Bennysam:

Stupid black man mentality, if die now the kids will still live , think about yourself and how to live a healthy life , you can take care of your kids by sending monthly allowance to them, don’t die for nothing, she’s fucking many guys on your head make a move shake the table

Dotherightthing:


I am Ssorry for you!
You think u Wwise??
Go ahead and do it!
We will wait here for you

Tunde835:
Damn, dat was hilarious especially wen dat MGTOW guy was just chilling wit a beer at d back while d SIMP was being strangled

MeeztaFabulouz:


7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.

MeeztaFabulouz:


You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. [b]Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home.

I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.


I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us..

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

Kapilta:
Uncle wetin dey work you? Life always sorts itself, keep living so you can see the magic. You can decide to leave her or stuck with her but one thing for sure, everything will balance itself. Sha no die.

VTJN:
Nawa 4 this ur conclusion o, na ur type dey listen 2 hear say. once dey tell u say dey see ur wife 4 road with another man zoom it automatically mean say she done dey sleep with the man. may God have mercy on women!!!

Gratefulheart1:


Like I said earlier, saying he wants to commit suicide is wrong but other statements you making aside the suicide thing are what makes your comment seem unrealistic and invalid.
Easier said than done bro. Some things are fact like you said, but nobody can stomach some facts at some painful times especially when they're negative facts.
After sweating under sun to get a job with no avail, feeling depressed, someone shows up and says not everyone is going to make it in life. Even though that's a fact, but is that the right statement of encouragement at such a time? Would that go down well with the hearer?
Or after a pregnant woman lost the pregnancy of her only child, you walk up to her and say, it's not the destiny of every woman to have a child. Even though that's a fact, but won't she bite you hard for saying that kind of thing to her at such a time?

You said, "If it can't work, walk away but op has done nothing in my view to make it work."?
Really? He should just work away from his family and kids? That he laboured many years to build?
That's why I say many unmarried people who comment on Nairaland always judge marriage from boyfriend/girlfriend perspective.
All those things you listed don't work that way, the only valid point you made is that as a good Christian, he could seek the face of God so as to lighten his mind a bit of the burden.

Spending your whole life on your marriage, trying all your best to make your wife and family ok, being a good husband and father, remaining faithful to your wife, giving her the best and trusting her, thinking she was dealing with you with a loyal mind, only unfortunately to check her phone one day and find out your wife has been sleeping around like a who.re with strangers. That's when you know all those theories you listed don't work.
You can get mad immediately and if you're very emotional type you can kill her and yourself from such heartbreak.
You read news of couples killing themselves, committing suicide or causing physical harms on themselves or breaking up after a hot domestic violence, and you think they're all weak and stupid?
Don't pray you're a victim of such before you know it's easier to judge married people when you're yet to witness what they're going through.

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

Juliusmomoh:
Thank God u know u made a mistake..
And beside suicide is not the best opinion here...
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U married her at the age of 28.. Don't u know girl of 28 are still in their hoeing stage ?... And instead of u to make her a complete housewife, u carry your hand go find wahala...
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Now the remedy...
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authority2006:


Simp

Martinez39s:
Yeah, I understand. Blissful ignorance is than harsh truth.

Maturity ko, maturity ni. There is no maturity here. Just the willingness on your part to live in a fool's paradise and partake in blissful ignorance instead of embracing the harsh truth. You are the simp in the plantation who can never be saved.

Martinez39s:
Yeah, I understand. Blissful ignorance is than harsh truth.

Maturity ko, maturity ni. There is no maturity here. Just the willingness on your part to live in a fool's paradise and partake in blissful ignorance instead of embracing the harsh truth. You are the simp in the plantation who can never be saved.

Yamiriflathead:
Hahaha...
Nor marry una nor dey hear word.
Later una go dey disturb those of us wey dey leave peaceful single lives with una headache.
OP never see anything, as you nor get sense go baby mama mode, kill yourself
Haha wickedness

Nuyokoi:
-not worth being suicidal over
-communicate your feelings
-go for counseling together

Zzor:
I wonder why any woman will treat a good husband in this manner, may God help you but suicide isn't an option