Nazgul:
Respect they say is reciprocal. When you respect yourself, no one will insult you, no one will bruise your ego.

The truth is many people don't really understand this public proposal and why it's done. Many guys that engage in it aren't really dating the girl. They're just one of her admirers who she gives attention to. So they try to put her into a very tight corner (blackmail) by proposing publicly so that she would have no choice than to marry them.

I never really knew this until one of my silly friends tried it with a girl he met in a wedding he attended. She's very pretty, in less than two weeks of their getting to know each other he invited her to an eatery and proposed. The crazy thing was that this guy didn't even tell we his friends what he had in mind. We were just eating and gisting, suddenly he just brought out ring went on one knee and was even begging her to marry him.

The girl just hissed and walked away. I felt like slapping him.

If you're dating a girl, I mean real dating not stalking, and both of you are matured enough to get married, she will be the one indirectly asking you questions pertaining to settling down, some will even ask you boldly so thay can know where they stand with you. And if you finally propose after months and years of keeping her in the dark, you'll get a loud yes, a hug and a mind blowing sex.

Tajbol4splend:
I can't think of anything worse

DaudaTheSexyGuy:


I hate public marriage proposals with passion!

Nazgul:
Respect they say is reciprocal. When you respect yourself, no one will insult you, no one will bruise your ego.

The truth is many people don't really understand this public proposal and why it's done. Many guys that engage in it aren't really dating the girl. They're just one of her admirers who she gives attention to. So they try to put her into a very tight corner (blackmail) by proposing publicly so that she would have no choice than to marry them.

I never really knew this until one of my silly friends tried it with a girl he met in a wedding he attended. She's very pretty, in less than two weeks of their getting to know each other he invited her to an eatery and proposed. The crazy thing was that this guy didn't even tell we his friends what he had in mind. We were just eating and gisting, suddenly he just brought out ring went on one knee and was even begging her to marry him.

The girl just hissed and walked away. I felt like slapping him.

If you're dating a girl, I mean real dating not stalking, and both of you are matured enough to get married, she will be the one indirectly asking you questions pertaining to settling down, some will even ask you boldly so thay can know where they stand with you. And if you finally propose after months and years of keeping her in the dark, you'll get a loud yes, a hug and a mind blowing sex.

Nazgul:
Respect they say is reciprocal. When you respect yourself, no one will insult you, no one will bruise your ego.

The truth is many people don't really understand this public proposal and why it's done. Many guys that engage in it aren't really dating the girl. They're just one of her admirers who she gives attention to. So they try to put her into a very tight corner (blackmail) by proposing publicly so that she would have no choice than to marry them.

I never really knew this until one of my silly friends tried it with a girl he met in a wedding he attended. She's very pretty, in less than two weeks of their getting to know each other he invited her to an eatery and proposed. The crazy thing was that this guy didn't even tell we his friends what he had in mind. We were just eating and gisting, suddenly he just brought out ring went on one knee and was even begging her to marry him.

The girl just hissed and walked away. I felt like slapping him.

If you're dating a girl, I mean real dating not stalking, and both of you are matured enough to get married, she will be the one indirectly asking you questions pertaining to settling down, some will even ask you boldly so thay can know where they stand with you. And if you finally propose after months and years of keeping her in the dark, you'll get a loud yes, a hug and a mind blowing sex.

bukatyne:


Hmmmmmmmm.

I have always wondered about rejected public proposals.

Nazgul:
Respect they say is reciprocal. When you respect yourself, no one will insult you, no one will bruise your ego.

The truth is many people don't really understand this public proposal and why it's done. Many guys that engage in it aren't really dating the girl. They're just one of her admirers who she gives attention to. So they try to put her into a very tight corner (blackmail) by proposing publicly so that she would have no choice than to marry them.

I never really knew this until one of my silly friends tried it with a girl he met in a wedding he attended. She's very pretty, in less than two weeks of their getting to know each other he invited her to an eatery and proposed. The crazy thing was that this guy didn't even tell we his friends what he had in mind. We were just eating and gisting, suddenly he just brought out ring went on one knee and was even begging her to marry him.

The girl just hissed and walked away. I felt like slapping him.

If you're dating a girl, I mean real dating not stalking, and both of you are matured enough to get married, she will be the one indirectly asking you questions pertaining to settling down, some will even ask you boldly so thay can know where they stand with you. And if you finally propose after months and years of keeping her in the dark, you'll get a loud yes, a hug and a mind blowing sex.

Magnoliaa:

Except for the bolded part I disagree with, this explains some things for me, because I don't get why you and a girl that are cool, have been dating strongly, even talked about marriage lots of time would suddenly flip on you in public and reject your proposal.

Nawa for the things men do to corner women, o.

Nazgul:

What's your reason for your disagreement?

Magnoliaa:

Proposing after years and months of keeping her in the dark sounds like some manipulation thingy to me. An intentional thing to keep her hanging onto you, confused, not knowing where to go or what to do.

DaudaTheSexyGuy:


I hate public marriage proposals with passion!

Nazgul:

That's the idea.

Many average girls see relationships as poverty alleviation program. Like one twitter user rightfully pointed out... once you ask her out, you automatically owe her money from that day.

If for example I'm clamouring for marriage, and she's looking for something else like money, don't you think I will be the one to get hurt? I shouldn't be the only one clamouring for marriage in a relationship, when I know it will benefit her more.

If she sincerely wants to get married she should desire it, talk about it, act like it, reason like it...when I see her seriousness and maturity in becoming responsible and settling down, I'll propose.

to note being an exception to every rule on the earth, @bolded is my philosophy. charging is my hobby, billing gives me orgasm. if i don't do that, what will I na be doing?

anyway, you pipu shu continue dating una sef, abeg, with your manipulations and benefits yada yada yada. why do you want to enter into an institution that does not benefit you as much as it benefits her?

mscheew.

Magnoliaa:

to note being an exception to every rule on the earth, @bolded is my philosophy. charging is my hobby, billing gives me orgasm. if i don't do that, what will I na be doing?

anyway, you pipu shu continue dating una sef, abeg, with your manipulations and benefits yada yada yada. why do you want to enter into an institution that does not benefit you as much as it benefits her?

mscheew.

Magnoliaa:

to note being an exception to every rule on the earth, @bolded is my philosophy. charging is my hobby, billing gives me orgasm. if i don't do that, what will I na be doing?

anyway, you pipu shu continue dating una sef, abeg, with your manipulations and benefits yada yada yada. why do you want to enter into an institution that does not benefit you as much as it benefits her?

mscheew.

Magnoliaa:

Except for the bolded part I disagree with, this explains some things for me, because I don't get why you and a girl that are cool, have been dating strongly, even talked about marriage lots of time would suddenly flip on you in public and reject your proposal.

Nawa for the things men do to corner women, o.

cooooooks:
Seems to me that you and the other commenter are saying the same thing.

cooooooks:
Public proposals make almost no sense.

You and your partner should know that you want to get married to each other.

Magnoliaa:

Nahh. We're not. He's talking about manipulation and game and staying on top of things, very well at the expense of the girl/other person. He said proposing after years and months of keeping her in the dark, so you can get a big yes and everything. I mean, wtf is that??

And you're definitely not doing that to any girl that doesn't have time to waste.


Are the public proposals the issues here? Or the unseriousness and uncertainty of the parties involved?

But, I think I get your point. It's become such a cultural norm that... One person is not the one doing the marrying/picking; both are getting married to each other. No wonder Nazgul said w. He's the one proposing, he's got all the cards and direct the course of the relationship.

Thing is, I don't mind all the pomp and fare if the couple wants and can afford them, but I see no justification for the kneeling-down-to-propose on the guy's part. Tweaking the prevailing and inherited culture (especially around heterosexual relationships) would be the way to go for me.

cooooooks:
Ah, sense and link letters??

I agree with your statement completely.

Sense and link letters?

Sense and pink letters, you mean?



Mscheeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwww.

Now you're being--. I thought you were open-minded and wouldn't even think something like that?

Magnoliaa:

Sense and link letters?

Sense and pink letters, you mean?



Mscheeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwww.

Now you're being--. I thought you were open-minded and wouldn't even think something like that?