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Chief FFK Wife's Divorce Side Of Story by kennyify88: 8:55pm On Mar 13, 2021 |
OFFICIAL STATEMENT ADDRESSING
ALLEGATIONS SURROUNDING MY JUST ENDED
MARRIAGE TO FEMI FANI-KAYODE (FFK).
My name is Precious Chikwedu, a graduate
of the University of Calabar, Miss Untied
Nation 2014, and a Nollywood actress since
2007. Naturally, I maintain a calm
disposition when in crisis, being goal-
oriented and not a talker of any sort. But I
am now forced to respond to these
allegations for my children, well-being, and
career path.
As a student, I lived a moderately
comfortable school life with self-sustaining
businesses. Upon graduation, I got a job in
a construction company. I bought my first
car as an undergraduate and have chains of
businesses before meeting FFK. I was also
into modelling and had several
endorsements as an International beauty
queen, in addition to my job; these are
verifiable facts.
My Financial Status Before Marriage
I am from a middle-class home where my
Dad provides for all my needs. Moreover, I
have always been industrious and a
provider rather than a collector. Before I met
FFK, I worked in a quarry/construction
company in Calabar and lived an extremely
comfortable life. I could afford cars within
my means, caring for my parents and
siblings. I built my parents a house in Nanka,
my hometown, in 2012 before heading over
to Kingston to win the Miss United Nations
title in 2014
The Gold-Digger
I am tagged a gold-digger due to
misconception, ignorance and some people
relying on deliberately planted falsehood. It
is unfortunate that when I met Femi in
2014, he already had his bank accounts
frozen by the EFCC, and they remain frozen
to date. He opened another bank account
when he joined the Goodluck Jonathan
campaign team in 2015. The present
government initiated an investigation based
on the campaign funds source. And his
campaign account was frozen again.
Common sense can show that he may have
been financially constrained while I was
with him.
My relationship with Femi at the time we
met was more of me caring and having a
deep concern for him while he was UNDER
EFCC PROSECUTION. However, it later
transited into a supposed romantic
relationship that became oppressive,
obsessive and abusive. Femi turned into a
control freak that tried to control even the
very breath that I took.
Femi posed as a lonely and abandoned man
who gave his all to his loved ones but was
left alone in his moment of need (EFCC trial).
He spoke bitterly of a Regina, who he said
fled to her country, abandoning him when
President Yar'Adua's government ordered
the EFCC to investigate him for money
laundering. The court also mentioned her
name.
Marriage Under False Pretence
I want to state clearly that my marriage to
FFK was based on false pretence as he lied
that he had divorced his last wife, Regina. I
found his marriage certificate in 2016
during the EFCC raid at our then home. When
I confronted him about this, he said that he
is about starting Regina's divorce process
and added that he had not seen her in the
last ten years. He further explained that he
never fancied her and that their relationship
was that of a mother and son kind. At the
time I left, he was technically married to her
former wife.
On Regina's claim that she gave her consent
for me to be married to FFK, this is a
ridiculous and blatant lie. How could she
have permitted a relationship she only
found out about through social media? This
event happened precisely on FFK's birthday
when he deliberately leaked my pregnancy
photos after another argument between us
and I had to leave the house. He did that to
show the world that I was pregnant with
his baby. Suffice it to say that we had agreed
to keep the pregnancy private before then.
FFK's Aggressive Behaviour
While I was pregnant with the first child and
later the triplets, FFK was habitually beating
and mostly punching my stomach. Anytime
he was angry and moody, describing my
unborn babies as cockroaches or "a thing"
that he will knock off my belly. In one of
these attacks and kicking on my tummy, my
late mom and my sister visited, and they
threw themselves in between us to stop him
from further attacks. In his anger, he hit my
mum in the head. After that, FFK ended up
accusing my sister of assault and got her
detained at a police station for coming in-
between his punches and me.
Whenever I resist his humiliation and
beating, he will deploy his bodyguards to
wrestle me down. In most cases, he called
CSP Aisha Yusufu, the then Divisional Police
Officer (DPO) of Asokoro Police Station. Who
usually would come with her team to harass,
handcuff, arrest or lock me behind the
counter for hours until Femi was satisfied
that I have been punished enough. My
siblings were locked up countless times as
well. He would always boast of his
connections to the government and the
system, saying nothing any member can do.
During one of his domestic abuse with the
DPAisha and her team from Asokoro police
station, FFK instructed that they handcuff
and strip me Naked. It was done in the
presence of his domestic staff, bodyguards
and attached VIP police officers. They
injected me with a strange substance, and I
lost consciousness. I woke up in a facility,
which they later told me is a hospital, not
knowing the number of hours or days I
stayed there. My triplets were six months old
at that time.
As I say this, I am very afraid for my life. He
keeps threatening me at every turn. I have
since petitioned the Police but nothing has
been done yet but I'm only trusting God.
The Breakdown of the Marriage
The intervention of family members and
FFK'S social circle was one hold back factor
that kept me in the relationship much
longer. Notwithstanding how dangerous,
especially from Femi's Mental Health
challenges. I wanted to leave the marriage a
long-time ago but could not due to the fear
factor of FFK. He often lectured me on the
crime of passion and how I will not live to
tell the story or being looked at by another
man. The fear of Femi losing it and hurting
my children in retaliation for my leaving did
not help matters. Moreover, the death of
both my parents within a short space of
time made me more vulnerable.
The verbal and physical abuse increased
upon my refusal to have another set of
children he had instructed and further used
his doctor. I planned to travel overseas for
delivery during my pregnancy, a decision
that made Femi uncomfortable. The doctor
told lies that I have certain conditions like
placenta previa in my early first trimester
and made it unsafe to travel. Other events
happened where bullet shells were planted
in my shop, my siblings accused and locked
up by SARS, and my passport seized by Femi
also hindered me from travelling. I
concluded that something was not adding
up and decided to go for a second medical
opinion. I had no medical condition and was
misdiagnosed. FFK planned all these
incidents to stop me from travelling
overseas.
I had a myomectomy on 31st July 2020; FFK
disapproved of the doctor; after my surgery
at the Hospital, he instructed the domestic
staff not to give me food or drinks. Upon
discharge, I arrived home to his usual stage-
managed drama. I had no strength to deal
with that at that point, so I picked my
handbag and left with nothing to allow him
to calm down, considering his mental health
challenges.
He shortly sent messages through friends to
tell me never to put a foot in his property, or
he would get me locked up for good. It was
how he ended the marriage; I left with only
the clothes I wore from the Hospital. He
never allowed me to park my properties or
take my children.
FFK Media Story About My Parents
FFK claims presented on social media that he
took care of my parents for years, got my
siblings jobs and a residential apartment.
The truth is that FFK asked for my mother to
be brought to Abuja to stop me from my
frequent travels to the East. He could not get
me to pay less attention to her as my mom
and I was inseparable. My mother was
already down with cancer a year before I
met FFK. I had provided for her needs to
help tackle it but based on her religious
convictions, and my mom refused to get rid
of her lumps. By the time she got to Abuja,
her cancer had spread.
Not denying that FFK made contributions to
her chemotherapy and some hospital bills,
but I funded most of the money from my
savings. Furthermore, FFK was locked up in
detention then. On burying my mom, FFK
made his contribution, which Rev Okey
Onyemachi received, my mother's brother. It
was mostly money to tend to his high-
profile guests and give them a comfortable
sitting area. My family catered for the rest of
the burial expenses.
My Dad was in Abuja for treatment in late
November 2019 and passed on on 7th
January 2020. The apartment FFK claimed to
have rented on social media was the house I
rented in December 2019 before my Dad's
birthday. It was because FFK refused to
bring my Dad down to Abuja to care for him.
He claimed that my father's people are
responsible for the lack of financial flow,
according to his prophets.
Sadly, my Dad only spent a week in the
house I rented for him before he got
critically ill on the night of his birthday. After
that night, my Dad was rushed to a hospital,
where he eventually passed on.
To date, none of my siblings got even a
single referral from FFK for anything, let
alone a job. As an in-law, FFK contributed 1.5
million Naira to my Dad's burial and later
said that the money was part of my dowry.
He grudgingly did it to allow (traditionally)
him to mourn my Dad as an in-law. He had
earlier refused to do the rights after our
introduction in 2015, after my first son's
birth.
Allegations of Cheating
My years with FFK were completely
shrouded; I walked around with at least
four police officers and three bodyguards.
Friends avoided me even in church as I had
a heavy security presence even during
offerings and thanksgiving. He perceived
every schoolmate, ex, cousin, or male voice
as a potential lover over the phone.
I have never had an extramarital affair as
dubiously alleged. On the contrary, FFK
brought strange women into our
matrimonial home at the slightest
opportunity.
Claims of Cruelty to My Kids
It is laughable to read the claims of cruelty
from someone who has never raised any of
his kids physically since I have known him.
How can I be cruel to children that I took
lots of pains to bear, to make an ungrateful
man who complained about having no sons
happy? Both births were IVF conceived, and
I took needles for months before and after. I
take my kids to school, church, playgrounds
and shopping and every other thing that
could make them happy as kids. I practically
shared my days in his house on my social
media pages out of boredom. People who
followed loved my boys' love, as these
memories still linger on my social media
walls today. I love my kids, and they mean
everything to me.
I run an NGO that deals with education for
the less privileged. I started with primary
and secondary school projects as miss
United Nations. My love for children has
been traceable from time. My accuser is the
one who deceived innocent children with a
scholarship scheme that turned out to be a
fraud. He offered scholarships to three
hundred students for top schools in the
Benin Republic through my foundation in
May 2020.
He did not send One kobo to any student or
school. To uphold his honour, I went
through the detailed vetting of another
scholarship scheme in a better school. FFK
abandoned these children and plan after
making an empty promise and putting them
through complete admission procedures.
Suffice it to say that the school and I still
bear the responsibility of seeing these kids
through.
I tried unsuccessfully to see my kids even at
natural grounds, but Femi made it
impossible. I refused to go back to the
house to see them as every corner of the
house, Toilets, Bathroom, Kitchen, Sitting
room, Bedroom, the Gate, front of the House
reminds me of Femi beatings, stripping me
naked in presence of his workers,
instructing his Body guards to beat me or
using the Police to wrestle me down before
putting handcuffs.
These were the demons I have been battling
including ignoring his lies and fabrications.
An Indictment on his not so Intelligent
Person
Honestly, I have just bared my life of over
20years to the world, but then again, what
can I say? I take complete blame for my
wrong judgment on the choice of FFK based
on empathy and naivety. However, I cannot
help but wonder if all these frivolous claims
of my indecent lifestyle as portrayed by FFK
is not an indictment of his insecure mind.
You cannot have a harlot for a wife and
showcase her to the world almost every day
with the best captions and poetry to go
with it if she is not a fantastic soul. Except
for cause, he hides the demonic atrocities
he committed while trying to appear as an
excellent husband. The FFK I lived with will
have the said videos shared if any infidelity
claims are distantly valid for ALMOST SEVEN
YEARS OF MARRIAGE!
After two heartbreaks, I made one wrong
decision, believing that an older man will
love and make me happy. All I did was love
FFK, fight for him and gave him sons he
never had. I did everything for him - I was
his barber, editor, nurse (before and after
he had his presumed COVID 19), chef,
image-maker, and stylist without limit.
Physical and verbal abuse was what I got for
all these sacrifices. Lies, all sorts of
inhumane treatment, and now attempting
to keep my tender age children away from
their mother.
Precious Chikwendu
Abuja, Nigeria. 11/03/2021 |
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