Emperormartin:
Compliments of the season to all nairalanders...

Please I noticed a disturbing scenario playing in my house as I came back for xmas... My 67yr old dad use to smoke weed (Igbo) in our sitting room.

When we were younger, he use to smoke outside and occasionally smokes around the house especially late in the night or in the wee hours.

As a matter of fact I'm 30yrs and I have another younger brother who's 27yrs then my sister who's the youngest. But Non of us smoke weed or have toed in his line... My mother has tried in that aspect not to raise us like that!!!

I brought this issue here because I need help on how to make my aging dad DESIST from that lifestyle... It breaks my heart seeing him popping smoke like that and it's degrading when we have visitors in the house... And secondly I'm wary of his health!!!

Pls help a Brother!!!

illicit:



Dis proverb na very strong proverb o....

Nato008:

so u still carried this habit of reading without comprehending abi....u didn't see where OP said he visits during festive period.....mtchew

oz4real83:
I can feel your pain. Imagine having your visitor see your father smoking weed . It looks degrading on you especially with the way we associate weed to irresponsible people in Nigeria. You can only pray now, nothing more. He feels he owns and can do anything in his home especially now that he sees u and your siblings as adults that should be on their own for him to have his privacy to do anything in his home. He used to smoke in secret when you were young but openly does it now that u are adults to show u that he knows what he is doing

mariahAngel:

If you can get him to reduce it to once a day at least, or twice at most, I believe it won't do him harm.
Does he have a good appetite for food?

Emperormartin:

My brother I can confidently tell you it's not. Even right from onset... That woman has persevered!!! God bless her!!!

mariahAngel:
At this stage, there's little or nothing you can do about it.
Besides, marijuana is not bad, just the abuse of it. It's a herb.
How many times does he smoke it in a day?

Mindlog:
He has been on it for decades, stopping will be very difficult. With his children already grown up, there is no longer any motivation to quit. The only time he would temporarily quit is whenever he is on admission in a hospital and would continue when discharged.

Your mother has finally accepted him for who he is, so he is comfortable in his paradise.

jeff1607:



And if a grandchild is in the house , this might motivate him to stop

Emperormartin:

No. He doesn't fall sick always. But his health hasn't been sound in recent years

Rossintii:


Honestly, he must be a very wise man. One can imagine the level of thoughts in his head at 67 smoking ganja. A real treasure trove of wisdom and insight.

Emperormartin:
Compliments of the season to all nairalanders...

Please I noticed a disturbing scenario playing in my house as I came back for xmas... My 67yr old dad use to smoke weed (Igbo) in our sitting room.

When we were younger, he use to smoke outside and occasionally smokes around the house especially late in the night or in the wee hours.

As a matter of fact I'm 30yrs and I have another younger brother who's 27yrs then my sister who's the youngest. But Non of us smoke weed or have toed in his line... My mother has tried in that aspect not to raise us like that!!!

I brought this issue here because I need help on how to make my aging dad DESIST from that lifestyle... It breaks my heart seeing him popping smoke like that and it's degrading when we have visitors in the house... And secondly I'm wary of his health!!!

Pls help a Brother!!!

Emperormartin:

We were young and in primary Schools. He use to hide when doing it. We didn't have much option then. But now we've grown. He's still doing it...and we don't smoke!!!
We just want to help him

CzarChris:
Are you serious right now? This misconception about weed smokers is quite funny to say the least. I personally know judges, captains of industries, professors, bankers who smoke weed heavily. That you see a few touts on the road misbehaving shouldn't give you such ungodly idea that weed smokers a no do gooders in life.


@Emperormartin, leave your Dad alone, forcing him to quit smoking weed may lead to his early demise. Just pray he quits at his own time and pace.

alloy123:
Bro,its not a misconception about ganja as per se irrespective of those named TITLES you mentioned..Mind you,weed smokers do not smoke it in moderation just like what we got from the medically refined ones maybe through drips and the rest..Just google and see the effects of STIMULANT to the neurons

Mindlog:


Though that may soften him but I feel his children would not be comfortable sending their own children to spend time with him.

Richardlove:
During my university days, nearly everything I cook or eat contain weed. I could read from 4:00 p.m to 8:00 a. m and enter examination hall and drop word for word answers to questions. I wrote many imaginery contents. You will never know I smoke weed because I do it codedly. Oh, those good old days! But, now I willinly gave up smoking habits for reasons known to me. Not for any healthy or legal reason.
My advise to OP, you're now a man, a full grown adult. Be nice to your dad so as to gain his trust. Show more kindness especially when he is smoking the weed or after smoking the weed. I prefer after smoking the weed because he will be in his good mood then. Your kindness is not limited to this period alone. But do it more during these periods. During these time discuss things with him. Buys him suppliment, fruits, wine, clothings, foot wears etc. As much as you can afford. You're to buy for mum too so as not to create jelousy. But your target is your dad. Study him and try to understand some facts about him. Then ask him one day the "bomb questionn." If he can give up this smoking habit? I'm sure he might tell you, "Son, I can't, or bla bla." If he accepts to give it up, thank God your wish prevailed if not still continue to be nice to him. That is the price tag you'll have to pay to get your wish granted. Remember, you have sown a seed in his heart with that question. The seed will continue to grown because he is a human being and a reasonable being for that matter. One day, you'll be surprised at onec he'll stop it or gradually reduced it and finally stop it.
Note, smoking is not bad. it is abuse, addictions, and the consequent result of violent behaviours that makes it bad. Even eating banana to stupor can be term an abuse and bad.
Finally, from your narration, your dad seem to be one lucky dude who weed is good for. Good luck on your journey to rehab you dad.