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Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by dprincedej(m): 12:09pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
I've read too many stories online and heard too many in real life of men enabling women by being their financial providers. How did you all get here ? How can you try to date a woman and not even going steady yet and she is asking you for money? How do you not know that you are being used ? Money for what? Transportation ? There are so many hard working women out there so I don't understand how we men would go for the one that can not even afford transport fare. Had she not been using data before meeting you? Has she not been eating before meeting you? Some would go to the extent of asking you for her school fees. How can you not know that they are in it only for survival or convenience? You can never find true love if you date women that depend on you for survival. Is she not even ashamed to ask? If she wants money in exchange for a relationship then let her admit that she is a runs girl or prostitute and not a lady in love. Dont get me wrong. You can take a real woman out and spend lavishly on her or buy her expensive gifts of she deserves it but not that she feels entitled. Some even ask men to help pay the house rent of their parents and the guy would be blackmailed into feeling less of a man because he can't pay all. Some and up marrying women that their whole family are leeches. Imagine a woman imposing it on a man that he would but I pay for the attire that her parents would wear on their wedding day. Be upset with the man that he can not give her brother a tangible amount to start business with. Are you all so daft that you don't know your own self worth ? Are women that scarce ? They are not scarce, it is even working class men that are scarce compared to women. One of my friends was so worried that his mother in law visited and would be going back soon and had not enough money to give her. How would a mother in law come empty handed to visit her daughter that is unemployed and stay for months ? Don't get me wrong please but we must all know what is expected of us. I can not even visit an older uncle empty handed without taking something for his wife or kids. A man should never date a jobless woman let alone marry one. If she is so good, she would find a source of income and if her family is in their right senses, they would encourage their daughter to have a source of income and not depend on any man. It is not a taboo for a woman to build a house for her parents or cough up money to support her younger siblings endeavours. If you have been saying while students and been through a lot together, that is different from a stranger and another stranger in the adult world of relationship dynamics. If you date a woman who depends on you for money, she would surely cheat on you because it is a means for survival. If you give her a lot of money and she cooks a good meal for you then it is a marketing strategy and not love per se. How would I be saying a girl and I can't expect to eat a meal at her house unless I give her money first? It doesn't make sense to me. Don't get me wrong. If she is broke at a point or not, you may give her airtime as a feature but never as a duty. You can support her projects of she has a viable one. You can do many things to show love but all as a gesture and never as a duty. If she is in a tight situation, you can help if you have been through thick and thin and not that she expects dating equals to being her parent even as an adult. The day an asks for 2k urgently or money for hair just know you are being played. Before the stupid ladies start bashing me first tell me if you know any successful or powerful lady that asks for money from her man. Is there any of your mentors that asks a man for money or doesn't have theirs. Some women are so shallow that they expect you to pay their shop rent .Do they even understand business at all ? You but then a car and they expect you to fuel it. I don't blame them but I blame the gullible brainwashed guys that bought an unproductive woman a car. They would marry a housewife and still pay for her maid. I reject this for myself and all men. I have been married twice and no instance did I marry a liability. Even if a guy asks a babe for money, he is using her except if they have genuinely been through shit together. Did her family not ask where she is getting the money? When they know she has no job? And that I the family that you want to marry as a man ? You feel big because you give her money for everything is a fake feeling. You have been brainwashed by women to suit their needs and if you for your child's would suffer and your property would be sold. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by Freelane33(m): 12:11pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
Overpriced stick 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by doggedfighter(f): 12:11pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
Another thread where boys cry 3 Likes |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by Shortyy(f): 12:17pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
Stupîd thread. I thought you people agree with ubunja or whoever that women shouldn't work but depend on you lots for financial help? Ehn. That's what they're doing na. So stop complaining and enjoy the femininity of women. (Please if you don't understand sarcasm, don't quote me) 2 Likes |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by Barmmi(m): 12:22pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
Another red redpill for guys 1 Like |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by Sundrus: 12:23pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
Na the pussymonger men i blame oh. U think say most of these girls no know who be maga & who no be maga. If u be guy & u get better principles, u no go ever fall for such cheap girls. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by JasperVII(m): 1:12pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
Some ladies will not like this 1 Like |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by Nobody: 2:14pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
Paragraph/Space your write up. 1 Like |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by JONNYSPUTE(m): 2:26pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
...Nice piece. 4 Likes |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by tobechi74: 3:12pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
Entitlement mentality |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by Fvcknames: 4:46pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
Shortyy:I get you, but you should understand that men (and women likewise) would always have differing opinions. Just 'cause a group of guys said so doesn't mean another guy can't open a thread with a different opinion. 1 Like |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by Powerfly(f): 6:01pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
If i read this long epistle.. Let me turn straight tommorow morning. 1 Like |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by LEKKITOLLGATE(f): 6:05pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
. Op,you must be a real broke assss niggar.... No real assss niggar with a legit and tangible means of income would even take this advice of yours serious...so long she's an understandable type of woman and has also stood with her man countless of times when his life was stormy. 1 Like |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by fati2001(m): 7:55pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
uo knho I can't fit reed... |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by jelel6: 9:39pm On Nov 15, 2020 |
That is the longest paragraph I've ever seen written. |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by Mide3367: 2:09am On Nov 16, 2020 |
See them virgina people have the most comment here... They can't change Lai Lai. |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by AnonymousIQ: 4:34am On Nov 16, 2020 |
I feel the expression behind this touching words and the burning mind of which they spill from but what I like most in it is the excessive use of "don't get me wrong Bro, you've been heard by all. 1 Like |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by 1beat(m): 5:04am On Nov 16, 2020 |
very correct |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by Originalsly: 5:53am On Nov 16, 2020 |
Sundrus: Exactly what he is saying.... such men need to look in the mirror and stop blaming women. |
Re: Guys, We Need To Stop Enabling Women. by DaInferno(m): 7:17am On Nov 16, 2020 |
in essence, a mans money is should be a + and not your own as well. Hustle! because thesame way youths got tired and protested to the government is the same way most men are getting tired of excess. this is a hard pull to digest I must say! |
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