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Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by Gamesmart: 11:23pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
WeRblessed: Don't help anyone that has more than 2 children except you know he used to be a millionaire and lost everything. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by Royalfurnitures: 11:23pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
That's only possible in southern part of Nigeria, in the north they will read religious meanings into it even say they want the reduce the population of the north for political purposes Your home is incomplete without good quality furniture thats why we are here for you 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by simplesearch: 11:24pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
tunjilee003: Meaning he's not idle, then there is not much to worry about if he choses to marry. Provided he gets someone who is also actively engaged doing something meaningful to support the home then they are good to go. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by Effizist(m): 11:25pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
Asin eh,it just pisses me off,you know you can't cater very well for your family yet you would be giving birth to kids... bringing kids to suffer, it's really appalling,govt should try and regulate this issue pls cause it's really an eyesore seeing young kids out on the streets begging for alms when all this could have been avoided if the parents were wise enough |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by Princewill1(m): 11:28pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
My wish has always been to have just two kids. Be it male,female or mixed. Humans abound while resources are scarce. You need a whole lot of scarce resources to comfortably carter for an individual from birth to adulthood and even beyond. When you have a lot of people to carter, where will the resources come from? Depopulation and birth regulations will help fix Africa and order third countries. 1 Like |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by merits(m): 11:31pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
Hnmmmn if I hear that again.ehn.
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Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by squarelead(m): 11:33pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
LastProphet: Hmmm, you are talking in the wisdom . Thumbs up bro. That contribution part got me. To be candid , what's my contribution to humanity . I need to think too and take neccesary steps and action. No jokes to be candid 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by Gamesmart: 11:35pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
EdoFirstBorn: Una head correct well well! 6th child? Baaaastard! 5 Likes |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by hush15: 11:37pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
Seerade029: I disagree. Before he met the man, many would have advised him such. Its simple. Have frank talk with the guy that he can't nor you can continue like this. He had better get a job or he learn a trade. Don't commit any money till you see and is convinced that he is making an honest effort. Things are hard but people use that as an excuse to get lazy. Before you know it, after giving him such amounts, he thinks you in excess and then begin to grow more sinister plans. After frank talks and still observe its just an habit to be pushing his worries on other, I recommend you begin to keep your distance. Now, its not I don't encourage helping others cos I really do but never forget to be as wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove. Humans can be very wicked. Give help but give it wisely 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by walex2(m): 11:38pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
Deathissweet:advise him sometimes unexpected happened, he might not plan it that way. But you with all the neccesity, when are you going to marry or you want to be fifty and your kids will still be in pry 5 |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by simplesearch: 11:42pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
humilitypays: But OP wasn't talking about Christian's, and are they even that guilty of this? I think you should know that Pastors don't force anyone into marriage who is unwilling to do so. Sometimes you see a lot of people who have done all they could to be comfortable before marrying but aren't just having it easy, and the lady too is saying let's go ahead time is not on our side, I believe it will turn out well, what do you want the pastor to do in such situation? Refuse their request and allow them burn with lust or get into fornication. If you are ever in that position at anytime that's when you'll know it's not an easy thing to be a pastor. 1 Like |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by Gamesmart: 11:48pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
Eluala: Your head correct. I work to take care of my needs and plan for my future. Not to help some other fooool raise the kids he had when he knew he could not take care of them. Anyone living in Lagos that does not earn more than N700K a month should not have more than 2 kids except the second birth was accidentally twins or the first was triplets. 5 Likes |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by PresidentJosh20(m): 11:48pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
Tony142:Boss,I think you should swallow your pride and apologise for the insult to him.He was not aware that the man in question is a womanizer.Let be civil in our speeches. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by wonder233: 11:50pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
I agree with this post 100%. Most Nigerians even psychologically think having kids automatically makes them entitled to alms... They are begging, but they are not begging. There is this warped mentality about producing kids in this country. When you see them begging (and feeling entitled), you would think kids are some form of inevitable occurrence like health conditions or something that one has no control over. I long stopped having any form of sympathy for anyone begging in the name of having kids. I have functional reproductive organs like you, but I'm not having kids I can't cater for just for the bragging rights of having kids. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by calcal: 11:55pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
Bola146: Woman, stop defending rubbish, too many children no good. 3 already many. if you think you can take care of them, you are simply fooling yourself. Learning trade (kapenta, birikila, weda, Barbar etc) not a solution for those with many children. many will not make enough money to take care of them. Even if you are a medical doctor, you can take care of 3 children easily without stealing drugs to sell 1 Like |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by omoadeleye(m): 11:55pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
Seerade029: You get wisdom na, you sabi talk na. Mr. Solomon |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by muller101(m): 11:56pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
Bola146:Instead of you to stay on the topic you had to drag NL guys into it. Getting excited like a circuit connected in series. |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by pocohantas(f): 12:00am On Dec 01, 2020 |
The only time Nigerian men remember that marriage requires planning and shouldn’t be rushed into is when a man is under pressure. When a man is being drained financially in marriage, which also happens to singles anyway. Put that aside and they won’t let single ladies rest. Screaming evening newspaper like hungry goats, as if everyone must marry and have kids. No pity from here. I don’t give them, one of their bros should help them out. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by Gamesmart: 12:01am On Dec 01, 2020 |
wonder233: Your head correct! 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by deavicky(m): 12:08am On Dec 01, 2020 |
Deathissweet:in times like this, what do personally is to thank God for giving something to give to others. |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by Vicas2000: 12:08am On Dec 01, 2020 |
Bringing the children to your house is a form of emotional blackmail. In hindsight, you should just go into your house and get some of your raw food e.g. 1 cup of rice and give it to him. When you do that, he wont be able to say no to it. Trust me, he used those kids to collect money from you. Those kids are not actually hungry. The money won't even go into feeding the kids. There is a significant number of Nigerians that will "begi begi" just to collect money from you. THey believe they are entitled to your money and they even castigate you when you don't share it like you are doing wrong. It's the brainwashing through cultural and religious lenses. Don't fall for it. Learn to tell people you are broke. and stick with it. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by Uniique(m): 12:09am On Dec 01, 2020 |
zed7: .very crazy idea i tell u |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by cooltola(m): 12:10am On Dec 01, 2020 |
Principle of giving 1, Give Ceasar to what belongs to Ceasar and to God what belong to God 2. Give God your best and your first fruit. 3. When you give to God, give cheerfully with thanks. 4. Give what you have according to your heart and do not give what you do not have. 5. Do not make promises that you cannot keep. If you do not have ,simply say tell them no without giving an explanation. 6. For married folks or guys with family,take care of your family first before taking care of other. 7. If you cannot give your mum 100k whom you love dearly, then do not same for woman except your wife. |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by medolab90(m): 12:17am On Dec 01, 2020 |
Thus should be directed more to the North. A lot has to be done in that region to reduce the population growth of this country,our population is increasing while growth is negative. To me, I think the government has to invest more into education and human development(especially in the Northern part) .Those two things are critical in the individual aspect of population reduction. 1 Like |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by eagleu: 12:24am On Dec 01, 2020 |
OP. Do yourself a favor, go read a book on population control throughout the ages, and you will see how educated you will become. |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by bluefilm: 12:24am On Dec 01, 2020 |
Deathissweet: You dey kind o. If na me, I no go even waste any time to let am know say me I get enough financial wahala myself. People just how to use other people once you show them say you are considerate. I will advise you to man up and get the courage to tell him NO because before you know it, you don get another extended family be dat o. Nonsense. ![]() 7 Likes |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by Sagay212: 12:25am On Dec 01, 2020 |
A lot of Nigerians are foo.lishly stubborn . When you give them very important advise like this, they'll always find senseless points to defend their foolish.ness. You earn less than 100k that is not even enough for you alone to survive properly on. You live alone and manage all your life because of the small money your are earning, heck! You can't even by some certain food you wish to eat because you have to save and deny yourself so much, yet you will foo.lishly go and marry and want to have kids with the hope that things will get better and you will manage. If what you earn is not enough for you to spend, how can it be enough for 2, let alone 3. No be by force to marry and if you insist then marry a partner who is very okay financially so you don't continue to live a sad, dejected and frustrated life. The way some id.iots use frustration to beat their little children ehn, fear go catch you. You see a woman carrying a baby on her back and dragging other two little children at the bustop struggling to get bus. Which kind self inflicted suffer head be that. 4 Likes |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by Gerrard59(m): 12:34am On Dec 01, 2020 |
https://www.nairaland.com/3450586/poor-un-intelligent-people-should-not Four years ago, I created a similar thread above. Recently, I also did another one but under a different topic: https://www.nairaland.com/6035550/nigerians-poverty-certain-acts-perpetuate Unfortunately, as it's in Nigeria, the government cannot dictate how many children people should procreate (Nigeria is largely a lawless place, different cultures and the popularity of religion). The only thing that can reduce child birth is consistent and high economic growth which will create lots of jobs. Other than extremely religious persons, only an indolent person stays to willingly populate everywhere. Consistent economic growth did it in Brazil, Bangaldesh, Malaysia, Vietnam etc. Sub-Saharan Africa needs same. Lastly, offer your neighbour the option of sponsoring a vasectomy operation. If he refuses, stop giving him money even if he wants to die. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by osusuallstars: 12:35am On Dec 01, 2020 |
This mans case is even small sef, Go to the core north and see a 35-45 years unemployed ,illiterate, and no meaningful means of livelihood with 15-27 children Why do we have almajiri?, book haram and bandits I remember one sani with 27 children from 4 wives. He will always quote what Qur'an said " marry and born as many as you can so that I will be proud of you on judgment day.... |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by Originalsly: 12:36am On Dec 01, 2020 |
Womanizer: Bro.... you are sooo on point with this..... and from the other angle we must help those who ask... regardless of how or why or even if they really need help. @ Op..... just meditate on the above comment.... then look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are supporting it or trying to change his ways or situation. The fact that you know he is a womanizer should tell you that he is using his kids to suppport his lifestyle. Bear with me..... I'm out of sugar coating .... bro..... as a guy... why would you allow another guy to control you as if you're a babe? ... as in the guy taking your money from your car in your presence?... seems to me at this point you can't tell him no period. You can take the horse to the water but you can't make him drink..... that guy has no intentions of earning a living. Man up.... cut all ties. |
Re: Married Men Asking Single Guys For Help. by Wolexzy22: 12:43am On Dec 01, 2020 |
nairaland please I need a job help me 1 Like 1 Share |
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