Yes, you read that right, premarital sex is ruining the marriage institution and if we don't make amends, things will get worse!

Daily, I read countless lamentations from ladies who are of marriageable ages but unable to find suitors. It's not unexpected because, seeing the rate at which unmarried folks have sex these days, when you enjoy the proceeds of marriage freely, why then will marriage mean anything?

Those days when our mothers were growing up, there were hardly ladies of marriageable age that remained single, yes, that should be partly because sexual immorality was not this prevalent. Then, if you want to enjoy sex as a man, you must marry, one..two..three women, it doesn't matter but you must marry them first!

You see, God isn't stupid for detesting fornication so much, he's omniscience, he knows it'll get to a time like this when men will no longer be interested in marriage cause they're getting sex easily. Let's keep the perspective of religion aside and look at logic, if you were paying to purchase a particular "product" and suddenly, it becomes free, would you still consider paying when you can acquire same "product" at no cost? Absolutely NO.

Know this, those guys giving you reasons like they don't want to settle down because: they're alpha males and want only baby mammas, bad economy, can't keep to one pussy etc, if they weren't getting free sex, if they only get sex in marriage, you won't hear such trash. Yes, men love sex and if marriage was the only requirement to getting sex, 95% will satisfy this requirement.

Ladies, be wise! I know we might have made mistakes in the past but it's time to think think think!

Stop dashing men your body except you're 100% certain they'll marry you, but, since having such percentage certainty is impossible, preserve yourself for who deserves you.

Stop doing "giveaways" with that body. They'll sleep with you but come here to slut-sham and single-sham you when you are not married at 30. How many times do you see ladies slut-sham or single-sam-men? We aren't same, stop comparing.

An Igbo adage would say jiri ire gi guo eze gi onu, which literally means count your teeth with your tongue If you keep lamenting on why men aren't marrying you but you keep sleeping around, you're doing yourself a disservice because they're enjoying the proceeds of marriage freely, so, marriage wouldn't make sense to them anymore.

My humble opinion

Lalasticlala
Mynd44

In those days men marries only virgines.

I have heard a storey of how women use to check if girls are still virgines befor recommending them to a male suitor.


As you rightly stated, God have a geniun reason for ristricting sex to husband and wife.

Descortes and his cohorts will not listen

Zzor:
Descor.tes and his cohorts will not listen

honey.. how much is your bride price? I will do anything to have you








Clown
swerve jare

Descortes:
honey.. how much is your bride price? I will do anything to have you








Clown
swerve jare

keep being a small boy

Loud it Op. Loud it on a high cymbal.
If only our girls will listen.

I'm looking for an Igbo virgin to settle down with, I doubt if I can find any.

Why will you lot not stay single for long. Marry on time and save your future husband the body counts but no.

You want to live a 21st century life. Have all the fun that comes with being single and when the day is getting to twilight, you will be crying for husband.

You want to eat your cake and have it.

I'm not against sexual chastity..... But I will always test my goods before buying them.


I can't marry a woman whose sexual orientation, fantasies and libido I do not know

In other words, women should stop enjoying themselves because you think that women have nothing else to offer for men to marry them than vaginity.

What sort of fuckery is this?


Do you think those girls having sex and getting fuçked daily don't enjoy it? In this age, you cannot tell a guy to spend so much to marry you just so you can give him sex on the wedding night when he can get it elsewhere for almost free.


You should work on yourself if all you can offer a man is sex, when a man sees a lot to benefit from you asides sex, he'll want to be with you for a very long time



Peace

khingTony:
What sort of fuckery is this?


Do you think those girls having sex and getting fuçked daily don't enjoy it? In this age, you cannot tell a guy to spend so much to marry you just so you can give him sex on the wedding night when he can get it elsewhere for almost free.

That's the problem she has hence her wanting other ladies to stop enjoying sex, which is quite funny if you ask me.

You should work on yourself if all you can offer a man is sex, when a man sees a lot to benefit from you asides sex, he'll want to be with you for a very long time



Peace

Thank you. My thoughts exactly. It's hard to believe someone would think they need sex to lure a man into marriage. Like they have no value on their own and like there isn't more to marriage than sex.

Marriage is not for everyone
What’s Wrong With Sex?
Is there anything wrong with two people coming together and just having sex — for fun — without first having an emotionally intimate relationship (assuming safe sex is practiced of course)?

I was raised to believe the answer to this is yes, that there is something wrong with it.

As a sophomore in high school, I had to write a school paper on why premarital sex was wrong. I did the assignment and regurgitated what I needed to get an A.

Privately I had doubts about what I was taught. And of course I went ahead and had premarital sex anyway, which turned out to be a lot of fun with no guilt or regret.

Looking back, I think I would have preferred to get an F on that assignment and had more fun instead. �

Today I see absolutely nothing wrong with having sex just for fun, as long as it’s done safely and consensually. I think those who feel that sex is wrong, dirty, or immoral are terribly repressed. I’ve never met a genuinely happy person that felt this way about sex. Perhaps if such people just got laid more often, they wouldn’t be so grumpy.

Prerequisites for Sex
What prerequisites do we actually need to engage in sex? A willing partner is really all that’s required. If you have a willing partner, you can have sex.

Serious rocket science here, eh?

Just to be clear, let’s assume your body and your partner’s body are physically capable of having sex as well.

All other rules, constraints, and requirements arise from social conditioning and are therefore unnecessary.

You don’t need to be married or in a committed relationship.

You don’t need to be dating.

You don’t need to be in love.

You don’t need an opposite-sex partner.

You don’t need to be exclusive with your partner.

Your partner doesn’t need to be exclusive with you.

You don’t need to be programmed in multiple techniques.

You don’t even need to have met the other person first.

All you need is consent.

Technically speaking, even your partner’s consent is a socially conditioned prerequisite, but I think it’s one we should maintain. The alternative is illegal, unethical, and hurtful. We can certainly enjoy sex without resorting to rape. Acting out your kinky fantasies, on the other hand, can still be completely consensual.

How many extra rules do you have in your head about what’s required for you to have sex above and beyond the most basic?

How are those rules working for you? Are you delighted with the results they’re producing?

Do your rules make it easy for you to enjoy the sexual experiences you desire? Or are they simply getting in the way and blocking you?

Do you realize that you have the freedom to choose the rules you want to keep as well as those you’d rather dump?

I’m not suggesting that you need to lower your standards to the absolute minimum. I’m simply suggesting that you take a good, conscious look at your current rules and requirements for having sex, and consider whether they’re helping you or hurting you.

Personally I have pretty high standards for when I will and won’t have sex. These standards, however, are ones I’ve chosen because I’m happy with them. I don’t maintain standards just because everyone else feels they’re proper and necessary.

Pavlina



Let go of unnecessary sex rules that don’t serve you. You decide what’s really important to you, and drop the rest.

https://tobechispeaks./2020/09/04/sex-and-marriage-are-not-government-buissness/

Started out like they were going to say something sensible only to end up with the usual vagina policing.

Edit your topic. “Premarital sex amongst women is ruining the marriage institution”. Because you don’t have a problem with premarital sex. You only have a problem when it’s women doing it.

I’m sure you think the men who do it are doing it with men only.

Vagina police

PuZZyNegro:
Why will you lot not stay single for long. Marry on time and save your future husband the body counts but no.

You want to live a 21st century life. Have all the fun that comes with being single and when the day is getting to twilight, you will be crying for husband.

You want to eat your cake and have it.

Marriage is just a construct. Not everyone takes it seriously.