One day, he asked me, “When we marry, how should we manage our finances?” I said, “I have no idea. you’re the man. What do you think?” He only nodded but said nothing.
Another day he asked me, “Why do women change after marriage?” I said, “I can’t answer for all women. I can only answer for myself and I know I won’t change.”
He smiled.
Each day came with a new set of questions. He was a man with too many questions. Then one day he finally came out to say, “We need to agree on certain things before we get married. That way, we both know what is expected from each other.”
I said, “Why not. It’s a good idea.” I thought we were going to sit down, talk and agree on what to do but no. He pulled out a sheet and said, “Read and let’s see what we can add and what we can subtract;


#1. You’ll keep your money and I will keep mine.
We both have to exercise absolute control over our
finances.

#2. We’ll have a joint account where we contribute
40% of our salaries each month.

#3. You’ll help pay monthly rent for the house we
will live in. (The guy's father owns the house but doesn't live there)
#4. You’ll maintain your body size throughout the
marriage.

#5. We are going to have two kids. No more no
less.

#6. If you don’t give birth after four years, I can
walk out of the marriage.

#7. Your parents and your siblings are your exclusive problems. I can’t be made to cater to them. They can visit only once in a while but they can’t stay for over a week.


I read the document about four times. I didn’t know what to make out of it. I said, “This doesn’t sound like a marriage to me. It lacks everything a marriage should have. How do we agree on such a thing? It’s like we are two separate people living our individual lives. We don’t have to do this to ourselves.” He asked,
“What do we have to take out and what do we have to add?”
I said, “We should throw this away and talk about real challenges married couples go through.” He said, “These are my challenges and these are what I believe need solving before anything else can
happen.”

LeoThaGreat:
I was browsing through a Ghanaian website when I saw this article that interests me. It was about a confused lady asking for what to do because her boyfriend gave her a prenuptial agreement (terms & conditions for marriage) to sign before he can proceed to legalise their relationship.
This reminded me of Kim Kardashian & Kanye West and other Western couples that sign prenups before getting wed. The prenup covers what to do during the marriage and what happens in case of a divorce.
This lady's story was long so I decided to cut out the agreement part to paste them here.





My questions are:
1. If you were a guy, will you propose such a prenuptial agreement to serve as a guideline (and safe house) before getting wed?

2. If you were a lady, will you agree to (or negotiate some clauses in) such a prenuptial agreement, or you'll throw it all away?

poeticsoldier:
The lady has just won a contract not marriage.She can wisely turn it down by giving her own pre whatever too.Such as;
1.There will be intercourse between us once in a month
2. None of your family should come around until after verification by me.
3.No lady should have anything to do with you except me even in your dream
4.Your beard, size and complexion must not change throughout the marriage
5.After we are done giving birth to two children let's zip up darling,you know it is of no use again.

poeticsoldier:
The lady has just won a contract not marriage.She can wisely turn it down by giving her own pre whatever too.Such as;
1.There will be intercourse between us once in a month
2. None of your family should come around until after verification by me.
3.No lady should have anything to do with you except me even in your dream
4.Your beard, size and complexion must not change throughout the marriage
5.After we are done giving birth to two children let's zip up darling,you know it is of no use again.

Zzor:
You see young men and their wahala abi,I will just vex and marry one of these chiefs hovering around me after all Shade Okoya,Bianca Ojukwu,Regina Daniels did it and didn't regret

baralatie:

ah ah!
all you have to do is state a counter offer nau!

Zzor:
A counter offer? when a more matured man who's ready to spoil and pamper you silly is available, its hell with young Nigerian men hian

mechanics:
The idea of keeping their money to themselves is not the best and for her to be paying the monthly rent is not ideal.

baralatie:

how will each one member of the union keeping their own money is not the best/not ideal?

mechanics:
They are one and not two separate entity.

Mrscarter:


I think a pre nup to protect ur assets if one side was richer n was worried bout their money then its fair to sign a pre nup but everything else isnt a marraige. Marraige isnt a contract or a scheduled thing. Its living life n making a life together n taking each day as it comes facing everything together in partnership n love n its about commitment and honesty and sticking by each other thru good n bad and about making each other happy n accepting each other unconditionally.

Zzor:
You see young men and their wahala abi,I will just vex and marry one of these chiefs hovering around me after all Shade Okoya,Bianca Ojukwu,Regina Daniels did it and didn't regret

Reex12:
cc richmond500 can you see this bloodyhoe, considering dating her papa agemate

nexttime you try counter me, I wont go easy with you, bloody simp

Zzor:
You see young men and their wahala abi,I will just vex and marry one of these chiefs hovering around me after all Shade Okoya,Bianca Ojukwu,Regina Daniels did it and didn't regret

mechanics:
The idea of keeping their money to themselves is not the best and for her to be paying the monthly rent is not ideal.

poeticsoldier:
The lady has just won a contract not marriage.She can wisely turn it down by giving her own pre whatever too.Such as;
1.There will be intercourse between us once in a month
2. None of your family should come around until after verification by me.
3.No lady should have anything to do with you except me even in your dream
4.Your beard, size and complexion must not change throughout the marriage
5.After we are done giving birth to two children let's zip up darling,you know it is of no use again.