brother. We all get those kind yeyeh family. Hajji M. 2 Likes |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by Nobody: 1:24pm On Sep 21, 2020 |
Seventy7kings: Lol what Is strange here. An Occurrence that Is very common In Shiiithole...... |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by SecretSpy666: 1:51pm On Sep 21, 2020 |
Sunnimuslim:Too bad |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by Pataricatering(f): 5:59pm On Sep 21, 2020 |
SecretSpy666:di u know how many things u can use ur money for ? Investments , treasury bills , etc ! These ppl r ready to suck u dry despite no investment in ur life amd no love for u ! Do not let anybody convince I about any rubbish - not all times blood is thicker than water - these ones will not have a problem harming you just to get what they want . Be wise |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by Aimerosa25(f): 8:33am On Sep 22, 2020 |
These people don't love you, they don't care about you, what if you died or lost a finger through labouring, would they care? When you were struggling,where they there? Now that you are on your feet they want to drink garri that they didn't buy, you can choose to help your step sister, but not more than that, it is your money and you can do whatever u want, don't be moved by the fact that they are your parents that wouldn't have bothered if u died , are those parents? Don't let your fiance convince you else you may not like the outcome of things. |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by BluntNigerian: 1:04pm On Sep 23, 2020 |
SecretSpy666:This one would be difficult ooo.. You don't marry alone naa.. You must go with “family”. So, prepare your mind now, and sort out which and which people you would use as your “Family”. |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by SecretSpy666: 3:05pm On Sep 23, 2020 |
BluntNigerian:Okay. Thanks |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by Oluchia(f): 4:28pm On Sep 23, 2020 |
Jeez! This story day pain me. What kind of parents are this?? I cannot ask you to forgive them o because I'm not sure I will be able to do same if I were in your shoes. Please just follow your heart and do what will give you peace of mind. That's all I can say. |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by SecretSpy666: 9:19am On Oct 01, 2020 |
Oluchia: Okay. Thanks |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by ArcToyin(m): 2:54pm On Oct 20, 2020 |
mariahAngel:What a brilliant question? |
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by SecretSpy666: 4:02pm On Feb 03, 2023 |
Thank you all |
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