Popular opinion can be very derailing if you base your decisions on them, because many people are lazy and to not check the facts. The additional danger is that some of the people who will share this opinion are people very close to you or whom you hold in high regard, so there is a tendency to trust their judgment without checking the facts.

There is a danger of a persuasive personality, some of those who share these opinions can be very persuasive in there discussion and knock you of your guard to align to their opinion.

“Popular opinion is not always the best reason to make serious decisions. Beware!”
One example of the most dangerous perceptions to base your decision on the choice of a partner is the notion that men are bad or women are just unreasonable. You cannot keep feeding people going into a relationship with the mindset that their partner can be bad or cannot be trusted and expect them to have a happy marriage.

Neither should you choose your partner with this mindset at the back of your mind. You will make your lives miserable.
I have seen many fathers tell their sons that a man must not take nonsense from any women and the need to be put his foot down (many times as a bully),how can you say that to a man, and expect him to have a healthy relationship with his wife.

Even when his wife makes an honest mistake, he will not want to take any nonsense from his wife as prescribed by his dad and ultimately a fight will ensue.

A lot of these self preservation ideas are born out of experiences of individuals/older ones and most times they have been created to defend the person not resolve problems. Resolving problems is the better approach.

“Nothing good comes out of anger or aggression; it is only a question of time before it bears its bad fruits”

A marriage institution should be an environment where you both should build each other up NOT tear each other down by being a bully, focus on errors, insisting on your way or not communicating to understand each other’s position.

As a man, you must understand the nature of women and their perspective to issues will differ from yours sometimes, besides who says she made a mistake, for all you know, you might be wrong! .

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It is important one has a mind of his/her own without being arrogant.