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Re: Uncooperative Wife, Advise Needed Pls by Nobody: 7:00pm On Dec 28, 2020 |
Souqwaqif: Your mistake lies in expecting her to share information about her finances with you. If you know that you are taking care of all the expenses by yourself; as a man rightly should; then what sheakes shouldn't disturb you. Having said that, if she wants to run a business, she should pay the business expenses by herself. Since she feels like she does not want to include you into her confidence financially, then let her pay her shop rent by herself. Whether she defaults or not should not concern you. Since she is proving independent, let her carry the full responsibility of her own business. She's behaving like ASUU, they want to be fully independent, yet they still want to collect salary and allowances from government. |
Re: Uncooperative Wife, Advise Needed Pls by ibechris(m): 8:56pm On Dec 28, 2020 |
Bola146: Nigerian blessing I guess. Na when the man go die we go see the blessing abi? The woman must contributes her quota. |
Re: Uncooperative Wife, Advise Needed Pls by Nobody: 2:38am On Dec 29, 2020 |
Hello, I am sorry for what you are facing in your marriage. I am always shocked to learn how much importance money is to most marriages. I keep telling my wife that I think it is very stupid indeed that anyone will like money more than their partners. If you won't get angry I am of the opinion that you have not shown good leadership. As the man (yes, I am traditional in this) being the head doesn't mean you have to command your wife to comply with your way of thinking. It is something you must do by showing example. Make her know that she means more to you than money. Have you done that, prioritizing her above money? It makes no sense that you will trust your partner with your life by marrying her/him, but you won't trust him/her with your money. Call her, show true leadership. Have business meetings (that's what my wife and I call it) where you discuss family visions and projects that must factor in 100% her own plans. We do this every crossover night... Have a budget of how much such projects will cost including the family upkeep for the year. Measure that budget against your expected incomes (yours and hers) and deliberate where the shortfall will come from. Again, prioritize your wife. By taking leadership role in having visions that encompass her interests and needs, she will become what she is meant to be, an active participant in your life, rather than a competitor that she is right now. I wish you guys the best. Souqwaqif: |
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