This is a true life story but. I would make it look imaginat

Your partner is kind, respectful, goal oriented and emotionally stable. Each time he finds it difficult to talk about his family like they were dead. He was quick to change the topic . You could sence he is not comfortable talking about them.

Finally, he agrees to take you home. You are nervous whether they will like you amor not. His own anxiety was thrice yours. Looking forward for slightest reason to cancel the journey. He sees you were insisting on going . Finally ,you arrive the place and noticed five persons packed in a little cubicle. You perceived an awful smell from the small apartment. His younger brother greeted you holding a wrap of wrapped weed in his hand. That should have been a signal but you overlooked it

Then you noticed their tone in speaking. The father yelling at the mum "Go bring an extra cup". He gets angry over little or nothing and has no regard for his wife in public. You ask how your partner was as a child , each person used the opportunity to list their littoe achievement. They were competing for attention
To say that I was shocked was an understatement. Your partner could see the shock in your eyes and tried to remedy the situation only to get a thunderous
"Can't you do something right for once'?
This time,it was his mum yelling at him for using fork to eat the eba
He gentle dropped the cutlery and used his hands in an attempt not to worsen an already terrible day

After what looks like hours, you finally take your leave earlier than imagined.
You are glad you finally left. You are curious how your partner manages to turn out different from his family members. How he grew up in a difficult, destructive family to a productive compassionate young man. You love your partner nevertheless buy you know you cannot take his family as your family. You would never like to spend an hour near them again. They would drain your energy. You are willing to proceed with the marriage plans If he promises never to get them involved in your marital life physically or otherwise.

A dysfunctional family and there is no way they cannot be involved in the marriage as they would be the children' grandparents, uncle(s) and aunt(s).

Hmmm, this is deep.

Block the family.

I always admire people who despite the toxic environment they grew up with turn out good.

Hmmm, a disaster waiting to happen.

tobechi20:
This is a true life story but. I would make it look imaginat

Your partner is kind, respectful, goal oriented and emotionally stable. Each time he finds it difficult to talk about his family like they were dead. He was quick to change the topic . You could sence he is not comfortable talking about them.

Finally, he agrees to take you home. You are nervous whether they will like you amor not. His own anxiety was thrice yours. Looking forward for slightest reason to cancel the journey. He sees you were insisting on going . Finally ,you arrive the place and noticed five persons packed in a little cubicle. You perceived an awful smell from the small apartment. His younger brother greeted you holding a wrap of wrapped weed in his hand. That should have been a signal but you overlooked it

Then you noticed their tone in speaking. The father yelling at the mum "Go bring an extra cup". He gets angry over little or nothing and has no regard for his wife in public. You ask how your partner was as a child , each person used the opportunity to list their littoe achievement. They were competing for attention
To say that I was shocked was an understatement. Your partner could see the shock in your eyes and tried to remedy the situation only to get a thunderous
"Can't you do something right for once'?
This time,it was his mum yelling at him for using fork to eat the eba
He gentle dropped the cutlery and used his hands in an attempt not to worsen an already terrible day

After what looks like hours, you finally take your leave earlier than imagined.
You are glad you finally left. You are curious how your partner manages to turn out different from his family members. How he grew up in a difficult, destructive family to a productive compassionate young man. You love your partner nevertheless buy you know you cannot take his family as your family. You would never like to spend an hour near them again. They would drain your energy. You are willing to proceed with the marriage plans If he promises never to get them involved in your marital life physically or otherwise.

Is it a he/she?

The pronouns keep going back and forth.

The other partner is delusional of she thinks the guy can cut off from his family.

While he would not be gummy gummy with them and give them a wide berth, they are still his family.

If the weed smoking one runs mad or another disaster strikes, the husband will be required to support them.

Yorubas say it is better to have a bad spouse than to have bad in-laws.

The in-laws are bad, let's hope the spouse is good so the family would not be required to intervene in their issues.

Also, the babe is not interested in relating with them so that prevent the danger of her trying to force a relationship with her in-laws because she is Mrs. Goody Two Shoes who knows her in-laws better than her husband.

I would say babe should be sure the husband is God's choice for her: then she would navigate them with wisdom.

Don't bother going ahead with marriage plans. The family would run their dysfunctionality on you no matter how you avoid them. Bad in-laws is worse than a bad husband in our culture.

Do not believe that your husband does not like his family or would always protect you. I speak from experience.

If you are from a decent background, don't bother giving your future children bad relatives. Life is so unpredictable.

I wish I could elaborate on this topic but I can't type much now. Free this man now. Don't believe he is as separated from his family as he appears to be. It's a defense mechanism.

You can go ahead if you guys is ready to leave in another state where get to meet others will take monthly

You can go ahead if you guys is ready to leave in another state where get to meet others will take months