He often compares me saying, "you are very different, such high morals to be American."

Sincere08:

@EZeUche, why do so many people show hatred toward the Igbo?

Sincere08:

@DaRapture, thank you for your advice.

@EZeUche, why do so many people show hatred toward the Igbo?

Is there a common belief that Americans aren't suitable for long-term relationships?

Sincere08:

I understand, African Americans face such hatred as well.

How great life could be if we all learned  to respect each other

Sincere08:

@mbatuku1, thank you for your knowlege. I will continue to learn more about the culture for my own growth. I will not let things I have read or the actions of one Igbo man be the lens I see all Igbo men out of.

@Thirst4lif, attending cultural events sounds great. I will discuss everything with him later on today and update everyone.

However, I do have a major concern that no one seems to want to address. Is there a common belief that Americans aren't suitable for long-term relationships?

Yes, there's a common believe that Americans, Whites and Blacks, are not suitable for long-term relationships.
Look around you, if you are as observant as Africans are, you'll notice how divorce is promoted in the America today. Every little squabble, misunderstanding, reconcilable differences, etc results in divorce.

In Igbo culture, divorce is rare and marriages are more or less between families and not just the two concerned. If there's a misunderstand, quarrel, etc, families get involved and try to resolve the issue, sometimes it takes days, months, but at the end of the day, it will be resolved for the good of the children.
Any Igbo or even other Nigerians that marry Americans take risks (and they know it) because the future of the marriage is not certain.

Thirst4Lif:

And we certainly shouldn't ignore the Africans in America who are solving their marital issues by slaughtering their wives in record number.

Ironically, most if not all of these men are married to African women. I, for one, would have chosen divorce over a lifetime in prison.

Trying to score a cheat point does not add any substance to the question she asked, is there a common belief that Americans aren't suitable for long-term relationships?

It's really unfair to group all Americans. It's best to view each person separately regarding relationships. Some are good, some

are bad.

Mrs.Chima:

Keep in mind that those high divorce rates are MAINLY of celebrities.  Many of these celebrities are not of American heritage and are immigrants from other countries.  My thing is this if other groups value their cultures so much then they will not be divorcing each other in foreign countries. 

Someone said that you can take a lion out the safari but it would still be a lion that is used to safari lifestyle.   So the excuses for people blaming foreign countries for their inability to keep it real is sickening. 

I agree with someone who said that their are African men who are killing their wives in America and[b] these wives are AFRICAN WOMEN [/b]so what excuses do you have now?  None.  It is sad that one will kill before they will divorce someone they absolutely loathes and despises. 

Sad. 

Actually Chima one or two of those wives were not Naija, one of them being Jamo. 
but i get what you are saying. Lack of tolerance, respect and ability to tame ones temper should not be excused
with claims of 'cultural shock'. Everyone knows that killing is wrong regardless of race, culture or s3x.

MzDarkSkin:

Actually Chima one or two of those wives were not Naija, one of them being Jamo. 
but i get what you are saying. Lack of tolerance, respect and ability to tame ones temper should not be excused
with claims of 'cultural shock'. Everyone knows that killing is wrong regardless of race, culture or s3x.

Inked_Nerd:


In terms of media coverage, I would say yes many of those people in the divorce rate mentioned are celebrities but overall all, there is a high divorce rate in the US. And those people you mentioned not being of American heritage, although many of them may not be of American heritage, a lot of them are second or third generation children and are very much familiar with American culture. Its not like majority of them are "fresh of the boat" and have no understanding of American culture besides, if you do take a good look at some of these celebrities who's parents are not of American heritage you will see that many of them do come from countries where the sanctity of marriage is highly respected.

Mrs.Chima:

I am not saying that high divorce rate doesn't exist in US.  I am saying that we need to look at the people that are divorcing and if we are going to be statistically correct more white women are married in US than Black women. 

[b]It is not common to see black couples in the limelight getting divorce however you will see either white women with white husbands getting divorced or white women with black husbands getting divorced.   [i]Many of these celebrities that are divorcing or divorced are not American born[/i][/b].