If you happen to be sitting down reading this article, chances are you may want to know how to get your ex back. If you just broke up, and are thinking about winning your ex back, you will find this article helpful and enlightening.

After breakup you are hurt, emotionally drained and confused. And during this state of confusion, you are bound to make so many mistakes that can hurt your chances of getting your ex to love you again.

This article is like a plan that gives you hope and a sense of direction. A plan that will give you something to look forward to when you are feeling down about a breakup and want your ex to fall in love with you again.
To get Your Ex back, you need the new “Improved You”. Here is the secret:

Look amazing, smell nice, workout, look like you are very happy and doing great in your life. Look sexy, fun, confident and attractive, Look like a ” catch” and make your ex wonder why he broke up with you..

Your ex can’t help but wonder what brought so much positive change in you.

To get your ex to fall right back in love with you and stay, you need three key factors.

No Contact Rule
Bringing a positive change in your life and become a confident, happy and attractive person.
Now its time to contact your ex and meet them somewhere.
1. No Contact.

How to get back your ex



There is a thing called no contact rule, It’s simple and very effective. All you have to do is stop all the communication with your ex for a short period of time. No calling, no Facebook messaging or any online contact, no texting, no hanging out with common friends in hopes of meeting your ex.

Your ex needs some time and space to remove all the negative thoughts from the breakup and start missing you. Now I know what you are thinking!

“If I don’t contact my ex, he or she will forget about me”.

“What if my ex moves on during no contact?”

“What if my ex meets someone and get married during no contact?”

“What if my ex forgets about me during no contact?”

The answer to all of them is NO, THEY WON’T.

If you and your ex were in any type of serious relationship, they will not be able to move on so quickly. No contact is only going to make them miss you more and remember the good memories they shared with you. He will be wondering all the time why you are not contacting him/her. You want to be on your ex’s mind as much as you can.

Learn to live without them if you want to get back with them. Unless you learn to live without them, you will most likely be needy and desperate whenever you see them or talk to them and that will make you look unattractive to your ex. Nobody wants to be with a needy and desperate person. By not contacting him, you immediately become not needy in his mind. The fact is, you are a mess after a breakup. Get a hold of yourself and gain some perspective. You need space to calm down and analyze your relationship thoroughly, to realize whether or not being with your ex is exactly what you need. Sometimes, what we want, is not exactly what we need. The no contact period should be as long as it takes you to get yourself together and feel great about your life without your ex. It can take up to 30 days.

The No Contact Rule is effective in getting an ex back, because it creates a much needed space between the both of you that helps you and your ex to heal and get some perspective. When you heal and stop the push dynamics between you and your ex, you allow the love you had for each other to resurface.

If your ex starts dating someone else, don’t freak out and start begging or using pity to tell them how much you love them, agreeing to all their conditions and allow them use you as a doormat. The truth is, your ex is most probably in a rebound relationship. Almost all of the rebound relationships end sooner rather than later, because they are ways for many people to deal with breakups. Just because your ex is in a rebound relationship, doesn’t mean they will forget about you and move on. It just means the opposite. It means that they are having a hard time moving on and its a way for them to avoid grief and that means it will take them longer to get over you. The thought of your ex being with someone else is a gut wrenching one. But in reality, it’s not really as bad as we make it look.



2. Bringing a positive change in your life.

How to get back your ex



No contact will be of no use unless you try to make a positive change in your life during this period. If you just want to stay at home and be miserable for the next one month, things are not going to change even after no contact period. Spend time with your loved ones, get in the best shape and get new clothes for yourself. Be confident and not needy, neediness is very unattractive and usually comes with self doubt. You have to work on yourself and become a more confident and happy person. Unless you make a positive change in yourself, your ex will not be able to convince themselves to get back together with you.

Go out on a date. Now let me tell you how your ex will feel when he sees you date someone else.

I had a gold wristwatch that I stopped wearing, because I felt it was already old and no longer good enough for me. So I dumped it somewhere in my room for months. A friend of mine visited and saw this watch. She said she loved it so much & would love to wear it to a party the next day. I told her she can have it and keep it for herself since I no longer wear it. Suddenly, I changed my mind “Why would she prefer to wear this old watch out of all my beautiful watches?” I said to myself. “it must be a cool watch after all.” Now I need my watch back! So I asked her to return it to me after the party.



This is exactly how your ex will react when they see you are dating someone else after a breakup. When they see that you are becoming stronger, not weaker, they will feel the itch of jealousy nagging at them, and begin wondering why they left you in the first place. If you don’t put yourself out there and you stay hidden under your blanket scrolling your Instagram & Facebook, there is little chance that you will have an opportunity to make your ex jealous. Go for a walk around the block by yourself with your head held high. Use your Facebook to your advantage. Remember we talked about going places and looking good as a weapon that would make your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend jealous? Post those pictures and write about them. If your ex is on your Facebook, it will be nearly impossible for them to NOT see what you are up to.

Now let’s move on to the next step of the plan.



3. Its time to contact your ex.



After not being in contact with your ex for a while and you’ve really worked on yourself and your appearance, your ex must be wondering what the heck happened to you. They will start remembering the things they liked about you and what they found attractive in you. This is when you contact them. As they lay eyes on you, they see the new and improved you, you look confident, sexy, fun and attractive.

Before you contact your ex, make sure that:

You followed the no contact rule for at least one month.
You have made a few positive changes in your life.
You are no longer a mess as you were after the breakup.
You have gone on at least one date during no contact.
You are sure that getting back with your ex is a good decision.
You have accepted the breakup and you are OK with the fact that you may never get your ex back and this might never work for you .
You have accepted the fact that even if you don’t get your ex back, you will be fine since there are endless opportunities in the world to find love and happiness.
You know your ex better than anyone, so it’s your decision whether or not you want to use just call, text messages, or both.

Text messages are short, they are personal and you can be sure your ex will read your texts. It’s great for building attraction with your ex if used correctly. If they really missed you, they will be excited to get a text from you.

Never write empty messages that doesn’t give your ex anything to talk about. For example:

“Hey”
“”
“Hey, How are you?”
“I miss you”


Never talk about getting back together or your feelings. Example

“I love you”
“I want you back in my life”
“I miss you”
“I am miserable without you”
Never say something negative or argue over text. Example:

“If you had just shown a little more effort, we could have been together by now”
“Your child misses you. You are terrible father to leave him like that.”


here are a few things that you should do while texting your ex.
Remind them of good moments you had together.
“Hey, how have been? remember the little restaurant where we had our first anniversary date? I just crossed it and it looks like they are closing down. It’s a shame because we had such a great time that day.”


Let them know you are having fun with your life and meeting new people. Example:
“Hey, I just saw a romantic movie with a friend. The ending reminded me of our first date.”
“Hey, I am going to hongkong for the weekend with a friend. Do you remember the name of the hotel we stayed in when we went last year?”
there are tons of things you can do with texts, but make sure to be subtle, positive and fun. Go from that creepy ex to a fun text buddy. This way, you will be moving things forward slowly.

When you think it’s the right time, you can go ahead and ask them out.
When you ask your ex out, do not call it a date. You don’t want them thinking that you are looking to get back together. You want them to go out with you as a friend and then you can build up attraction and trust while you are with them.

The best way to ask them out is to give them a call. It’s possible they might require a slight push. A simple “Hey, it’s just a coffee Or “come on, it’ll be fun.” What’s the harm?” However, don’t go overboard in pushing them. You have to treat them like an acquaintance you want to get close with. As you are on the date, you want it to be your ex’s idea to get back together. You just want to be yourself, attractive, fun and happy. Do not talk about your breakup or your past relationship, It will lead to no good and this can lead to unhealthy arguments. There is no point digging old graves when you want to start a new life. That relationship is already over and if you two do get back together, it will be a new relationship.

So, if you want your ex back, don’t give up just yet.

Get them back and give the relationship one more try.

If your ex doesn’t see the wonderful qualities in you after all this period and thinks they are better off without you, then take some time to consider that you may be better off without them too and better person awaits you out there.

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