Personally I don't like doing house chores as I see it as a lady's job. If I'm providing the money and paying almost all the bills, then these little things(house chores) shouldn't be a problem for the lady I'm dating.
I decided to create this thread because I'm always having issues with my girlfriend when it comes to house work. She is complaining that I don't help her in any way at home.
This is someone that I assist at home sometimes when I deem it necessary. I wash plates, sweep the house, sometimes cook when I know she needs help.
It becomes a problem when I refuse to assist her on a daily basis. I try to make her understand the fact that for me assisting her, doesn't make it my job. The funny thing is, she always makes this statement "if its like this, then I don't think it would work between us".

I just want to know if other guys are experiencing something similar and what's the best way to resolve it

Why should you be cohabiting with a girl you aren't married to, talk more of talking about chores?

She should do her chores in her house while i do mine..

Girlfriend? As in girlfriend? I blame you not, I blame the girl for cohabiting with you.

cfree14:
Personally I don't like doing house chores as I see it as a lady's job. If I'm providing the money and paying almost all the bills, then these little things(house chores) shouldn't be a problem for the lady I'm dating.
I decided to create this thread because I'm always having issues with my girlfriend when it comes to house work. She is complaining that I don't help her in any way at home.
This is someone that I assist at home sometimes when I deem it necessary. I wash plates, sweep the house, sometimes cook when I know she needs help.
It becomes a problem when I refuse to assist her on a daily basis. I try to make her understand the fact that for me assisting her, doesn't make it my job. The funny thing is, she always makes this statement "if its like this, then I don't think it would work between us".

I just want to know if other guys are experiencing something similar and what's the best way to resolve it

The best way to resolve it is get married. Dont live with someone's daughter whom you are not married to.

Proverbs 31:3 Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.

Officialgarri:
Why should you be cohabiting with a girl you aren't married to, talk more of talking about chores?

She should do her chores in her house while i do mine..

Its funny but you need to live with a Nigerian girl to actually know who they really are. Of course this is for a girl you have a serious relationship with that might lead to marriage

Officialgarri:
Why should you be cohabiting with a girl you aren't married to, talk more of talking about chores?

She should do her chores in her house while i do mine..

You dey sell garri? As an official Buhari asslicker and deputy zombie-in-chief, you suppose dey work for FIRS or NNPC, how come dey sideline you like this? Pele.

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issokay!!!!!!

cfree14:

Its funny but you need to live with a Nigerian girl to actually know who they really are. Of course this is for a girl you have a serious relationship with that might lead to marriage

Who preached that lie to you? Most cohabiters don't end up getting married cos of see finish, and it most definitely doesn't guarantee a successful and long lasting marriage.

Fountainofyouth:
Girlfriend? As in girlfriend? I blame you not, I blame the girl for cohabiting with you.

Anty calm down. We've been dating for about 2+ yrs. I don't see anything wrong if we stay close to each other, especially if she is not being a burden. Its all part of courtship

Beyond that, it blinds you from reality. Thats where you get 'love is blind' cos you can't really know the person, its illusive. Make a paradigm shift bro

cfree14:

Anty calm down. We've been dating for about 2+ yrs. I don't see anything wrong if we stay close to each other, especially if she is not being a burden. Its all part of courtship

Everything is wrong dude, whether relationship or courtship, so far you haven't paid bride price or made it legal, it is wrong.

None. I live a traditional life, she does the chores, I go to work, can't be feeding you more than your usage to my life.

Pant washing

I don't even have one but if I had ehn,
I would gladly help in clearing her bush and eat her clit out till she screams to orgasm

Fountainofyouth:



You dey sell garri? As an official Buhari asslicker and deputy zombie-in-chief, you suppose dey work for FIRS or NNPC, how come dey sideline you like this? Pele.

Na so we see am o my dear

Bedroom chores... If you know you know

chores? with ur girlfriend? not even ur fiancé? both of u are mad

Beyond that, it blinds you from reality. Thats where you get 'love is blind' cos you can't really know the person, its illusive. Make a paradigm shift bro

I help her Service her Engine

Your past gestures or help don't count if you cannot provide the immediate help or support she needs.


First mistake, you are paying the bills and still doing house chores when she's not contributing anything to the bills.

Second mistake, you showed her that you can do house chores and she capitalized on that to manipulate you to do more of it.

Third mistake, she is giving you the sign that she wants you to be paying the bills and still be doing house chores because you must help her (entitlement) and you have totally falled for it.

lastly, instead of you to cushion her and put her in her place kitchen remember;

W= Women

E= Education

E= Ends in the

K= Kitchen


Solution


Tell her that you cannot help her do her duties since you are fulfilling yours. if she continuously Insinuate that you help her out, tell her to help you with the bills too and hear her response.



NB: She has already given you the red flag with her statement.

cfree14:
Personally I don't like doing house chores as I see it as a lady's job. If I'm providing the money and paying almost all the bills, then these little things(house chores) shouldn't be a problem for the lady I'm dating.
I decided to create this thread because I'm always having issues with my girlfriend when it comes to house work. She is complaining that I don't help her in any way at home.
This is someone that I assist at home sometimes when I deem it necessary. I wash plates, sweep the house, sometimes cook when I know she needs help.
It becomes a problem when I refuse to assist her on a daily basis. I try to make her understand the fact that for me assisting her, doesn't make it my job. The funny thing is, she always makes this statement "if its like this, then I don't think it would work between us".

I just want to know if other guys are experiencing something similar and what's the best way to resolve it

#ILMOVON
#Attitude
#Bliv


Her statement, if it is like this, then I don't think it is going to work between us" it shows that she is the one in charge.. one day she would abandon you in that relationship, the person that cares less in a relationship controls it.. I wonder why it is hard for you guys to read in between the lines and also smell the coffee ..
I am no prophet of doom, but it would end in premium Tears for you.. na just time.. but she go dump you, I use that same lines she use on you on My girlfriend, you know why, she loves me more and I love her less.. I hold the key to the Affair..

As for the chores.. I do my chores myself, I hate someone doing chores for me and I live alone, so if you are cohabiting then I got nothing to say on it..
My peace..I leave you.

Cooking because I like it. what I hate to do is washing of opts and plates.

mosdii:
Your past gestures or help don't count if you cannot provide the immediate help or support she needs.


First mistake, you are paying the bills and still doing house chores when she's not contributing anything to the bills.

Second mistake, you showed her that you can do house chores and she capitalized on that to manipulate you to do more of it.

Third mistake, she is giving you the sign that she wants you to be paying the bills and still be doing house chores because you must help her (entitlement) and you have totally falled for it.

lastly, instead of you to cushion her and put her in her place kitchen remember;

W= Women

E= Education

E= Ends in the

K= Kitchen


Solution


Tell her that you cannot help her do her duties since you are fulfilling yours. if she continuously Insinuate that you help her out, tell her to help you with the bills too and hear her response.



NB: She has already given you the red flag with her statement.

I appreciate u taking out time to look into my situation man. By d way, she is actually a good person, I don't know who has been giving her advice lately

When I was staying with my dude
Whenever the babe comes to visit us
She sweep the floor and she cooks but we help in the kitchen also.


Yes the maintenance of the house is for the ladies but since you don't have kids yet
You should help somehow
If she's sweeping,you can help with the dishes and if she's cooking you can stay with her and help her in picking whatever she needs.
No Go date girls wey no fit take care of house or cook ooo.

Also it's stupid when you think a girl should not do chores in her boyfriend's apartment because they are not married but you feel it is appropriate for the boyfriend to give her money and take care of some of her needs.
Na placenta dey ur head no be brain
If u dey reason like that.

cfree14:

I appreciate u taking out time to look into my situation man. By d way, she is actually a good person, I don't know who has been giving her advice lately

You don't know a woman until you marry her.

Nobody is good even Jesus Christ said there's only one that is good and that is his father in heaven.

She has given you the signal, stand your ground and correct your mistakes or bounce.

cfree14:
Personally I don't like doing house chores as I see it as a lady's job. If I'm providing the money and paying almost all the bills, then these little things(house chores) shouldn't be a problem for the lady I'm dating.
I decided to create this thread because I'm always having issues with my girlfriend when it comes to house work. She is complaining that I don't help her in any way at home.
This is someone that I assist at home sometimes when I deem it necessary. I wash plates, sweep the house, sometimes cook when I know she needs help.
It becomes a problem when I refuse to assist her on a daily basis. I try to make her understand the fact that for me assisting her, doesn't make it my job. The funny thing is, she always makes this statement "if its like this, then I don't think it would work between us".

I just want to know if other guys are experiencing something similar and what's the best way to resolve it

Why is she in your house everyday ?
Even a fiancée shouldn't be in my house everyday
See finish will enter body the equation


@ the bolded

If any Lady am dating says such to me
I will just tell her to go to her house ..

You must be a complete idioot to think that cohabitation is something to be proud of. What a wasted spermmm