Why is that? The divorce lawyer said men tend to mature less mentally than women. Women will think, why do I marry someone? I have to take care of the children and my husband.

Yes, some marriages are shelters for men, but chains for women.

In such a marriage, women will inevitably feel tired. Wang Shengnan said more than once that she wanted to divorce because she felt that she had lived for others for most of her life and had never fought for herself

The most terrible thing about widowed marriage is that women regard family as everything, while men regard home as hotel. A person's loneliness is not terrible, what is terrible is to end up with the person who makes himself lonely.
There is a line in the movie "day face": "to get married is to lose enthusiasm in exchange for stability. After three years, the husband will only treat his wife as a refrigerator, always feel that as long as the door is opened, there will be food to eat at any time. It's very inconvenient if it's broken, but it's never maintained. "
Marriage needs to be managed by two people. If either party is slack, it is hard for you to be happy.

CHoccolaTE:


@bold


Yes marriage needs to be maintained by two people, but Nigerian women are told to "build their homes" while husbands rarely ever hear that line.

Glaciered:
These are interesting findings. I think none of these are nothing new, however. I would if you post the link to the Quora thread, as I'd like to read the constructive comments on there.

Klass99:


Hmm, Wang Shengnan sounds like some of my friends and classmates who are candid about their married lives.

AristocraticMe:
A man speaking here................................ i think the society is wrong on that............ Marriage need to be maintained by both party.

AristocraticMe:
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[b]Why is that? The divorce lawyer said men tend to mature less mentally than women. Women will think, why do I marry someone? I have to take care of the children and my husband.

KevinDein:

Stopped taking the whole article serious after reading the emboldened, lmao.

Women are absolutely not more matured than men on average. Yes, girls start maturing at an earlier age than boys and usually at a faster rate, but they plateau very early because of the overwhelming attention they get from the opposite gender. Boys start slightly later, at a slightly slower rate but for much longer.

CHoccolaTE:

Great thread,

Its much worse in Nigeria where women are expected to tolerate infidelity and laziness on the husband's part and be co breadwinner and submissive slave at the same time.

merieam16:

#Endmarriage

YourCoffin:
Na woman opinion so it won't be factual. Men prefer properties to children yet we see stories of men fighting their ex-wifes just to see their kids and women fighting their ex-husbands over properties. Case of reverse psychology.

Oga next time don't copy and paste. Show us that you at aleast went to school. Nonsense

Klass99:


Hmm, Wang Shengnan sounds like some of my friends and classmates who are candid about their married lives.

AristocraticMe:
[s]in divorce, women want children and men want property

There was a group of data that showed that 78% of men would want children in marriage, but less than 20% would want children in divorce. For many men, after all, property is more important than children. Property will increase, and children will be a burden.

A reader said that after she gave birth to the child, she was alone at home to take care of the child. Her husband often came back late and never looked after the child when he came back. Sometimes the child was crying and he felt noisy. And women's natural motherhood is always more concerned about their children.
Men always say that career and dream are important, but they don't know what women at home have undertaken for him.

They enjoy being fathers, but they don't want to take the responsibility behind them[/s]

AristocraticMe:
If you went to school and smart enough, you should know I said it is a discussion.... what is a discussion Mr Professor ? Read to understand, dont read to criticize.
Always make use of your brain

AristocraticMe:
In divorce, women want children and men want property

There was a group of data that showed that 78% of men would want children in marriage, but less than 20% would want children in divorce. For many men, after all, property is more important than children. Property will increase, and children will be a burden.

A reader said that after she gave birth to the child, she was alone at home to take care of the child. Her husband often came back late and never looked after the child when he came back. Sometimes the child was crying and he felt noisy. And women's natural motherhood is always more concerned about their children.
Men always say that career and dream are important, but they don't know what women at home have undertaken for him.

They enjoy being fathers, but they don't want to take the responsibility behind them

Klass99:


@ The bold, I don't know many marriages like what you've described here. I only know of two that fit this description.

I am surrounded by more married folks who have tension in their homes because of one thing or the other and who feel trapped in their marriages.

Even men are not left out of the complaining these days. It's in their nature to bottle things up, but, the two who have opened up are not finding it funny, either.

One person even told me to pls look well before I leap, according to her this thing (marriage) is for a lifetime, till death do you part.

So, if you go and marry a useless man that doesn't want to die or is refusing to die on time, you're in for a very long something. I just bust laugh that day.

Hathor5:
It seems that it is mostly men who need to be better prepared for marriage.