Good morning and happy Sunday to everyone. Please let me remain anonymous and please don't mind my grammatical errors.

I live in the Western part of Nigeria and I am 30 years old, am really confuse about live now because of what am going through in life. It all started 10 years ago after my secondary sch, my uncle who is now late asked me to come and stay with him so that he will look for work for me then I can save some money then go back to school but the story never remained the same.

When I arrived his house in 2010, I was welcome by his wife and three children with love, the eldest child was 9years old then and the other were twin around 7 years of age. My said uncle and wife were very kind to me, the wife even washes my cloth even when I was junior to her(19yrs).

After 2 years of staying with them, my uncle was able to find me a job and I was been paid 70k as monthly salary in the factory with my SSCE, that same year I got the job my uncle lost his wife and after a year my uncle died leaving the three children in this world alone, I asked God why he allowed all this thing to have happened to me.

The 3 children was now under my care since they don't have anyone to run to. Things change for me, my plan changed, I started taking care of children at the age of 19/20years.
The first son was in jss2 when both parent died, I made a promise to them that I will never leave them to suffer no better what, now the boy is studying engineering in one the university and one of the twin(girl) is studying mathematics and the 3rd one is living with me now preparing for jamb.

Am so confuse now in life because the load is too much on me, at 30 I haven't archive anything for myself, no wife no land or property of my own just because of these children because they don't have anyone aside me. I tried to do some side hustle to add up with my monthly salary which is now 100k. I don't know the decision I should take now because is not from my heart these children should suffer. I really want the best for them but my fresh is weak and am confuse I really need help. Please move this to front page for me.

the elders are coming don't worry

Stop being greedy by looking at the short term gains. It is discreet and subtle but I perceive and believe greed is about to lead you astray and if care isn't taken you will make a decision you will end up regretting for life.



Somethings problems may overwhelm us and we feel like running. Running away to catch some breathe to want to live our own lives the one we fashioned for ourselves out of personal desires and imagination....


But in your case, you are not called to live that life. Those children are your heavenly assignment and are your calling and responsibilities for... Note the word. Time being


Yes, You are getting old and all and you have not gathered for yourself nor put anything for yourself. I will begin slowly cause this is a sensitive matter.


Let's say you live the kids today. At most this is what you may get.. Good job like 100k per month, regular food, comfort, lack of stress, a good lady to marry and then regular sex to come with it... All I just typed amounts to what I called personal desires and distractions



If you stick with the kids a little while, the jss2 student can attend public school, the University graduate from next year can begin to take up side jobs and bring in financial resources to the centre. You can find a spot where you can setup a phone charging station and POS... With this you can make steady stable daily income and raise up to 100,000 Naira a month... If the University student is around, he can supervise at evenings while you take breaks.... Or if he's not, you can guide him to learn a skill where he can work with school and he begins to build from 30k monthly up...



Perhaps because you're a male that's why you don't know. There are organizations inside the church that provides financial support to kids like those children. The only requirement would be to attend a church. Many churches have this within it on a low key which if you enquire you'll be directed. This can even attract favors for you like job hunting, Housing etc.



The two are even of good age to start bringing income home and you think it's a nice time to walk away, if you do it you'll regret it along time.


Setup a structure where the 2 elder ones can earn income. If each earns 35,000 Naira each, that's 70,000 Naira. It gives you space to gradually become free. You should be planning financial freedom and raising a collective financial wallet not worrying about weightless. You've done remarkably well over the years and the hardest time when they were younger has gone. Now isn't the time to give up hope and let doubts win.



You will win, those children are your children o. Watch how they will repay you after you have yours. Stand in there, stay in the fight. Do not accept defeat, be strong. You will end the victory... Do not quit



The summary is mentor them away from being consumers of financial resources to financially productive units of the family taking up the role as a father. If you play your cars well, each of the two can earn 40k.monthly that's 80k. If they can't learn a skill that will become financially rewarding immediately.... Setup POS station like I said earlier and you all manage it as a family... Something that will bring you all together and generate income. For me, you're a success. You may think you're not because they don't carry your name. They are your children. Not your uncle's children.

Wow!

Well done! They are now 19yrs and 17yrs old. May God continue to bless your hustle. It's so sad that no one in their father's and mother's extended families assisted. Wow! They just left young children to you alone? Wow!

Anyways, best is to let them understand why they have to grow up very fast right away. They should all start learning one skill or the other to support your support through the university. Girl can learn hair dressing or tailoring while the guys can learn phone repair and other skills that sell in their schools. A lit of young people in schools do one business or the other to support themselves.

BTW, our life hasn't been stagnant.You have three kids you've done well with. Soon enough, they will all be out of your hair so you could broaden your coast. Well done once again papi.

I really don't see anything wrong here. You have achieved alot more than most graduates out there.... Those children are your achievement. You are doing perfectly well. Things will soon fall in place.

Nonetheless, who exactly set the benchmark for success@ 30?? You are doing perfectly ok...
Go the job section and post that you are 30 and frustrated about life, you will see men like you that are way older than you and don't even have upto 7k in their account.

For you to have been able to raise 100k, that means you have a job. Once the eldest son is out on school break, explain things to him that he has to help you. Help him look for a job, so that he can assist you in taking care of the 2 other kids...

I see no reason why you didn't mention the name of the place you are so that people could at least help you and the boy studying engineeing with a better opportunity

Am in Lagos, the boy in Uniben 300L Chemical engineering and the girl mathematics uniuyo.

Take up your cross and follow me.

Where is your location? please reply.

Apapa Lagos

Syllables:
Good morning and happy Sunday to everyone. Please let me remain anonymous and please don't mind my grammatical errors.

I live in the Western part of Nigeria and I am 30 years old, am really confuse about live now because of what am going through in life. It all started 10 years ago after my secondary sch, my uncle who is now late asked me to come and stay with him so that he will look for work for me then I can save some money then go back to school but the story never remained the same.

When I arrived his house in 2010, I was welcome by his wife and three children with love, the eldest child was 9years old then and the other were twin around 7 years of age. My said uncle and wife were very kind to me, the wife even washes my cloth even when I was junior to her(19yrs).

After 2 years of staying with them, my uncle was able to find me a job and I was been paid 70k as monthly salary in the factory with my SSCE, that same year I got the job my uncle lost his wife and after a year my uncle died leaving the three children in this world alone, I asked God why he allowed all this thing to have happened to me.

The 3 children was now under my care since they don't have anyone to run to. Things change for me, my plan changed, I started taking care of children at the age of 19/20years.
The first son was in jss2 when both parent died, I made a promise to them that I will never leave them to suffer no better what, now the boy is studying engineering in one the university and one of the twin(girl) is studying mathematics and the 3rd one is living with me now preparing for jamb.

Am so confuse now in life because the load is too much on me, at 30 I haven't archive anything for myself, no wife no land or property of my own just because of these children because they don't have anyone aside me. I tried to do some side hustle to add up with my monthly salary which is now 100k. I don't know the decision I should take now because is not from my heart these children should suffer. I really want the best for them but my fresh is weak and am confuse I really need help. Please move this to front page for me.

wow!just Wow!! you are indeed a hero and dont ever think otherwise..you have achieved what even grown and dead old men couldnt achieved, life dealt you a great game and destiny and you passed it, please dont ever make a mistake of losing at this tail end....

you need to understand one things our children dont have to come from us, they go through us and those kids are your kids. yes they might silly sometimes and be acting irrational but be sure they value you greatly and you are to them their worlds (something they will tell later in the future when they become fully matured and have control on their sentiments)..

Everything you do on here going forward be it you wanna open a biz for them or make them learn work, pls it should be about developing them and not for your own selfish want which your darkside which we all have is trying to send you towards....not everyone will be a parents,billionaire,inventors, or any other stuff but we can be a hero in our own little ways...i salute you brother and i hope you will find the strength to coninue..

As for the little one please dont change her schools to public because of any primordial sentiment, see her as your own flesh and if you think you will send your own young girl to public school please do so but it shouldnt be about sentiments

life aint all about all those mundane and nonliving cliche we value (things like house, cars and sort of..

you are my hero bros cos you are actually living and this is what living is all about

Thanks so much for your encouragement, none of the three is in secondary, the only girl got admission at 16years and she is studying mathematics.

Syllables:
Good morning and happy Sunday to everyone. Please let me remain anonymous and please don't mind my grammatical errors.

I live in the Western part of Nigeria and I am 30 years old, am really confuse about live now because of what am going through in life.

Am so confuse now in life because the load is too much on me, at 30 I haven't archive anything for myself, no wife no land or property of my own just because of these children because they don't have anyone aside me. I tried to do some side hustle to add up with my monthly salary which is now 100k. I don't know the decision I should take now because is not from my heart these children should suffer. I really want the best for them but my fresh is weak and am confuse I really need help. Please move this to front page for me.

Please, don't be depressed or give up. I understand your concerns, and what happened was not expected or planned, but please don't abandon them, you have gone too far to do so.

They have nobody to go to, you are their father, mother, parent, guardian and uncle. You are their everything. Once it is time for them to get married, you are their father, they will not go else where. Their successes and happiness will be shared with you.

In the future, once God blesses them, they will take care of you out of what God has blessed them with.

If you cut them out of your life because of your ambition, which can still achieved in the nearest future or because of what you are going through, and make them
to cry, suffer and resort to ungodly or illegal means to survive, all that you have done for them over the years will be forgotten and the rewards and glory that you are meant to receive, will be given to another and you will be in pain.

I believe God has put you as a guardian over their lives to take care of them. And surely he will not abandon you. You will be fully compensated for doing your part in their lives.

Please, just don't abandon them, you made a promise to them, see it to the end, no matter how long. The blessings, reward and compensation God will give you will wipe away your pains. Do your best, endure and be patient.

I pray God will give you the grace and strength to do so. Amen!

Everything was a divine arrangement,you having that job before your uncle and aunt passed away was a means that God setup for you to take care of the kids.Just hold on a bit till the first born graduates,but try to save like 40k monthly from ur salary every month,it's not easy but try.God be with you all.

guy, those kids are your investment. take care of them cheerfully

Please I really need help to enable me take care of these children because the load is becoming harder now.

May God bless you Sir, pls dont abandon those kids at this point in your life. U are very close to reaping what you sow. Believe me, you will never regret helping these kids. Sir pls 30years is not late for marriage yet. U will achieve more in life because these kids are your blessings. God bless you with more sustenance

Keep going, God bless you.

The boy studying chemical engineering will be due for IT come this December, please I will need someone to help find a place for him...admin pls push this to front page.

Guy you have tried. Those children are your own blood children. You should be very proud of yourself honestly.

Syllables:
The boy studying chemical engineering will be due for IT come this December, please I will need someone to help find a place for him...admin pls push this to front page.

Mynd44, Dominique, Lalasticlala, Rocktation please push this thread to front page. Let Nairalanders help this op as he gets to the finishing line.



Op, na your type dem dey call Odogwu. Na man you be, walahi!

Ur second name should be super hero or human. You are a legend

v

AlphaLion:
Mynd44, Dominique, Lalasticlala, Rocktation please push this thread to front page. Let Nairalanders help this op as he gets to the finishing line.



Op, na your type dem dey call Odogwu. Na man you be, walahi!

Mynd44, Dominique, Lalasticlala, Rocktation

Please push this to front page.

RedSquid:
Stop being greedy by looking at the short term gains. It is discreet and subtle but I perceive and believe greed is about to lead you astray and if care isn't taken you will make a decision you will end up regretting for life.



Somethings problems may overwhelm us and we feel like running. Running away to catch some breathe to want to live our own lives the one we fashioned for ourselves out of personal desires and imagination....


But in your case, you are not called to live that life. Those children are your heavenly assignment and are your calling and responsibilities for... Note the word. Time being


Yes, You are getting old and all and you have not gathered for yourself nor put anything for yourself. I will begin slowly cause this is a sensitive matter.


Let's say you live the kids today. At most this is what you may get.. Good job like 100k per month, regular food, comfort, lack of stress, a good lady to marry and then regular sex to come with it... All I just typed amounts to what I called personal desires and distractions



If you stick with the kids a little while, the jss2 student can attend public school, the University graduate from next year can begin to take up side jobs and bring in financial resources to the centre. You can find a spot where you can setup a phone charging station and POS... With this you can make steady stable daily income and raise up to 100,000 Naira a month... If the University student is around, he can supervise at evenings while you take breaks.... Or if he's not, you can guide him to learn a skill where he can work with school and he begins to build from 30k monthly up...



Perhaps because you're a male that's why you don't know. There are organizations inside the church that provides financial support to kids like those children. The only requirement would be to attend a church. Many churches have this within it on a low key which if you enquire you'll be directed. This can even attract favors for you like job hunting, Housing etc.



The two are even of good age to start bringing income home and you think it's a nice time to walk away, if you do it you'll regret it along time.


Setup a structure where the 2 elder ones can earn income. If each earns 35,000 Naira each, that's 70,000 Naira. It gives you space to gradually become free. You should be planning financial freedom and raising a collective financial wallet not worrying about weightless. You've done remarkably well over the years and the hardest time when they were younger has gone. Now isn't the time to give up hope and let doubts win.



You will win, those children are your children o. Watch how they will repay you after you have yours. Stand in there, stay in the fight. Do not accept defeat, be strong. You will end the victory... Do not quit



The summary is mentor them away from being consumers of financial resources to financially productive units of the family taking up the role as a father. If you play your cars well, each of the two can earn 40k.monthly that's 80k. If they can't learn a skill that will become financially rewarding immediately.... Setup POS station like I said earlier and you all manage it as a family... Something that will bring you all together and generate income. For me, you're a success. You may think you're not because they don't carry your name. They are your children. Not your uncle's children.

God bless you for this suggestion.

You are doing what many relatives will not bother themselves with.

You are a hero Syllables, do not give up on those children.

Thanks.

May God continue to sustain you all. You have really tried and God will surely compensate you for stepping up even at a very young age.

Respect syllables. Respect.

Please someone should link him to were he can do his IT.