SMALL GIST

Towards the end of last year I came across a guy I had seen before (few months back) online, had looked through his posts and thought I might want to talk to him. So I decided why not. I sent a message saying, "Hello, my name is... You look like someone from so and so tribes, are you this tribe?" I slept off as it was night and woke up next day to see an answer. He responded nicely and politely and within the next few days I had one of the most amazing conversations with anyone in recent years.

Having that conversation taught me a couple of things, just by virtue of talking to this person I realized subconsciously I was already holding on to some negative thoughts about life, men, relationships and as we asked each other questions, we both learned from each other. We vibed at the same intellectual and maybe emotional frequency. He gave me his attention � percent. Whether we are still talking or not, you gist lovers should come back another day for that part. Haha! �

So now let's get to business.

NOTE OF WARNING PLEASE

�This post is not to encourage young girls, teenage girls to say they are shooting shots.
�This post is not to encourage you to start running after another woman's man in the name of shooting shots.
� And this post is not to encourage you to stay and keep trying to make someone like you or talk to you. You can't force anything.
�It is for assertive, focused ladies who know how to identify what they want but keep conforming to the silent standards that a man must make the first move to learn it does not have to be that way.

So moving on to the point. What ways can you shoot your shot and make the first move?

✔️As in my example, reach out, say hello and add something that will likely lead to a conversation with the person. A question, a compliment... This applies to talking online or physical interaction. All of this requires being bold. How bold are you?

✔️Have a basis or foundation that can lead to a discussion, you see them reading a book you've read, you see them wearing something you know about, comment on it and start your conversation.

The above two examples is with the assumption that you have never spoken to the person and want to break the ice.
So what if you already talk to this person and you know you see potential in them and want more. You either keep dropping hints, like showing concern, being there for them, dropping hints which to me is a time waster and form or self torture, that brings me to the next option which is the one many ladies feel is "God forbid" for them. TELL HIM.

It's tough, but tell him what you see in him and admire, have always admired and why you think you both could be more. You will never know till you ask. If you are feeling bold, ask to meet and spill it. OR write him and spill it, saves you from the anxiety of a face to face interaction.

Everything in life has its plus side and not so great side. Weigh a situation very well before making a move. If you think the friendship you have is better as it is, then that means it holds more weight as a friendship, shooting your shots can lead to loss of friendships, are you willing to take that risk? I'm talking about something like never talking to this person again for the rest of your life. Hehe! But then again, it may also lead to to having the very best kind of relationship you've always wanted, you may also keep the friendship after the awkwardness of the situation has passed and everyone can be themselves again. These are the possibilities.

MORE POINTS TO NOTE

�Shooting your shot does not make you a loose woman, as long as you keep it modest, decent and straight forward. Sending someone nudes is not shooting your shots. That's another thing entirely.
�Shooting your shot does not mean if the man didn't turn out what you thought then you stay and start enduring nonsense. It should be BOY BYE for you.
�Shooting your shot requires you to not be ashamed that you like someone. We live in times where you liking someone is used as a weakness or weapon against you. We like people. We love people. Why should we be ashamed of something that is good?
� You can and will get rejected if shoot your shot, please know your pain and endurance level before you indulge.
�If a man rubs it in your face, it makes you know very fast that this person you thought you like isn't even all that.

The more you can ask for things, the more your skin grows thick to rejection and you move ahead.
Find what works for you. This is just my own angle to the shooting your shot saga as a lady. It gives you a chance at being with someone you really want.

Your thoughts on this in the comment section, I'm sure they'll be very interesting.

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In summary, shoot your shots. No time to waste time or someone else will shoot the shots for you. Peace.