A friend recently said that he would rather accept the advice of a person who had a failed marriage than from someone who has never tested the business of marriage. It is often said that one who wears a shoe know where it pinches. To him, he has the theory but nature/experience has the practice.

Now will you accept the advice or counsel of one who is a specialist in marriage talks but had never been married before?

Not really relevant. whether married or not. in fact a lot of people give very good advice which they don't follow themselves.
it is like saying would you see a male gynaecologist of male midwife because they are not women and do not know how women feel.
the important thing is training, if there is training in that area and professional experience.
in fact not having personal experience might be an advantage

No. I would want someone who does not have a theory on marriage but one who has applied it to real life situations. In my opinion married people think differently than single people do. Even here on NL I can usually tell if someone is married or not just by how they approach situations and answer questions.

On the other hand, with so many people today living together without the benefit of clergy, they still

have the same life experiences as couples who've been through the marital ceremony. Their opinions

and suggestions should not be discounted. But whether to have a married or previously

married counselor is a personal preference.

good question.

it depends on the level of maturity of the person asked for advice.

being married or single doesnt necessarily confer wisdom on someone.


however, a cynical or envious single definitely wouldnt be the best type of person to give marital advice.

having said that, there are married people who can themselves give bad marital counsel.

Simple question. Simple answer.

No! How can a single person be advicing a married person?

I will not accept counsel from a divorced person either, that belongs in the category of "singleness by failure with a capital F"!

Never trust the advice of a 'single' woman especially, to a 'married' one. She wants your husband and is secretly jealous of ya!

Don't you watch "Nollywood" movies?

If she is one of these Okija-Ogboni Chrislamic widows. . . hehn henh hehn . . .your husband might end up dead too, like hers.

Beware of the company you keep when you are married.

The 'born-again' ones especially. Run for your dear life. I never allow such women(single, divorced or widowed) near my home. I deal with them using a veeeeeeeeeery loooooooooooooooooog spoon.

I have never been shot by an AK-47 but I am sure the shit hurt.

So I can see your point. In regards to marriage, I would prefer someone with experiences or training not saying I won't confer with a person who never been married but my first pick would be someone who have the experiences.

Easier said than done. Even the best adviser get serious issue with him wife and kids for house lol. Sometimes its almost super better to keep to yourself and try resolve things privately. So you ahve noone to blame

In life i took to my notice that expirence gives true wisdom.what someone thought you and what you have expirenced can neva be the same.a well trained mature counsellor that is still single can give a better advise than a married personel with a very low-way of reasoning.In a nut-shell,both can give a better advise but it depends on personality.