BadRadio:
lol... attention seeking leech

MoneySavannah:


Thirty year Old slowpoke. Fool at thirty.

BadRadio:
a roaming childish scavenger eating mummies food

hstar:

U are correct

I used to be good and use to be good up till now

But sometimes, I deliberately do bad, not evil bad o, or badly bad but minimum amount of bad so as to prove that I'm not stupid, I'm human not an angel

Lastly, why I sometimes do that is because pple that I do help don turn me to mumu

They tend to discuss amongst themselves that 'just go and meet him, he would say yes, he doesn't know how to say no'

Revolva:
Every guy should know how to not be a SIMP for naija gals and never trust dem

True

Mikester:
Very funny

A man bought a house in 2013, next to his ex-wife just to install a giant middle finger statue so that she would see it everyday.

iRepNaija1:
Agreed with mostly everything until I got to number 14. Just like men don't want to be treated like children by their wives, wives do not want to be treated like children by their husbands. We as a people really need to step away from this fixation with having wives "who look up" to their husbands or husbands needing to "correct" wives when they make mistakes. The language is off-putting and it's weird infantilization.

IhateInjustice:


Exactly. How can a husband treat a wife like a daughter

It was an illustration. No need to be annoyed about it

Mikester:



Lmao, .

Guy, I'm laughing at you not laughing with you.
Jesus is God and I'm not comparing myself to his supremacy. I'm only using him as an example - an example of someone young who imparted knowledge in the minds of people. Don't know where you got that your warped theory from.

Actually you are laughing at yourself. Saying you are qualified to advice men at 21 because Jesus did at 12 is you trying to compare your abilities with him forgetting Jesus was no ordinary human being. He was able to know all he did at that age because he was part GOD! at least if we are to believe what the Bible says. So that alone renders your point redundant.




I'm the OP

Mikester:



Lmao, .

Guy, I'm laughing at you not laughing with you.
Jesus is God and I'm not comparing myself to his supremacy. I'm only using him as an example - an example of someone young who imparted knowledge in the minds of people. Don't know where you got that your warped theory from.




I'm the OP

slyfoxxjoe:





Actually you are laughing at yourself. Saying you are qualified to advice men at 21 because Jesus did at 12 is you trying to compare your abilities with him forgetting Jesus was no ordinary human being. He was able to know all he did at that age because he was part GOD! at least if we are to believe what the Bible says. So that alone renders your point redundant.

Mikester:


Success isn't strictly about being wealthy. Success is the achievement of one's life goals. If I have the goal of getting married and I eventually did with a good wife and wonderful children, I'm veritably successful. So I know what it means to be successful. Do you?

Mikester:


Not really though. People will take you for granted when you forgive too easily.

If someone offends you, don't forgive so fast. Create an impression that you don't like what they did. Let them be aware that you don't appreciate their offense towards you.

Let them realise the gravity of their offence, shun it, then you forgive






We're all unique bro. I'm not an expert like I stated but I have an advice to give, an advice veritably true backed up with facts.

I'll advise you get rid of that delusion you're maintaining and you might find the sound advice or help that have always eluded you. Don't look down on anyone in life. No one knows everything but everyone knows something.

OyinO:


Therefore, you call or refer to the person that chooses not to get married a failure simply because they didn't do what you did? You're digressing far from the subject matter. You said that sex has no profit and reward, therefore I think you trying to be successful by getting married for the sake of sex and procreation negates and contradicts your assertion. If sex has no profit or reward, why are you planning to get married?

ekerensima:


boss na correct word you talk so, if the person nor show sign of repentance no need to reconcile

Mikester:


You singlehandedly and subconsciously misconstrued my statement now you want me to reply you logically, thereby I humbly withdraw myself from engaging in these vain arguments with you. It seems you find it difficult to comprehend statements.

OyinO:

haaaahaaaahaa!!! Peace be with you. Enjoy your time.

ElijahIme1992:
Op I love ur insight abt life and more impressed dat at ur age u have gathered so much wisdom.... Respect

Mikester:


Contradict it with facts to seal my stupidity else...

BabaIbo:


That is harsh, you can oppose him without being too hard.
He is right if you think otherwise, give your reason in a responsible manner.


Back to the post, OP your opinion/view may be valid for people your age and maybe some above your age but when you get to a certain level in life, you will realize so many things.

Life has no proven written rules or principles, you can only find guide which can't guarantee 100% result.

There are people that followed rules and are still struggling, while some live life as it comes and are doing well today.

And there are people that set rules/principles to follow and they are doing well.

Every stages in life has its own challenges.

Remember the saying that Life is a mystery or a journey.


In summary, your post is not bad, it is good.
You did well in compiling that list but there is level/stage in life you will get to that some or most of them may not be applicable and again you have to put into consideration the situation/condition of the person involved.
You don't expect someone that is being fed or a privileged person to have same orientation with someone that is striving to feed himself/his loved ones i.e a person that is not privileged.

Pegi23:


Else what? Small boy respect ur self joor

Pegi23:


I don't mean to be harsh oo but to me he should keep quiet
When he start working and living alone then he will know how the real world is.

Mikester:
I’m almost halfway through being 21, an age I’m legally an adult and a man. Having emerged from the tangled forest of adolescence I’ve learned many lessons. I learned a lot of them through watching other people. Some I just figured out through wisdom and insight and some were learned through trial and errors.

Not saying I'm an expert though but I want to pass this wisdom down to fellow young guys like me hopefully they have a bit more of a roadmap to help guide them than I did.


1. Some people should be kept at arm’s length.

It’s a good thing to show love and compassion to people. It's good to be friendly but it’s also important to understand who should be in your inner circle and who you should keep at a distance or even avoid. Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Destructive people are out there. The sooner you spot who they are and where they should fit in your life the better.

2. Forgive.

People are going to do you wrong and hurt you. No matter what you do, you will be hurt by someone at some point and that’s often out of your control but what you do in the aftermath is entirely in your hands. Holding grudges never does anyone any good. It’s self destructive and can even seep over into relationships that have nothing to do with the person who hurt you. That said, that doesn’t mean that you should necessarily let them back into your life right after. Forgiveness is about letting go of the hurt and grudge, not about completely forgetting and pretending it didn’t happen.

3. First impressions are more important than you can imagine.

You only have a chance to make a good impression, so putting your mind toward it is always your best option. From dressing decently and speaking articulately to standing tall and making eye contact. The way you present yourself is the way people will see you and the way people see you will determine how they treat you and the opportunities they give you. Make sure you make a powerful impression.

4. It’s good to take risks and be bold.

Most of the best things in life usually comes with a risk. Know how and when to take risks. Be wise and strong enough to invest where necessary and be bold enough to take on challenges you encounter.

5. Being real is more important than being posh.

“You’re such a genuine guy,” is my favorite compliment. This to me is so much better than being told I’m posh. Real people see, recognize and are drawn to authenticity. Believe it or not, most people, especially girls, can tell exactly when you’re faking or trying too hard. If you want to draw the right people to you, then just be real with yourself and them, instead of putting up a facade in order to look cool or to be accepted. Being cool is for a moment, but authenticity lasts for a lifetime.

Simply put, don't chase people - man or woman, rather be yourself and invest more in yourself and the right people will come around you. Chasing people leads you to the wrong people and puts you at a huge loss.This also applies to relationships

6. Don't do drugs

Drugs make your mind perverted and your sense of judgement corrupted not to talk of the terrible health effects of drug intake. It's not for men with ambition to take drugs, give drugs to men who have decided to wallow in mediocrity and scornful living.

Moreover smoking causes impotence in men. Hope you quit smoking after reading this.

7. Other people can’t heal or fix you.

Your friends, family and romantic relationships can help you. They can speed up the healing process, support you when things are bad and guide you towards where you should go. They can reveal truths to you that maybe you couldn’t see. But in the end, when dealing with deep internal wounds and life establishment, no one can actually fix you. That part is on you and your God.

8. The world doesn’t owe you anything.

You’re not owed stuff and things simply by virtue of existence. Life tends to give back what you put into it. The people who always get the most seem to be in my experience, those who give the most freely. So, instead of walking around with an entitled mindset, try to figure out what you can contribute.

9. Just because it “feels right” doesn’t mean it is.

A lot of people will abandon their previously set moral boundaries because something “feels right.” Sometimes things feel right in the moment and are simply destructive in the long run. Feelings are important but acting out entirely on them is a path to destruction.

10. The future is a reality.

You’ll hear a lot about “live in the present,” and you definitely should, but living in the present also comes with the responsibility of making choices right now that will affect your tomorrow. Living in the present is not permission to live like tomorrow doesn’t exist because when it comes around, it can be a rude awakening.

11. Control your sexual urges

Sex isn't everything. It has no profit nor reward. Early and uncontrolled sex makes you inactive towards aspects of your life that needs your energy and attention and an inactive man is an unhappy man - a loser. It also makes you more liable to have an unhealthy marriage later in life.

God forbid we be counting sex partners while our mates are counting money.

Don't rush into sex or make it a priority else you will find it very difficult to attain greater heights in your life which will lead you into depression and regrets especially when you see your mates ahead of you. There is a lot of time for sex after marriage.

12. Your value is everything

I don't know much about ladies but for a guy, you're only followed, respected and regarded by your value - what you can offer. A man with less or no value is looked down by society. A man creates himself not finds himself. Daily exercise in self-control, knowledge and wealth acquisition gradually creates improvements in your worth. Don't underestimate that. You're meant to be a leader in your home so invest in yourself in order for you to lead well.

The lifestyle of a man largely depends on IQ and a higher level of intelligence leads to a better lifestyle for him. Your intelligence and energy is everything. Work on that.

13. You aren't the first to face your difficulties

Most men today think that they have it harder than previous generations did but it is not true. If you could make it to where you are now, you can still do better. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure.

Be strong and keep hustling. Lessen your gratification and double your hustle. Remember energy and persistence conquers all things.

14. Be careful with women

Do not give your strength to women. Don't love women you can't trust. Study any woman you want to settle down with and don't ignore the red flags you find. You do this for the future you so that you won't find yourself in troubles you could have avoided.

Do not make your woman your superior rather see her as your daughter. Love her and correct her when she errs. Any woman who doesn't respect you shouldn't be in your life. You're the one marrying her and paying the bride price. Don't settle for less.

15. Give attention to your wife and children

Children turn out better when they have the attention of their parents - when they parents spend quality time with them. As children need mother's love and attention, they also need father's care and attention. Have time for them and converse with them. Sometimes children wish their parents had more open conversations with them. Same applies to your wife. Pay attention to her.


Courtesy - Mikester

Mikester:


Really? I'm independent, I pay my bills, fund myself and give to charity. Yesterday I felt like eating pounded yam and this morning I am and feeling good over here.

I'm not disrespectful, I only have a violent reaction towards stupid people. Do a favour to yourself, stop focusing on me being naive and focus more on you being truly matured. When you are wrong, admit it, when you are right, be quit.

Pegi23:



Lol I laugh. You pay bill��

Small boy will u keep quiet

You wanna eat pounded yam yesterday and you did is that one now news?..stop asking mommy and daddy for allowance you grown baby

Mikester:

*chuckles*

Limassol:


Just a reminder: You must not reply everything people said at you. Sometimes its better you maintain silence and ignore their aggravating/hurtful words rather than try to prove a point which may be futile anyways. Silence as they say is golden.

And remember what Winston Churchill said?

LordsBattleAxe:
Omoo! Laff wan finish me here Dude, you're just 21. It'll be fair to say you haven't seen an iota of what life is.. I'm close to 30, and some of your assertions don't work. On a good note, you have a good head on your shoulders. Cheers to the next 9 years

OyinO:


Therefore, you call or refer to the person that chooses not to get married a failure simply because they didn't do what you did? You're digressing far from the subject matter. You said that sex has no profit and reward, therefore I think you trying to be successful by getting married for the sake of sex and procreation negates and contradicts your assertion. If sex has no profit or reward, why are you planning to get married?