This post is strictly directed to young guys who have spent between 0-5 years in marriage.

Kindly share your experiences for the bachelors to learn. These are what you should include

1. Your expectations before wedding
2. Your experiences with your significant other after wedding. It could be in any area.
3 Your view about marriage and women before wedding
4. Your current view of marriage/women having experienced btw 0-5 years of marriage.
5. Your advice to bachleors based on your experience.



Thanks for your honest advice. I believe your experiences and advice will go a long way for the newly wed and people hoping to marry soon. Thanks.

NiRfreak:
This post is strictly directed to young guys who have spent between 0-5 years in marriage.

Kindly share your experiences for the bachelors to learn. These are what you should include

1. Your expectations before wedding
2. Your experiences with your significant other after wedding. It could be in any area.
3 Your view about marriage and women before wedding
4. Your current view of marriage/women having experienced btw 0-5 years of marriage.
5. Your advice to bachleors based on your experience.



Thanks for your honest advice. I believe your experiences and advice will go a long way. Thanks.

And what exactly are you going to do with advice?

Marriage has no rules..

Marry who gets you

Drakkernoir:

And what exactly are you going to do with advice?
Marriage has no rules..
Marry who gets you

The post is obviously not directed to you. You can pass

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Marriage is a necessity. Whether our experience is good or bad, you'd stil have to give it a go and learn how to endure, tolerate, forgive, resist, and understand in marriage.

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Don't go into marriage with the highest expectations, you might end up with egg on ur face. Last last marriage is work, neva shy away from always working to smoothen the rough patches. It's heavenly when it's working out fine likewise it's hell when things are going awry.

Guys for Nairaland, why una dey fear marriage like this?

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And what exactly are you going to do with advice?
Marriage has no rules..
Marry who gets you
The post is obviously not directed to you. You can pass

cjeriia:
Don't go into marriage with the highest expectations, you might end up with egg on ur face. Last last marriage is work, neva shy away from always working to smoothen the rough patches. It's heavenly when it's working out fine likewise it's hell when things are going awry.

Hm.. tell me something.

I'm scared o.

Marriage, make I sell agbo finish

Recently married people can't ever give us advice and share their experience anonymously? nawao. I hope all is really well...

matrix199:
Marriage is a necessity. Whether our experience is good or bad, you'd stil have to give it a go and learn how to endure, tolerate, forgive, resist, and understand in marriage.

Marriage is not a necessity!

You can have a perfect existence without ever getting married

Please come and advice this confused lots deceiving themselves with red pill...


Meanwhile check my signature ka bikonu...

Jodha:
Please come and advice this confused lots deceiving themselves with red pill...


Meanwhile check my signature ka bikonu...

@bolded...are you from ohafia?

Nazgul:

@bolded...are you from ohafia?

I'm not

Jodha:


I'm not

Ok...kaa is an ohafia dialect. When I saw you use it I thought you were from there. It's ok anyways.

NiRfreak:
This post is strictly directed to young guys who have spent between 0-5 years in marriage.

Kindly share your experiences for the bachelors to learn. These are what you should include

1. Your expectations before wedding
2. Your experiences with your significant other after wedding. It could be in any area.
3 Your view about marriage and women before wedding
4. Your current view of marriage/women having experienced btw 0-5 years of marriage.
5. Your advice to bachleors based on your experience.

Thanks for your honest advice. I believe your experiences and advice will go a long way. Thanks.

1. Your expectations before wedding
I expected to live happily, build my career and build a family. I expected a family of love, bliss and happiness.

2. Your experiences with your significant other after wedding. It could be in any area.
Constant friction, hostility, occasional happiness and I've withdrawn into my shell. Developed severe hypertension and grey hair under 2 years of marriage.

3 Your view about marriage and women before wedding.
Before marriage, I felt women loved marriages. After getting married, I discovered women love weddings, not marriages. There is a difference.

4. Your current view of marriage/women having experienced btw 0-5 years of marriage.
Marry your friend. Friendship with your partner is more important than love for your partner. Nothing beats rest of mind. Marriage as practiced in this part of the world has little benefits to the man apart from procreation.

5. Your advice to bachleors based on your experience.
Don't let anyone force you into marriage.
Don't overspend on your wedding. If your wife wants something classy, tell her to draw up a list and give her family. I was stupid to spend almost 5M on mine.
Don't marry a lady you can't reason with. Don't marry a lady who doesn't earn her own money.
Look at how your wife's mother treats her father. That is exactly how she will treat you.
Divorce is always an option.

CalliDora1:


Hm.. tell me something.

I'm scared o.

Don't be.

It's full of the Good, bad and ugly.please i won't advise you to marry, both of u can have a contract give birth and stay together for 1 year,if it work for both of you go ahead with the small wedding plan not necessarily church or traditional. Just pay her dowry God is pleased with it.bro it is not easy for the past one year no savings. I'll use this medium to to congratulate my parents and those who parents are still leaving together they really tried, they sacrifice a lot

Ayospanish:
It's full of the Good, bad and ugly.please i won't advise you to marry, both of u can have a contract give birth and stay together for 1 year,if it work for both of you go ahead with the small wedding plan not necessarily church or traditional. Just pay her dowry God is pleased with it.bro it is not easy for the past one year no savings. I'll use this medium to to congratulate my parents and those who parents are still leaving together they really tried, they sacrifice a lot

Thanks for this input

Whiteshield:


1. Your expectations before wedding
I expected to live happily, build my career and build a family. I expected a family of love, bliss and happiness.

2. Your experiences with your significant other after wedding. It could be in any area.
Constant friction, hostility, occasional happiness and I've withdrawn into my shell. Developed severe hypertension and grey hair under 2 years of marriage.

3 Your view about marriage and women before wedding.
Before marriage, I felt women loved marriages. After getting married, I discovered women love weddings, not marriages. There is a difference.

4. Your current view of marriage/women having experienced btw 0-5 years of marriage.
Marry your friend. Friendship with your partner is more important than love for your partner. Nothing beats rest of mind. Marriage as practiced in this part of the world has little benefits to the man apart from procreation.

5. Your advice to bachleors based on your experience.
Don't let anyone force you into marriage.
Don't overspend on your wedding. If your wife wants something classy, tell her to draw up a list and give her family. I was stupid to spend almost 5M on mine.
Don't marry a lady you can't reason with. Don't marry a lady who doesn't earn her own money.
Look at how your wife's mother treats her father. That is exactly how she will treat you.
Divorce is always an option.

There's a wealth of experience here as told from your angle. Thank you.

- You will fucck taya in your first year but don't be surprised if sex goes down the drain sooner than you expect.. and the major reasons will be; having kids, having inlaws in and out of your house, arriving home late and stressed out due to traffic etc...)

- Marriage is sweeter when you develop a close friendship with your spouse's family.

- Marriage benefits women more than men. It's a financial contract which provides security for women.

- Never marry a jobless woman.

- As a man, take your time before settling down - esp. with today's pick of women even though I like to believe I got lucky with mine.

- Never allow your wife employ a child as househelp... and never turn a blind eye if she dares belittle or abuse any help! Deal with her accordingly if she tries such.

- If you marry in Nigeria, don't you dare move to America with a Nigerian wife, she will turn into karashika in a twinkle of an eye. Maybe UK, maybe Canada.. but you see that US of A, no try am!

Good luck.

Whiteshield:


1. Your expectations before wedding
I expected to live happily, build my career and build a family. I expected a family of love, bliss and happiness.

2. Your experiences with your significant other after wedding. It could be in any area.
Constant friction, hostility, occasional happiness and I've withdrawn into my shell. Developed severe hypertension and grey hair under 2 years of marriage.

3 Your view about marriage and women before wedding.
Before marriage, I felt women loved marriages. After getting married, I discovered women love weddings, not marriages. There is a difference.

4. Your current view of marriage/women having experienced btw 0-5 years of marriage.
Marry your friend. Friendship with your partner is more important than love for your partner. Nothing beats rest of mind. Marriage as practiced in this part of the world has little benefits to the man apart from procreation.

5. Your advice to bachleors based on your experience.
Don't let anyone force you into marriage.
Don't overspend on your wedding. If your wife wants something classy, tell her to draw up a list and give her family. I was stupid to spend almost 5M on mine.
Don't marry a lady you can't reason with. Don't marry a lady who doesn't earn her own money.
Look at how your wife's mother treats her father. That is exactly how she will treat you.
Divorce is always an option.

Wawu

Kuns84:
- You will fucck taya in your first year but don't be surprised if sex goes down the drain sooner than you expect.. and the major reasons will be; having kids, having inlaws in and out of your house, arriving home late and stressed out due to traffic etc...)

- Marriage is sweeter when you develop a close friendship with your spouse's family.

- Marriage benefits women more than men. It's a financial contract which provides security for women.

- Never marry a jobless woman.

- As a man, take your time before settling down - esp. with today's pick of women even though I like to believe I got lucky with mine.

- Never allow your wife employ a child as househelp... and never turn a blind eye if she dares belittle or abuse any help! Deal with her accordingly if she tries such.

- If you marry in Nigeria, don't you dare move to America with a Nigerian wife, she will turn into karashika in a twinkle of an eye. Maybe UK, maybe Canada.. but you see that US of A, no try am!

Good luck.

Wawu

Womanizer:


Marriage is not a necessity!

You can have a perfect existence without ever getting married

My son was watching an animated children movie. Along the movie, the male character kissed the female character. My boy shyed away in disgust. I smiled knowing fully well that when he gets to the right age, that part of the movie would be his favorite. Now i'm going to smile at you too, knowing fully well that when you get to the right age you'd come around.

Kuns84:
- You will fucck taya in your first year but don't be surprised if sex goes down the drain sooner than you expect.. and the major reasons will be; having kids, having inlaws in and out of your house, arriving home late and stressed out due to traffic etc...)

- Marriage is sweeter when you develop a close friendship with your spouse's family.

- Marriage benefits women more than men. It's a financial contract which provides security for women.

- Never marry a jobless woman.

- As a man, take your time before settling down - esp. with today's pick of women even though I like to believe I got lucky with mine.

- Never allow your wife employ a child as househelp... and never turn a blind eye if she dares belittle or abuse any help! Deal with her accordingly if she tries such.

- If you marry in Nigeria, don't you dare move to America with a Nigerian wife, she will turn into karashika in a twinkle of an eye. Maybe UK, maybe Canada.. but you see that US of A, no try am!

Good luck.

I hope this helps the would be groom and the just wedded

NiRfreak:
This post is strictly directed to young guys who have spent between 0-5 years in marriage.

Kindly share your experiences for the bachelors to learn. These are what you should include

1. Your expectations before wedding
2. Your experiences with your significant other after wedding. It could be in any area.
3 Your view about marriage and women before wedding
4. Your current view of marriage/women having experienced btw 0-5 years of marriage.
5. Your advice to bachleors based on your experience.



Thanks for your honest advice. I believe your experiences and advice will go a long way. Thanks.

Hmmmm, where do I start from....

My Expectations
I expected 100% loyalty from my wife, I am willing to pay all the bill as long as she stays loyal.

My Experience
I found out that her elder siblings wanted the same loyalty as me, they wanted to control her but I resisted, she was afraid to defy them probably because she was only 22 years when we got married, but I made sure she understood that she must be 100% loyal to me, 5 years down the line she overcome the fear and she is mine 100%.

My Views Before Marriage
Marriage gives you focus and happiness, Your wife creates a serene and peaceful atmosphere at home all the time.

My Views Post Marriage
Marriage is a blessing if you marry the right one, being a father makes me appreciate my parents more because I'm now parenting, another name for marriage is paying Bills but like I said I don't mind paying it all alone if my wife keep to my standards.
As for my spouse I realised she had a lot of growing up to do, my main likes in a spouse are intact so the love is still flowing, she is not superstitious, she is faithful, loyal, has good manners and can cook very well so I will bear with her short comings while she improves.

Advice to Bachelors
Don't marry a whoore, these days whoores strip and do 3soms, smoke weed and get drunk, they hate the kitchen and are too extravagant.
That decent girl is still your best option, ensure she is well mannered, don't be deceived by people that will tell you that decent girls are worst.
EARN A LIVING as in I can't over emphasize this.
Ensure you have something going on all the time, either a job or business.

hmmmm