Hello all,

Reposting here.. so i can get more responses.. thanks

So I want advice on this.

Background is I am the average guy that was very broke in the past, jobless for some time, doing my little hustling, and now after some big breaks doing well (thanks to God). There are many of my guys we were all hustling together, for some, things are better, for some, not yet. Along to the way to my present position, I've made lots of new, well off friends, in professional and social circles.

I'm comfortable been with very rich friends who can spend 1m in a day, at the same time also comfortable going to bukka with my other guys for 200 naira eba and okro soup. I dont use money to judge if someone is a friend. Now some people have been advising that this is naive, and I should maintain my new social class. There is some truth there because I've experienced a few drag downs, but overall it's still ok.

So if I am getting married now, all the rich guys want to show up for me, do I invite some friends who are still gathering themselves? Is it unfair to them to ask them to be groomsmen? Or to ask them to pay xx amount for clothes? I've toyed with the idea of paying for those who dont have enough, dunno if that makes sense.

One person fi dey ask me 10k support, the other one go dey invite me for event wey go chop 500k. Loyalty is a big value for me, so I guess that's why I still hold dear all my old guys. I notice the well off are sometimes snobbish, or want to maintain certain standards. In the past, I might have thought that was bad, but with some experience, I also understand why people do that.

What's the best way to handle these different types of friends?

Just continue with the way you've been doing it. Life is like merry go round. The rich also cry and the poor man also have erection.