Nigerians in UK are stingy abi? go to UK and work and send yourself money, i don't no why some people in Nigeria feel that in UK (overseas )there is gold/money on the street to pick, why don't the person that made this statement go and work hard and stop thinking on depending on other or constituting a leach to others, this nor be question i suppose answer self, i am out

whAtever

It's quite preposterous to say Nigerians in the UK are tight handed, atleast from my personal perspective. When I arrived here, I wanted to do everything, I was eager to start sending money home, sort my studies, etc, etc. But my bro and sis, it wasn't long before reality kicked in.

To start with, my College kept demanding their money on a regular basis, my rent was killing me, my landlord expected his money as at when due and then my friends were rightly calling and expecting things too, yet here is a guy who hasn't been able to sort himself.

Although I understand the expectations of folks in Nigeria, I probably would act like them but if you don't live out here you wouldn't understand the frustration of guys here.  It got to a point I stopped calling and accepting calls from Nigeria but I later made a move call my friends explain my situation to them. Few of them co-operated while others didn't but then I have satisfy my conscience!

Everything you do here is taxed, your house rent is astronomical, phone bills, television licence, Sky/Virgin, cable phone not to mention energy bills like gas and electricity! All these items listed are necessities not luxury. It's either you pay for these service as at when due or you go without! If you drive you MUST have you car taxed, insured and MOTd. if you try to evade any of these, you get yourself in trouble bec either you like it or not the law will surely caught up with you.

I think what Nigerians home and abroad need is understanding. Those guys practising dubiously businesses in the west have painted a wrong picture to those back in Nigeria but those working and sweating should start explaining to those back home what their real situations is instead of pretending to be rich. 

Standard of living UK might be higher than Nigeria's or indeed Africa but the cost of living is so HIGH! This is what folks back home should plz put into consideration.

u think say its easy?make somebody dey inside cold dey work make u dey naija dey expect $$$$,

Funny thread

so we all know in and out ,and what will be the solution ,let us learn how to solve the problem and stop argueing

lol, i knew some1 somewer somday wuld put up dis thread,

i think the word you are looking for is conservative. UK is a country where people who have money to buy a ferari would rather buy a GOLF. Why?? because  of TAX. nothing is free. you buy a car be ready to pay half the price of it for insurance. Infact it applies with everything. Nigerians by our nature are show offs. we buy what we dont need just to get people talking about us. So to give an answer to your question, i dont think think nigerians in uk are stingy, i think it is the nigerians at home who are too demanding asking and expecting things they can really do without.

Really I don't think Nigerians in UK are stingy, i will share my experience, I grew up all my life in the UK, but went to secondary school for 2 yrs and obviosuly makes friends.
I came back to the UK after my secondary school, and i do speak to may be 3 close friends in nigeria, one of them decide to ring me out of the blue saying oh she has a problem that after school shedidnt get into university and she started this buying and selling business, but she needs some fund for me to help her and she will pay be back, and she demand for £2000 and I was like damn girl dats a lot to cough out.

But me being so naive, i said i will borrow her £1000 from my savings. and she said she will return it in 7 months time. since 2004 that i borrowed this girl my money i tried calling her one what she said was, oh is it because of £1000 thats why im ringing her, that afterall i didnt give her all she ask for, that she will give me back when she have it. since then its been 5yrs now, i havnt spoken to this girl and she even change her number.
now tell how i can give people money.

I went oh holiday in april to nigeria, cousins i havent seen before started calling my parent to speak to me demanding Gucci bag, jimmi choo, balenciaga, even me i don't have a jimmi choo not to talk of balenciaga.

i think naija folks in nigeria need to use common sense and even in nigeria im sure not all of them are generous. UK is really expensive, bills here and there to pay for, working hard. even white people complain, not to now talk of a nigerian who is here to work. is not about being a slave, its all about no one is prepared to give money just to anyone else, cos the more you give, the more they ask.

olu0:

Really I don't think Nigerians in UK are stingy, i will share my experience, I grew up all my life in the UK, but went to secondary school for 2 yrs and obviosuly makes friends.
I came back to the UK after my secondary school, and i do speak to may be 3 close friends in nigeria, one of them decide to ring me out of the blue saying oh she has a problem that after school shedidnt get into university and she started this buying and selling business, but she needs some fund for me to help her and she will pay be back, and she demand for £2000 and I was like damn girl dats a lot to cough out.

But me being so naive, i said i will borrow her £1000 from my savings. and she said she will return it in 7 months time. since 2004 that i borrowed this girl my money i tried calling her one what she said was, oh is it because of £1000 thats why im ringing her, that afterall i didnt give her all she ask for, that she will give me back when she have it. since then its been 5yrs now, i havnt spoken to this girl and she even change her number.
now tell how i can give people money.

I went oh holiday in april to nigeria, cousins i havent seen before started calling my parent to speak to me demanding Gucci bag, jimmi choo, balenciaga, even me i don't have a jimmi choo not to talk of balenciaga.

i think naija folks in nigeria need to use common sense and even in nigeria im sure not all of them are generous. UK is really expensive, bills here and there to pay for, working hard. even white people complain, not to now talk of a nigerian who is here to work. is not about being a slave, its all about no one is prepared to give money just to anyone else, cos the more you give, the more they ask.

Well Said!
My fellow nigerian colleague at work (we r not too close) asked me to loan her some amount of money, that she will return it at the month's end. I gave her half of what she needed because i know surviving in the uk if one gets broke is difficult (one is strictly on his own OYO).
Since then, shes been avoiding me.

Trust me, Uk nor know friend, i went to meet her and politely asked for my money, haaa na him story begin, pls dont be angry bla bla bla, i will pay you next month, i told her that  i could have loaned her the full amount she wanted but i intentionally gave her half of what she wanted; to see how she will respond and she failed! I joked about the situation and we laughed. . .

Since then shes been avoiding me. You can imagine. Next month don reach again, If  at the end of this month,  she doesnt pay up; na everyone for office go no know she say borrow money way she nor wan return. (I nor kuku send am, make friendship scatter!)

What will have happened if i didnt have enough to pay up my bills? Will i call BT or Council and tell dem stories?
Please tell me why i wouldnt be stingy again?      

Imagine giving someone 40k just literrally 2 months ago and all of a sudden your fone rings again and the story this time is, "i just had a baby and i don't have money for the ceremony".

I for one couldn't care less if labelled stingy

@busybody
ao u dey?

busybody20:

Well Said!
[size=14 pt](I nor kuku send am, make friendship scatter!) [/size]

Make Friendship Dabaru         

jay bee:


Imagine giving someone 40k just literrally 2 months ago and all of a sudden your fone rings again and the story this time is, "i just had a baby and i don't have money for the ceremony".

I for one couldn't care less if labelled stingy

looool,

Thats just the mentality of Nigerians living in Naija, when you travel abroad, they think you are there to pack money! Even me as a student, they still task me, boy how far now, send me money, this one too send me Gucci, Nike, ! u dey match boys face! bla bla bla! wetin?

I have to tell them hey I'm a student like you but they don't wanna listen.

Note: You can't satisfy everybody at the same time! Just do your best and leave the rest.

Abroad no easy!! They don't pick money there esp.,  this UK!!! I pity folks living there Too much of Tax!! So annoying 

I heard the govt. deduct 30% out of your salary in the UK. Na True 

lets say the truth O

9jas for UK (particularly) are toooooo stingy. For some of dem, e go just be like say d minite wey dey board that plane, dem carry their 9ja GOD-given head exchange with another,

Even when U sef come travel, dem see U - na forming dem go dey form for U (wey una both start together)

stupid poster, the question is are you calling the people in UK everytime if not to make demand after demand? Now that you've over-demanded they are avoiding you, u come dey complain. How come you forgot to mention the times those "stingy" people sent money to you?

Faakay and all the others posting in this thread, aren’t we not all hypocrites. Which one of you can honestly say that when you were in Nigeria you did not exhibit those characteristics you are prescribing to our brothers? That is making unrealistic demands of our parents or relatives abroad. Now that the shoe is on the other foot we now see fit to abuse our Nigerian brothers.

We should be blaming our relatives and parents who first entered these shores. They should have been honest from the start about how hard it is to work for a living in England/America rather than giving our people unrealistic expectations and fooling our people’s heads with lies about the grandeur of being abroad.

The mother of a friend of mine often travelled home with lots on money. She does not work; her children give her the money to travel. One time she went with £20k for six weeks holidays. She ran out of money within three weeks. The funny thing was that as soon as she ran out of money, and none was forthcoming after she rang her children in England, she jumped on a plane and hightailed back to her wonderful England.

Then when back in England, the phone calls from Nigeria followed with every Tom, Johnny and Harry begging her for money and who can fault them.


Incidentally, it appears a common perception among people in African, Asia, South America, and Caribbean, if they have relatives in England and America, that the English ones are stingier by comparison to American ones.

Liedetect:

Faakay and all the others posting in this thread, aren’t we not all hypocrites. Which one of you can honestly say that when you were in Nigeria you did not exhibit those characteristics you are prescribing to our brothers? That is making unrealistic demands of our parents or relatives abroad. Now that the shoe is on the other foot we now see fit to abuse our Nigerian brothers.

We should be blaming our relatives and parents who first entered these shores. They should have been honest from the start about how hard it is to work for a living in England/America rather than giving our people unrealistic expectations and fooling our people’s heads with lies about the grandeur of being abroad.

The mother of a friend of mine often travelled home with lots on money. She does not work; her children give her the money to travel. One time she went with £20k for six weeks holidays. She ran out of money within three weeks. The funny thing was that as soon as she ran out of money, and none was forthcoming after she rang her children in England, she jumped on a plane and hightailed back to her wonderful England.

Then when back in England, the phone calls from Nigeria followed with every Tom, Johnny and Harry begging her for money and who can fault them.


Incidentally, it appears a common perception among people in African, Asia, South America, and Caribbean, if they have relatives in England and America, that the English ones are stingier by comparison to American ones.

Please count me out. Those I know, I have never demanded anything from them cos I know money don't grow on trees 

They are protecting their interest, before una go begin demand dem to go looth banks for una

People works so hard for their money and it is only normal for them to keep it and use it for something that makes sense and not just give it to every tom, dick and harriet.
People in nigeria are even living better than most in UK or abroad

thithi:

People works so hard for their money and it is only normal for them to keep it and use it for something that makes sense and not just give it to every tom, privates and harriet.
People in nigeria are even living better than most in UK or abroad

What is your definition of a 'better life'??
A better life for me is a life of comfort with basic amenities of life, electricity, water, health care, good transport systems etc
A life where I have the ability to meet most of my needs and still have some to save.( it's rare to have emergencies, I can plan)
A life where I don't have to derive an heart attack from the state of the nation and the greed of it's leaders. (Different negative stories everyday)
A life where my hardwork would lead to success and not via connection 'man know man'
A life where I don't have to sleep with one eye wide awake.
A life where i dont have to worry about accidental discharge from the police
A life where I don't have to spend countless hours of my time in traffic with fear of being attacked my hoodlums and robbers.
I could go on and on


I would rather live on the little I have here with peace of mind.

Money is not everything.

aysometin:

What is your definition of a 'better life'??
A better life for me is a life of comfort with basic amenities of life, electricity, water, health care, good transport systems etc
A life where I have the ability to meet most of my needs and still have some to save.( it's rare to have emergencies, I can plan)
A life where I don't have to derive an heart attack from the state of the nation and the greed of it's leaders. (Different negative stories everyday)
A life where my hardwork would lead to success and not via connection 'man know man'
A life where I don't have to sleep with one eye wide awake.
A life where i dont have to worry about accidental discharge from the police
A life where I don't have to spend countless hours of my time in traffic with fear of being attacked my hoodlums and robbers.
I could go on and on


I would rather live on the little I have here with peace of mind.

Money is not everything.

Tell them abeg

funny!

Bigbrovar, I wonder what kind of education u receive in ur school. U speak like an ignorant person which I know u are. Pls let me know when u return to Naija frm ur proposed trip to UK.
It's a shame when people say Nigerians in the UK are stingy in relation to other people.
First of all if you are a true friend you would wanna know how ur friend or amily are faring in a strange land.( Please note not all UK based Nigerians are into shady biz and can afford to give money freely or make calls all the time.
The starnge thing is while going thru this topic someone called me from Nigeria( a guy i grew up with on the same street) and the first thing he said was -- u no dey try at all. My reaction was to immediately end the call. Reason? I may have been ill not working or any other reason for not sending money.
Please UK is not all it is hyped to be however, we try to live peacefully here in a more secured environment. nothing too special here apart from more bills here and the us of the £ sterling.

I live in the US and the only reason why an american would be considered less stingy then someone living in the UK is because the price of living is higher in the UK

In answer to the question about people now in the UK used to make unnecessary demands before they travelled.

I never asked any uncle or aunt for money. I actually just lived my life and only got something from an uncle that returned from abroad in the 80s. Yes, I went to one or two uncles and grandparent for visits - not many. And usually give me travel money back or something on top. However, I did keep them company, looked after their children and did housework,

However, the people I am sending money to in Nigeria, I dont even se and some cannot even be bothered to write and let you know what is happenning until they need money - and that is talking about my immediate family. I could not afford to even keep friends anymore in Nigeria becos my family is demanding (even though they are not poor) and as soon as you comms with a friends or cousins or relative, they soon ask you for money or to buy things they could easily get in Nigeria. Ppl asking for specialist Bibles, Games, to pay for their research papers to be published in foreign countries. It is a joke!

It cost far less (in exchange rate) to send a simple text instead of flashing at ridiculous hours. My mum texted me at 5.30am recently despite telling her to communicate in the evening.

Some guys back home are not considerate to be fair, i remember my first 2 months in the UK i started receiving funny phone calls from guys that are not even close to me to send them some pounds, there was this day i was so annoyed,went to work during winter, i worked for good 10hrs and on getting home,i got a call from one of my so-called friend in Nigeria, he asked me to get him the new Arsenal jesrsey even ordering me to customise it for him, i didnt utter any word, what i did was to check the price on Arsenal's website, the jersey alone was £40,printing of names,numbers and badge to cost £15, making £55 right?imagine u that work in the cold for 10 fcking hrs and your pay is just £6/hr, that means u only get £60 for 10hrs of which tax and NI contributions will be deducted, and someone asked you to use £55 from the money to get Arsenal jersey? Common poster if your jand dawgs refuse to call you then free them abeg, no be by force jare, shior

My 3 month in uk, i got a call from friend of mine. Was requesting i send her a laptop. Ok, i asked her if she had internet in her house. To my surprise, she said no. She said she would take it 2 the cafe and use the internet facility, people, what’s the point.

Now they say we r stingy. I can’t be bothered.

LOL!

One thing i dont understand though is,
How did they get hold of your numbers to call <except you are roaming>

Im sure it was ur pride and 'i don arrive' mentality
That facilitated you guys, dashing out your numbers <some of you>

'im in the Uk, yeah. .this is my number +44774311419!'

So when people begin to ask for stuff, you now start to act the fool
YES! yáll are stingy!

^^^these are coments for people who dont have friends before they left Nigeria cos if you do,you will surely call them at a point and by that, they gonna have your number cos they will ask for it and you will give em in good faith.

So either they arent really your friends
or you are really stingy

@Gamine
I cant understand the meaning of ur last post, you asked a question and I gave an answer,so where does the"They are not realy ur friend or you are stingy bit comes into play?

This getting silly - there various levels and closeness of friendship, Some of the callers are family and relatives, so this is not about just friends. Even if the person is or was your best and close friend before you left Nigeria, it does not mean you have to buy him/her a laptop just because the person is your friend.

A lot of people have commented on the fact that if you call someone and try to carry on your friendship e.g, it does not take so long for that person to ask you for something just because you are in the UK. I'm sure that was probably not the basis of your friendship before. Phone calls in itself can be expensive if one knows too many people and they want to jist for a long time. Anyway, people have to move on because the friendship has probably changed into acquaintance because of distance and new experiences.

I'm sorry but they say, show me your friends
and i will show you, who you are.

I cant imagine, for one second, my friends
asking me to buy laptops and things
my younger sisters would ask for stuff, but
i would even buy before they ask.

I'm just saying sha, for you to have friends
that would become so greedy, at the drop
of your toe overseas, you need to check yourself.

@erico
Yeah, you call your 'friends'
if they are really friends, they wont be requesting for stuff
or if they are truely friends, you wont be 'stingy'