Traininghub:

I'm sorry for what you had to experience.
If I were in your shoes, I would definitely quit riding with her, I'll forgive her but make she dey her dey with her car and make I dey my dey with either Uber or public transport, I don't have energy for toxic, incorrigible and hot-headed people. However, I will not fail to greet her, if she likes, she responds, otherwise make we both dey our dey.
Do not tell the husband unless he calls to ask what really happened.
Don't worry, God will give you your own car ehn.

2special:
You're the real definition of shame

decatalyst:

1. Do not let this demoralize, deflate, or gets you thinking about situations and circumstances. You should use this as a motivation to get your own car.

2. I am happy you had some money to contribute for the "rescue" of the car. You are not a mere man, worthless or an favor seeking man who jumps behind the wheel for free.

3. This life has a way of balancing things. Let her drive herself henceforth.

4. Try as much as possible to maintain formal relationship with her and move on with your life.

BareFacedLies:
This is what happens when you make yourself to available to help people who you owe no obligation!

Yankee101:
Buy your car

2special:
You're the real definition of shame

Ninejaywon:
Similarly thing happened to me few years back.

I just told the stubborn woman, ur car has been impounded and I left her to sort herself out, this was before she started talking trash. And that marked the end of whatsoever communication I had with her till today. I don't have time for nonsense.

maikbanj:
Good evening fam. I just want to drop this here even though I feel it's not the right thread. I like the romance forum.

I have a colleague at the office and she lives not too far from me. I have a good relationship with her husband as he's a Yoruba man. It happens she's still a learner and isn't too good driving. Although,she tries and I kinda supervise her but she never listens. She just wants to do her own thing. I end up driving almost every time

On our way back from work today she drove and she wanted to branch at a market to purchase some groceries so she was looking for where to park her car. I showed her a place and she said no that the place was too deep. But cars were parked there. I left her alone and she parked close to a bus stop. When she left,I was just in the car pressing my phone and Task force came and impounded the car. I tried pleading but to no avail. They asked if I was the owner of the car and I said no that it's for a colleague and she was going to be with us soon. The plea fell on deaf ears and they drove me and the car to the police station close by.
i personnaly thought, u shud have called her on phone immediately the officers were in discussion with u,at least they won't prevent u from calling her at the moment,and she would probably witness the scenario herself.i think this is wat one shud do in such scenario unless it's impossible

I tried calling my dad to know if he knew anyone there as he usually have lil connect but he said no. So I tried going back to where we parked so I could tell her what happend and where the car was. Fortunately, before I got to the gate of the station she was walking like a soldier angry saying why did I let them carry the car and all. And I told her how I pleaded and how they wanted to lessen the tire if I didn't give them the key. Still she was furious and was talking plenty things that got me annoyed that if it was my car would I have allowed them carry it that wasn't I a man to handle them.

The people said for violating I was going to pay 120k. And I just didn't know what to say. So I was like let's call Baba(her husband ), just to know if he had a connect. And she flared up saying what kinda talk was that and all like I was her baby or something. She said things that got me angry and I told her it's indeed not her fault and I kept quiet.

In the end I did some transfers and she gave some amount too.

I have made my decision not to drive her again because I was really hurt with the kind of things she said. And when we were heading home I called her attention to it gently. Yet she was saying why would I have allowed them carry the car that if it was my car nko. And lots of things.

I don't want to ruin the relationship I have with her husband

Please I need to be advised because I have crossed my mind not to drive nor go with her anymore

IYANGBALI:
If you like don’t go and find your level to go to work, continue to allow your friend’s wife to dey embarrass you because of awoof

raphroye:

Which kind yeye relationship you don't want to ruin If you want to earn your respect back, stop entering her car.. Man up

udemzyudex:
OP it is call self respect, if the husband ask you why you've refused to drive her just tell him the truth that's all and stand by your decision.

at least she knows how to drive, whether she bash the car or not is non of your business.
if I'm the one I'll keep my distance hence forth.

Ninejaywon:
Similarly thing happened to me few years back.

I just told the stubborn woman, ur car has been impounded and I left her to sort herself out, this was before she started talking trash. And that marked the end of whatsoever communication I had with her till today. I don't have time for nonsense.

2special:
You're the real definition of shame