@OP, I really dont know what to say to you. Nowhere do I hear you saying I loved him once, or I married him because I loved him, I mean not anything close to that.

Phweee!!! what shall we say. Perhaps if you had tried love before everything else you wouldnt end up with so much regret. Nobody ever regrets anything after they've been with the one they love. We call them heart breakers in the end, but hey  even nursing that broken heart can be sweet.

Sounds to me you just grabbed the first one that proposed marriage. Marriage was your ultimate price now there you have it. You either make the most of it or you get out of it, period.

Should you leave him, please try the love thing first and marriage later if you still find it necessary.

she married him because he's AA.

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jennykadry: I am with uju on this. You married a man thinking he was bill gate. You slept with him without a condom and got pregnant. You went ahead and married him even when you had no feelings for him?

The dude is right, you thought you were going to eat money you did not look before you leaped.

Why did you act like some desperate old hag? oh all your friends were getting married you sef wanted to do same?

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jennykadry: I am with uju on this. You married a man thinking he was bill gate. You slept with him without a condom and got pregnant. You went ahead and married him even when you had no feelings for him?

The dude is right, you thought you were going to eat money you did not look before you leaped.

Why did you act like some desperate old hag? oh all your friends were getting married you sef wanted to do same?

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I am with you on these
@op
To me, the only problem here is money. You went after the money he borrowed from a bank whilst thinking it was his. Now the money isnt there and you realised you ve been had.

But then again, i am not an advocate people living in misery in unhappy relationships. Life is too short to be unhappy half the time. So do what you know is best for you

OYINBOGOJU: What is it with the tradition you are placing above everything?

A man doesn`t have enough money to settle his bank debt, but you are telling him to pay more to the kinsmen.

If bank order his arrest today would the kinsmen come to his recue?

TRUTH

You don`t sound considerate at all

You talk about clothes when his house rent will be expired soon,what plan have you got for that?

You talk about kinsmen when Bank is still holding his neck.

You are educated i guess, you should know more than those kinsmen.

Finally somebody has pointed out the obvious! The truth is that she wasn't mature enough before she got married to knw that marriage isn't all abt convenience. Aren't they poor and happy married women out there?! She just isn't being considerate.

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Scam artist that never went to school/ You want to scam people and no good command of English language. Too bad the kind of people that come here to advertise.

I think OP was party to eating or spending money the man displayed to win her love.While the lady was after the little wealth the man displayed, she fell for it and before she realized that the man has nothing and was even indebted, she was already pregnant and nothing that she could do , than to go ahead to marry him at her on detriment.
The man knew the lady's actions that she wanted money and hence the money wasn't there, he now throws the questions the op presented here.

Woman, if you married him out of pity by going up to the extent of wedding him, we cannot here stand to support you to divorce him. ONLY YOU can decided what you want because nobody here including your parents were with you when you met the man, got intimate with him, got pregnant, allowed him by going to meet with your parents, and also accepting to wed him can advise you to divorce him.

Stay with him sort our your problem and deal with the problem as you already got a son for him.

This is a lesson for ladies out there looking at immediate satisfaction without considering their future.

OP, the man is not here to defend his action against you by the derogatory statement he makes about you.Maybe by the time he opens up, the world will be surprised that you contributed to his present predicament.

Learn t̶̲̥̅̊ợ̣̣̇̇̇ love him.he has sock ur breast also ur baby.now U̶̲̥̅ must hv depreciated unlike b4.men are very scarse hold on t̶̲̥̅̊ợ̣̣̇̇̇ him do react to emotion if nt U̶̲̥̅ may regret later

afrobaby: What u shud do now is, just tell the father of ur baby, because that is what I see him to be, that he is right about the fact that "u didnt look before u leaped", but now ur eyes are wide opened and u an see, and don't want to leap or jump again, it's over. Concentrate on ur studies, the sky is just the begining, get good grades, secure a good job, and I tell u, better man go come ur way, but this time around, look wella o

PLEASE DON'T GET PREGNANT FOR HIM AGAIN O, IT IS NOT EASY TO FIND SINGLE MAN THAT WILL MARRY A MOTHER OF ONE, NOT TO TALK OF TWO O

how you guys think one can make all the good grades just in your finals....for crying out loud this girl doesn't seem like the very serious type.she marries this uneducated guy probably because he has money,got pregnant for him just to seal the contant flow of cash from this dude.His guy must have spent so much on this girl to believe that she's just the money type.He's just doing the pay back time tingy.As much as I want to be optimistic,you must have spoilt this guy view of you.He couldn't just leave cos you re already pregnant for him.she doesn't have a prospect,she was just after money.that's validates his husbands statement"look before you leap"all that glitters is not gold

NO.., don't divorce Him.

afrobaby: What u shud do now is, just tell the father of ur baby, because that is what I see him to be, that he is right about the fact that "u didnt look before u leaped", but now ur eyes are wide opened and u an see, and don't want to leap or jump again, it's over. Concentrate on ur studies, the sky is just the begining, get good grades, secure a good job, and I tell u, better man go come ur way, but this time around, look wella o

PLEASE DON'T GET PREGNANT FOR HIM AGAIN O, IT IS NOT EASY TO FIND SINGLE MAN THAT WILL MARRY A MOTHER OF ONE, NOT TO TALK OF TWO O

If it were a girl child but a baby boy with attendant complications in future.Hian.Aye gidi goon.

Pray 4 a change ,seek happiness........life is short!

This is three years after, u shd be askin op for update.

Ivynwa: @Poster
There's no need crying over spilt milk and regretting why you married him. Don't cry and get on unhappy dearie. Your man does not have a very good mindset if he can tell you something like "You think you came to enjoy money, you didn't think before leaping" but that does not make him a bad person. All the same it may be that he is venting his frustrations on you through those words, sometimes we all get angry and say unpretty stuffs. Some new and young couples when faced with financial difficulty undergo such frustrations and unhappiness.
Don't give in to that situation of lack, pick courage. You can smile tommorrow okay. Picture you and your husband in a state of abundant wealth and abundant love and start working towards it. It's possible that things can turn around for you two. As you have no means of livelihood yet, study harder and graduate well so that soon you can earn too and improve your condition.
See the positive in your husband and give him much love because he needs it thru this trying period. If he is very rich now, I am sure that you will not be feeling this unhappy and envisaging divorcing him. The good news is that he can be rich tommorrow! It is true that we all gravitate to good things and comfort but sweetie no condition lasts forever, even the riches may come today and tommorrow you may lack again.
You have a beautiful future girl! Don't cry, be happy, be hopeful, stand by him. Joy comes in the morning!

i love u dear

Pls move on with ur life.

Ivynwa:
@Poster
There's no need crying over spilt milk and regretting why you married him. Don't cry and get on unhappy dearie. Your man does not have a very good mindset if he can tell you something like "You think you came to enjoy money, you didn't think before leaping" but that does not make him a bad person. All the same it may be that he is venting his frustrations on you through those words, sometimes we all get angry and say unpretty stuffs. Some new and young couples when faced with financial difficulty undergo such frustrations and unhappiness.
Don't give in to that situation of lack, pick courage. You can smile tommorrow okay. Picture you and your husband in a state of abundant wealth and abundant love and start working towards it. It's possible that things can turn around for you two. As you have no means of livelihood yet, study harder and graduate well so that soon you can earn too and improve your condition.
See the positive in your husband and give him much love because he needs it thru this trying period. If he is very rich now, I am sure that you will not be feeling this unhappy and envisaging divorcing him. The good news is that he can be rich tommorrow! It is true that we all gravitate to good things and comfort but sweetie no condition lasts forever, even the riches may come today and tommorrow you may lack again.
You have a beautiful future girl! Don't cry, be happy, be hopeful, stand by him. Joy comes in the morning!

ivynwa plz try to be realistic.only d wearer of d shoe knows were it pinches.av been there and blive u me i did beyond all these u stated here and at the end it only made tins worse.

the op and her hubby ar entirely 2 different persons whit diff perspective nd exposure.

in my own case his ego got stronger nd no atom of remorse for his violent acts coz he blived i had nowhere to go bak to.even his family at a point supported him nd i was left to my faith to either stay nd get killed out of frustration nd domestic violence or leave wit my child nd move on and put my life togeda again.
today am glad i walked away.

op i doubt if ur hubby wil change coz wit ut status academically he wil feel intimidated nd defensive at every opportumity.

the choice is urs to make.u ar stil young.try ti work on ur personalty ns build ur confidence.dont settle for less

Chrys1:
Am 24yrs old. Got married last year. I have a son for him but i cant stay with him. I met him and he immediately proposed to me and i accepted because i was having many suitors then that were all AS and am AS. He is not educated and not very rich. He came with his people to our house for introduction. I became pregnant for him. The day i told him that i was pregnant, he confessed to me that he doesnt have any money for brideprice, that he is owing bank and doesnt even have money to pay. I cried that day because of the pain i wil pass through. What he told me was whether i ve not seen girls that give birth in their father's house. I was stil thinking of what to do when he went and told my father that am already pregnant for him. My father got annoyed and refused to pay my school fees for that year. I was in 3rd year in the university then, it was my mother that paid, if not i would ve quitted school. After some months, he came and paid my dowry. When he was abt coming, i called him and told him to please add more 5 thousand to the brideprice that i wil give him back so that my kinsmen wont laugh at me, he accepted but came with the same amt he told me initially. He did that because he knew i was already pregnant i cant leave him. After the brideprice payment while i was in his house, he will go out and comeback very late. When i try to be annoyed to know if he wil apologise, he wil just leave and go to bed. He will never apologise or console me even when i cry the whole night. In my tradition, after this first visit am supposed to go home with cloths but i went home with nothing. I wedded on sept. 2011 and i have a baby boy for him but i regret why i accepted to marry him. When i remember the past i hate him so much. The worst part of it is that he wants us to pack to village because he cant pay house rent. He doesnt even talk to me in manner that wil calm me down. He tells me" you think you are coming to enjoy money, you didnt look before leaping" . No remorse at all. I dont want to stay in the village after graduation. Am currently in my parents house so they help me carry my baby while i go to school. Even my mother regrets why i married him. Should i start suffering from poverty and a husband who doesnt appreciate me at my age till when. Am about writing my degree exam and am not concentrating. I need your advice please before i run mad.[sub][/sub]

op chrys1
in my own case his ego got stronger nd no atom
of remorse for his violent acts coz he blived i had
nowhere to go bak to.even his family at a point
supported him nd i was left to my faith to either
stay nd get killed out of frustration nd domestic
violence or leave wit my child nd move on and put
my life togeda again.
today am glad i walked away.
op i doubt if ur hubby wil change coz wit ut status
academically he wil feel intimidated nd defensive at
every opportumity.
the choice is urs to make.u ar stil young.try ti
work on ur personalty ns build ur confidence.dont
settle for less

in my humble opinion
Do not panic if you gonna remarry again Because that is not the priority.
First thing is to stay in your parents house, study hard and pass your exams. so that you can get a job to look after your son.
forget about divorce for now. When you finish your exams, if you want to continue with the marriage good if not then ok.
I know that the reason for all this was because he was poor. Assuming he was rich, you won't mind even when he says your parents are crazy, you will just smile and say" hmmm honey I noticed too".
Just face your book for now

2011 post lol. After basically insinuating her husband could not afford her, what tender love did she expect from him?

What was the big hurry to get married, while still in school?
You were so much in a hurry that you picked just "anyone".

Are you sure it was because of his blood group.
Sounds more like you wanted a father for your pregnancy.
Perhaps he is not even the father and you pushed it on him.
Just wondering because the reason for getting married does not make sense.

Now you have had the child you want to divorce him?
Is it crime to be poor?

Why can`t you build up the home with him an suffer together to make a future.

Blazay:
Mu he he he he he

Woman still dey h-open nynash for poor man born pikin these days?
Is 'barreness' not better than this?
Lord have mercy.
LWKMD!!!

Poverty is a spiritual crime I swear.

Oh? I don put mouth for hia as "Chief Blazay"!

No further kwamment. . .
Oya KONTINU!!!