Your sincere veiw or advice will be appreciated.

I happen to meet this Lady 2 years ago who is now a mother to my baby girl , infact we really loved each other and seems inseparable, she comes to my place almost daily but after sometime the girls mother started behaving strange talking bad about me, in their Church, Street and everywhere and also, saying why do I and this Lady talk on phone every time, to the extent she fights with the father as the father supports our relationship, but due to her pressure calling all their family reporting to them that it's the dad whom have given me wife oh, without bride Price..

My Girl is 24 years as of now. Not a small kid.

And at times my lady will come to me explain all and when the mother sees me , she pretends and says nothing. To cut the story short Alot happened to the extent that she frustrated my Girl's dad till he sent her out , while the Girl came to my place and stay for 3 days.

On the 3rd day na so them both. Come oh draw her out beat her blue black , draw her for hand all my neighbors , see disgrace we I take see then..

Then the lady went stay at their place 3 days we did not see each other, on the 3rd day , I had to call my mom to come visit me so we go to their , infact there was a previous occasion I was told to bring my mother so we can plan introduction, I carry my mama reach their family head place, not even the mother who was at home came. And no list nor plans to move forward..

So on that 3rd day, the girl came to meet me and told me that we should go to ikotun side, that is synagogue church side so we can know what's really happening spiritually to pray and to know if we are meant for each other..

I told her can she do this she said we should go, so that night I took of with her there, on getting there we were told we would Lodge and me no to get money, 2k per night, ok we stay there and on the 3rd day money begin deh flow in , later after a month we discovered she Was pregnant.

But the funniest part is, that day she told us to leave for ikotun side , when we calculated the day she conceived, it was exactly that day we left for ikotun side to go pray.. I was surprised and what if I had been separated from her that time. Na so them go take call me later seh she get Belle after staying there place for 3 days not to talk of after a month, which man will believe that one..

During that time that do call us but we did not say where we Lodge or where we were and we stayed in ikotun I was paying for Lodge for 4 months.. now after sometime I got enough money , I rented another house around that place..

And because she's pregnant, we been deh fear seh make her male no talk seh make she remove am, or make them no go withold her , then when she Born make them no allow me see my baby..

We both pack to the new house and when the pregnancy was like 5 months, we both went to the parents house, they were normal everybody play, them even give me her load as I shatter cab take her load.. and we both agreed that when I have the money we will discuss about the bride price and other things.. so we left everyone was happy.

Then around 6 months again we visited them , and as well attended their Church.. no wahala happened..

Now It got to a timei got into finilancial probs things was tight that I had to sell my tools and even my big phone to feed us all till this November..

Now when things got tough, quickly left that house as something fishy is in that house, at times some house no deh favor person destiny..as we rushed then to get it as I was paying for Lodge at ikotun for 4 months, we really loved each other..

we visited their place hoping they would render help like they've been claiming she should come and take something as an in-law to their child.. the next thing the mother that is my Woman's mother took my baby girl run commot for house.. and that time I been deh complain seh chest deh pain me small small.. but who cares??

Na so the papa come In , talk seh that my baby no be me get her oh as I never pay for bride price,and seh them both lyne.. e first shock me , that I will have to leave the girl and the baby behind for them that they want to take care of them, and my girl was like what's the meaning of this, she said we should go to the police I told her no, so I felt bad and left...

To cut all short , Am very broke as of now, and cus of that , my Woman's parent seems to take advantage of this.. and not even let me get my baby out of their place .. or let me ND my woman have free long time together no to talk of 3 of us.. but my woman do bring me things she check me up in my sister's place very well..

What do I do now, if you no get money to talk I'll, it will be hard. And at least I got to spend time well with my child and woman at least but the father and mother no deh gree, to call her on phone sef at times it will be off.. cus her sim is in her mom's phone...

What do you advice I do?? Do I go report to the authority cus of my baby, or I just be patient till I get up back to rent a place and sneak them away?? As for now me no deh think of bride price na rent I deh find for now.. and see where demons deh corner me..

I didn't read because I'm tired of all this relationship wahala I read here everyday

cutehector you should be in education thread and not here

Big wahala for you my brother. Just be patient, God will see you through.

When you had money why didn't you pay her bride price once and for all? Na now your eyes clear? Well in some cultures if you never pay bride price, pikin no be your own o. Na men like you dey find free wife. No need to involve police because you go lose. I blame you sha.

Just wait until you two get married. Nothing like absolute loyalty when it comes to women

Guy go make money, na money be woman

all these long epistle
Is because you are financially Handicap


We really love ourselves na scam
if you can't provide money bruh

Go and Hustle

I didn't read that epistle bro


But I pray God helps you make the right choice

Kingsasian:
When you had money why didn't you pay her bride price once and for all? Na now your eyes clear? Well in some cultures if you never pay bride price, pikin no be your own o. Na men like you dey find free wife. No need to involve police because you go lose. I blame you sha.

Me no deh find free wife oh.. infact na how me go take deh see my picin me want.. if them want take their daughter make them take her.. and as for bride price I never deh very bouyant that time.. I still deh average.. na their rush rush Dem take rush me deh ask if I go marry her or I just want date her..

If I no love her I no go reach this level.. made lots of sacrifice..

Zzor:
I didn't read because I'm tired of all this relationship wahala I read here everyday

LOL

Oga when you said and I quote
"I Sold My Tools and Even my Big Phone"


I knew what you meant when you made that Statement.
Have you considered maybe na Karma dey chase you like this

2dice01:
all these long epistle
Is because you are financially Handicap


We really love ourselves na scam
if you can't provide money bruh

Go and Hustle

I believe na because I deh down for now.. anyways I get that bro thanks

DaddyRochie1642:
Oga when you said and I quote
"I Sold My Tools and Even my Big Phone to Feed Us"


I knew what you meant when you made that Statement.
Have you considered maybe na Karma dey chase you like this

okay? Karma in what Sense? that she told us to run? Or cus I bore responsibility for the child?

And took her for prayer , or cus I took care of the child till she's 6 months now?

Adsexpert:
I believe na because I deh down for now.. anyways I get that bro thanks

You are welcome

See the way you are talking as if you paid her BP, if you paid her BP, her mum wouldn't give you any problem as much as she might not like you

The parents are being hostile to you because of your current financial status. Since you acknowledged that they do go to church, try involving their pastor to mediate on your behalf so that you can at least have access to your daughter.

On a second thought since you currently haven't gotten on your feet don't you think it's wise to allow them (your wife and daughter) remain with her parents pending when things would settle financially for you? Feeding three mouths isn't funny considering the current economic situation and your present situation.

Think about it.

The country is bad enough, and feeding three mouths when you clearly can't afford to is a budern

I'm currently baeless coz i no get money,na money be woman bro

Nazgul:
The parents are being hostile to you because of your current financial status. Since you acknowledged that they do go to church, try involving their pastor to mediate on your behalf so that you can at least have access to your daughter.

On a second thought since you currently haven't gotten on your feet don't you think it's wise to allow them (your wife and daughter) remain with her parents pending when things would settle financially for you? Feeding three mouths it's funny considering the current economic situation and your present situation.

Think about it.

The country is bad enough, and feeding three mouths when you clearly is a budern

thanks alot for this, you are right. I appreciate will work on it

I really feel for you, you need to get something doing to fetch you good money. You can't do anything now unless you want the lady and the child to suffer.

Adsexpert:
Your sincere veiw or advice will be appreciated.

I happen to meet this Lady 2 years ago who is now a mother to my baby girl , infact we really loved each other and seems inseparable, she comes to my place almost daily but after sometime the girls mother started behaving strange talking bad about me, in their Church, Street and everywhere and also, saying why do I and this Lady talk on phone every time, to the extent she fights with the father as the father supports our relationship, but due to her pressure calling all their family reporting to them that it's the dad whom have given me wife oh, without bride Price..

My Girl is 24 years as of now. Not a small kid.

And at times my lady will come to me explain all and when the mother sees me , she pretends and says nothing. To cut the story short Alot happened to the extent that she frustrated my Girl's dad till he sent her out , while the Girl came to my place and stay for 3 days.

On the 3rd day na so them both. Come oh draw her out beat her blue black , draw her for hand all my neighbors , see disgrace we I take see then..

Then the lady went stay at their place 3 days we did not see each other, on the 3rd day , I had to call my mom to come visit me so we go to their , infact there was a previous occasion I was told to bring my mother so we can plan introduction, I carry my mama reach their family head place, not even the mother who was at home came. And no list nor plans to move forward..

So on that 3rd day, the girl came to meet me and told me that we should go to ikotun side, that is synagogue church side so we can know what's really happening spiritually to pray and to know if we are meant for each other..

I told her can she do this she said we should go, so that night I took of with her there, on getting there we were told we would Lodge and me no to get money, 2k per night, ok we stay there and on the 3rd day money begin deh flow in , later after a month we discovered she Was pregnant.

But the funniest part is, that day she told us to leave for ikotun side , when we calculated the day she conceived, it was exactly that day we left for ikotun side to go pray.. I was surprised and what if I had been separated from her that time. Na so them go take call me later seh she get Belle after staying there place for 3 days not to talk of after a month, which man will believe that one..

During that time that do call us but we did not say where we Lodge or where we were and we stayed in ikotun I was paying for Lodge for 4 months.. now after sometime I got enough money , I rented another house around that place..

And because she's pregnant, we been deh fear seh make her male no talk seh make she remove am, or make them no go withold her , then when she Born make them no allow me see my baby..

We both pack to the new house and when the pregnancy was like 5 months, we both went to the parents house, they were normal everybody play, them even give me her load as I shatter cab take her load.. and we both agreed that when I have the money we will discuss about the bride price and other things.. so we left everyone was happy.

Then around 6 months again we visited them , and as well attended their Church.. no wahala happened..

Now It got to a timei got into finilancial probs things was tight that I had to sell my tools and even my big phone to feed us all till this November..

Now when things got tough, quickly left that house as something fishy is in that house, at times some house no deh favor person destiny..as we rushed then to get it as I was paying for Lodge at ikotun for 4 months, we really loved each other..

we visited their place hoping they would render help like they've been claiming she should come and take something as an in-law to their child.. the next thing the mother that is my Woman's mother took my baby girl run commot for house.. and that time I been deh complain seh chest deh pain me small small.. but who cares??

Na so the papa come In , talk seh that my baby no be me get her oh as I never pay for bride price,and seh them both lyne.. e first shock me , that I will have to leave the girl and the baby behind for them that they want to take care of them, and my girl was like what's the meaning of this, she said we should go to the police I told her no, so I felt bad and left...

To cut all short , Am very broke as of now, and cus of that , my Woman's parent seems to take advantage of this.. and not even let me get my baby out of their place .. or let me ND my woman have free long time together no to talk of 3 of us.. but my woman do bring me things she check me up in my sister's place very well..

What do I do now, if you no get money to talk I'll, it will be hard. And at least I got to spend time well with my child and woman at least but the father and mother no deh gree, to call her on phone sef at times it will be off.. cus her sim is in her mom's phone...

What do you advice I do?? Do I go report to the authority cus of my baby, or I just be patient till I get up back to rent a place and sneak them away?? As for now me no deh think of bride price na rent I deh find for now.. and see where demons deh corner me..

Bro how sure are you that Your Daughter is actually your daughter? for all we know,you Girlfriend might just be another hoe who got pregnant for another man and Has now tied you down with The responsibility. I'll advice you do a DNA test to confirm The paternal status

odinson1:


Bro how sure are you that Your Daughter is actually your daughter? for all we know,you Girlfriend might just be another hoe who got pregnant for another man and Has now tied you down with The responsibility. I'll advice you do a DNA test to confirm The paternal status

I think say na only me notice ooh

Hmmm

1. get money
2. marry her

You need to get back to your feets. You are staying with your sister and you so t have something doing to bring in money, how do you intend to take care of the woman and the baby? On the other hand, this is an opportunity for you to hustle. Leave the baby and the mother with her paret and build yourself. Lobing eav other is good but no one wakes up in the morening and have love for breakfast nor is loved used to pay rent. Love doesn't pay bills anywhere in the world.

aderonke3087:
all these long epistleIs because you are financially HandicapWe really love ourselves na scam if you can't provide money bruhGo and Hustle

Truth.

Adsexpert:
Your sincere veiw or advice will be appreciated.

I happen to meet this Lady 2 years ago who is now a mother to my baby girl , infact we really loved each other and seems inseparable, she comes to my place almost daily but after sometime the girls mother started behaving strange talking bad about me, in their Church, Street and everywhere and also, saying why do I and this Lady talk on phone every time, to the extent she fights with the father as the father supports our relationship, but due to her pressure calling all their family reporting to them that it's the dad whom have given me wife oh, without bride Price..

My Girl is 24 years as of now. Not a small kid.

And at times my lady will come to me explain all and when the mother sees me , she pretends and says nothing. To cut the story short Alot happened to the extent that she frustrated my Girl's dad till he sent her out , while the Girl came to my place and stay for 3 days.

On the 3rd day na so them both. Come oh draw her out beat her blue black , draw her for hand all my neighbors , see disgrace we I take see then..

Then the lady went stay at their place 3 days we did not see each other, on the 3rd day , I had to call my mom to come visit me so we go to their , infact there was a previous occasion I was told to bring my mother so we can plan introduction, I carry my mama reach their family head place, not even the mother who was at home came. And no list nor plans to move forward..

So on that 3rd day, the girl came to meet me and told me that we should go to ikotun side, that is synagogue church side so we can know what's really happening spiritually to pray and to know if we are meant for each other..

I told her can she do this she said we should go, so that night I took of with her there, on getting there we were told we would Lodge and me no to get money, 2k per night, ok we stay there and on the 3rd day money begin deh flow in , later after a month we discovered she Was pregnant.

But the funniest part is, that day she told us to leave for ikotun side , when we calculated the day she conceived, it was exactly that day we left for ikotun side to go pray.. I was surprised and what if I had been separated from her that time. Na so them go take call me later seh she get Belle after staying there place for 3 days not to talk of after a month, which man will believe that one..

During that time that do call us but we did not say where we Lodge or where we were and we stayed in ikotun I was paying for Lodge for 4 months.. now after sometime I got enough money , I rented another house around that place..

And because she's pregnant, we been deh fear seh make her male no talk seh make she remove am, or make them no go withold her , then when she Born make them no allow me see my baby..

We both pack to the new house and when the pregnancy was like 5 months, we both went to the parents house, they were normal everybody play, them even give me her load as I shatter cab take her load.. and we both agreed that when I have the money we will discuss about the bride price and other things.. so we left everyone was happy.

Then around 6 months again we visited them , and as well attended their Church.. no wahala happened..

Now It got to a timei got into finilancial probs things was tight that I had to sell my tools and even my big phone to feed us all till this November..

Now when things got tough, quickly left that house as something fishy is in that house, at times some house no deh favor person destiny..as we rushed then to get it as I was paying for Lodge at ikotun for 4 months, we really loved each other..

we visited their place hoping they would render help like they've been claiming she should come and take something as an in-law to their child.. the next thing the mother that is my Woman's mother took my baby girl run commot for house.. and that time I been deh complain seh chest deh pain me small small.. but who cares??

Na so the papa come In , talk seh that my baby no be me get her oh as I never pay for bride price,and seh them both lyne.. e first shock me , that I will have to leave the girl and the baby behind for them that they want to take care of them, and my girl was like what's the meaning of this, she said we should go to the police I told her no, so I felt bad and left...

To cut all short , Am very broke as of now, and cus of that , my Woman's parent seems to take advantage of this.. and not even let me get my baby out of their place .. or let me ND my woman have free long time together no to talk of 3 of us.. but my woman do bring me things she check me up in my sister's place very well..

What do I do now, if you no get money to talk I'll, it will be hard. And at least I got to spend time well with my child and woman at least but the father and mother no deh gree, to call her on phone sef at times it will be off.. cus her sim is in her mom's phone...

What do you advice I do?? Do I go report to the authority cus of my baby, or I just be patient till I get up back to rent a place and sneak them away?? As for now me no deh think of bride price na rent I deh find for now.. and see where demons deh corner me..

Sounds like greedy parents to me. U already have a child with their adult daughter and they're more worried about getting money from you in the name of tradition while keeping their daughters family apart? If it was my daughter at that age I would prefer her to have her family together and pay the bride price once you're on your feet financially

SmellySperm:
I'm currently baeless coz i no get money,na money be woman bro

Any woman who don't want to know you just cos Ur broke their not worth Knowing anyway. Trust me on that.
You'll only find a good woman if Ur broke.
If you're rich then those ones most of them only want your money.

It worries me so much that you didn't see where/how you have wronged the family and their reason (s) for being hostile towards you. First, you got their pregnant and this act brings shame to the family. Second, you took her away from the family and didn't see how such act paints in you bad light. The claim that she was being maltreated, locked up is balderdash; a ruse to justify your questionable, ungentleman behaviour.

The major giveaway in your ordeal is the fact that you have successfully convinced yourself that you are the victim, when obviously you are not. When it suits you, you realise that the girl is an adult who has the right to do whatever she wants. But when it doesn't, you cast yourself in a helpless, fragile persona, starts complaining, looking for scapegoats. Now that you are penniless and the family isn't favourably disposed to you due to your attitude when you have "something," you are here looking an underserved sympathy.

Well, since you have increased your tally as a prolific striker that you are, you have to come clean, apologise, and peace with the family. That is the appropriate way to make amend.

You know what to do.

Like you stated, your focus is not bride price. Your focus is income.

Explain to your girlfriend. Let her know that you wouldn’t be able to send her regular money for the next few weeks. Everyone will call you names but your situation demands that your girlfriend’s family takes up major responsibility for her and your child, for now.

If you give her money as soon as you get it, you will keep struggling and the situation will not improve. You must set money aside for short term investment/business. In a few months you should be stable enough to take up responsibility.

If you carry any load that you have not developed capacity for, you will not move. Build capacity.

There are some kinds of hustle that you can do only as a single man without family responsibility. A man will run further and faster when he has no baggage.

Just make sure you do not fall into the temptation of drinking to drown your worries. Alcohol can only mask your pain for a few hours.

Mrscarter:


Any woman who don't want to know you just cos Ur broke their not worth Knowing anyway. Trust me on that.
You'll only find a good woman if Ur broke.
If you're rich then those ones most of them only want your money.

you're right tho but very rare before u see a gal go for a broke guy in this generation,so bad