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Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Saintspapa: 4:59pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Because couple live together under one roof does not mean they are together, many marriages have been torn apart from the very beginning even the olden days the same thing does happen, but the difference now is but a simple fact, people are being more vocal than before. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by iramure(m): 5:00pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Simply because after RELIGION, Marriage is the 2nd greatest scam to mankind. Failure of submission on the part of woman is a major problem. Two masters can not direct a ship. Even my own, I am very tired and no more intrested 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Nobody: 5:00pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Liposure:You damm!! Right! I have... |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by yeman1(m): 5:00pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
SchoolPedia: When you're about to married, woman humble and give you maximum good character you've expected. But immediately you married then those love begin to depreciate especially when you have kids. I'm praying to find ways to runaway . I can't die young. I provided all what a woman needs at home but yet I have no rest of mind. Social media spoilt many homes already. Any little thing, offline messages will be sent to their entire friends & family when you had a little misunderstanding. . 1 Like |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Godbless3(m): 5:01pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Marraige in the past is base on understanding, friendship and respect created between families. Our forefathers make sure they look into the family that their son/daughter are to marry into, pre arrange it and they are brought in a good background and its easy to mediate if couple has misunderstanding. Marraige this days is base on "LOVE" that is generated and can easily be undone if the behaviour of the opposite change. Love is an attraction of a certain attributes and once that attributes is gone, love will disappear. This days, couple tends to copy what friends do outside to their home which never work and share their problem with mate instead of sharing it with an elderly family member with marital experience. There is no marraige on earth that don't experience problem and misunderstanding. 1 Like |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by thaoriginator: 5:01pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Simply because love is dead and buried |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by isah80: 5:02pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
I just want to say this, married people should stay off their phones and concentrate on their marriage, people will be with their families and they will not communicate with them because they are chatting with friends on the phone, it is very funny the way families are together but they are far from each other. Friends on the phone are virtual friends that when you are in danger or trouble, they will disappear and you will bear your pains and they will even be the first to post your problems on the internet and you will be surprised. Women, take care of your Husbands because a lot of ladies want what you have but you will never know. Respect your husbands and treat them nice so that they will not have the heart to look outside to even notice another ladies kindness. Family is very important. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by jupitre(m): 5:03pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Why do people get married?? For Love or For children?? This is a question that must be answered first.. Marriage is not for everybody... it's not a must to get married,I guess people to think it through before going into in.Some think it's an obligation that must be fulfilled. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by vioment: 5:03pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
We can't judge what those in the past would have done. Go farm, come back, work for house, then the husband is to make village noise, etc. We don't know. All the way until the 90s and early 2000s, Lagos was flyover and mezmerizing to other nigerians not from Lagos. Times have changed. If our moms and dads, or grandparents had the same technologies, we don't know how it would have impacted their relationships. I can't give past generation credit on discipline if the tech influence and courts are not factored in. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Philipsdael(m): 5:04pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Feminism is one cause Nowadays society doesn't see divorce as an abomination instead it glorifies it and rewards it. Also, social media teaches the nowadays us not to be content with what we have....this seems trivial but it's the catalist which breeds lots of discontent |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Pochettino(f): 5:08pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Ofemmanu1: You should be arrested. Anumanu 1 Like |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Naughtysex: 5:08pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
sisisioge:you made valid points this is just the answer to OP's question |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Toks2008(m): 5:08pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
It's because of misplaced priority... Cc: Lalasticlala https://www.nairaland.com/5492915/present-day-woman-misplaced-priority-marriage |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Neddstark: 5:10pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Then there was just one captain of the ship - The Man Now there are 2 captains. You know what they say about a ship with more than one captain. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Jeterry(m): 5:13pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Right on |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Austin4Jesus(m): 5:18pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Social Media Influence |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by nigeriansamurai(m): 5:18pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
crackhaus:Exactly man!! Nobody wants to be "cheated" 1 the wife ex feminist the man rtd. red piller 2 as young people we no go like dull we like to enjoy our self as such in our adolescence inculcate bad and harmful beliefs and behaviours (eg. Unfaithfulness) these behaviours will sure bite back in the future no matter how much you love your partner 3 influence from the social figures especially from social media. with money or fame comes respect ones a person gets rich in our society today he/she is a figure to so many. As so we the followers forget that not everyone is fit to give advice so by trying to follow trends or a figure we may be destroyed Peace. 1 Like |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by nedzuby: 5:20pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
HRHQueenPhil: Devil has nothing to do with the high rate of divorce in the world. We need to start taking responsibility for our actions instead of blaming everything to others or devil If people concentrate on their marriages and not allow their egos to take over them they will be able to salvage it. couples should learn how to forgive and respect one another. Misunderstanding is normal in any marriage but they holding onto their egos instead of reaching a compromise will surely cause problems. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Nobody: 5:23pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Marriages don't last again because of the following dynamics 1. THE LAW has empowered the female folks and this goes against the African tradition. 2. Feminism 3. The Internet has helped to transport foreign culture..e.g baby mama and all that... |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Nato008(m): 5:25pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Pochettino:how someone will just calm down and type utter nonsense baffles me....just read what u wrote, 80% of our grand parents..rarely experienced domestic abuse.. 1 Like |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by kodix(m): 5:26pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Every one want twist the law of marriage the way it will suit him or her.thanks |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by NOBLE179(m): 5:28pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
it is because to captions can't sail a ship at the same time. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by BLoomfrancs(m): 5:29pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
HRHQueenPhil: Devil dey dey mind him own business for hellfire, you dey here dey call am. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by praz001(m): 5:30pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
As much as we may shift all blames on improve in tech, let patners learn to APPRECIATE APPOLOGISE COMPROMISE Allowing God to be the captain of the ship.. Any marriage devoid of God's standard will surely collapes.. [quote author=mkoabiola post=97988175]Social media. Feminism Slay queen. Etc |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Nobody: 5:30pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Because social media gives people the illusion of a perfect marriage. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Zane2point4(m): 5:32pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
angelfallz:Am yet to see a man who sees providing for his family as unimportant. Men may still provide for jennifa but still yet cant stand to see his family hungry. Unless na mental man or a drunk one. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by keeper303: 5:34pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
kenny1313: This is the correct reason for the increasing number of divorce. 1 Like |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Itzurboi(m): 5:34pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
bukatyne:Nice point... |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by KaptainAfrika: 5:36pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Unlike today when women can escape abusive marriages...the forefathers and parents didn't have such opportunities...it's not enough to be in a marriage for long years, but to be in a marriage filled with happiness and joy and love is very important. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Geesaintagape: 5:37pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Many marriages these days is economy minded and such can't stand test of time. 2- Many marriages then we're guarded by traditional. 3 women were submissive unlike now. 4 Materialism was not much then. 5 Parents never wanted to hear anything like divorce unlike today's parents that are not parents enough. 6 Religion was constructive then unlike now |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Johnnyplus01k(m): 5:37pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Marriage are done this dayz based on different factors, not just for love but to meet ends meet unlike before that things are done based on love |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by judedwriter(m): 5:37pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
SchoolPedia: Today's marriages are under a lot of spiritual attack by the devil. No other time in history has marriages come under demonic attack like now. Secondly, the sharp rise of sexual immorality has seriously undermined marriage. So many young men are thinking: "why would I stick to one person, when I can sleep with many as possible?" The over availability of porn and illicit sexual relationships has made marriage look like a joke. 1 Like |
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