Terry44:
Hello nlander, Had to create this account for anonymity sake.

Kindly forgive my Errors.


I am a guy in my late twenties, at least I can say am doing good for myself in this Buhari's next level. I've dated this lady for two years and I'm almost considering walking down the aisle with her before I started noticing some changes with her, mind you she is 24.



Issue all started when I left Abuja for Lagos for a contract job, before then she had been a very good lady and faithful too . For the time we dated she never demanded from me untill she lost her Step-mum, even at that her demands were untypical of a Nigerian lady, because she always fended for herself unless I willingly intervened.


Problem started when she first visited me and I noticed her long unusual calls, I confronted her but she convinced me with the normal just a friend stuff from female folks. Fast forward to the present day, she has kept her profile of been a good lady before me and family. I even introduced her to my people and from time to time she spends reasonable time
with my ailing father and younger siblings.

The actual trouble bothering me is this, toward the end of completing my contract job, she had accommodation issues and I couldn't lend a hand due to the fact that I had a lot to take care of financially and such emergency spending was not budgeted for. She was so much desperate that I couldn't help looking at her. So I had to use part of my younger brother tuition fee and also borrow from my colleague to help her secure a self contain apartment as well as everything needed to make her feel comfortable, she collected the money from me to give to the agent who was supposed to source for the apartment. She resolved to squat with a friend pending when the apartment would be ready and acquiring necessary furnitures.


Almighty God been so good to me, I got a permanent job offer in a multi-national firm in Ogun state. She came to visit me and I had to pay for her flight ticket to and fro, she just left my house on Tuesday after spending two weeks with me. During her stay with me I found out that the friend she told me she was squating with all those while has been her Ex-boyfriend. And the same person we started having issues over previously due to the fact that she was having sex chat with the said Ex and also another guy who is a member of their family church, which she told me is nothing to worry about that the ex was disturbing her that he his still having problem moving on .


I'm at the cross road and unable to decide whether to end it or wait for her to apologise. Though, I haven't told her of my findings, truth be told she's everything of a
good woman and has really supported me
except for my latest findings.



Am as confused as hell now, I be not even confronted her,
my mind is playing games with me. Pls somebody should
talk to me. All the thoughts I have in mind are so far futile.




NB: no insults please. I'm really unstable at the moment.

Terry44:
Hello nlander, Had to create this account for anonymity sake.

Kindly forgive my Errors.


I am a guy in my late twenties, at least I can say am doing good for myself in this Buhari's next level. I've dated this lady for two years and I'm almost considering walking down the aisle with her before I started noticing some changes with her, mind you she is 24.



Issue all started when I left Abuja for Lagos for a contract job, before then she had been a very good lady and faithful too. For the time we dated she never demanded from me untill she lost her Step-mum, even at that her demands were untypical of a Nigerian lady, because she always fended for herself unless I willingly intervened.


Problem started when she first visited me and I noticed her long unusual calls, I confronted her but she convinced me with the normal just a friend stuff from female folks. Fast forward to the present day, she has kept her profile of been a good lady before me and family. I even introduced her to my people and from time to time she spends reasonable time
with my ailing father and younger siblings.

The actual trouble bothering me is this, toward the end of completing my contract job, she had accommodation issues and I couldn't lend a hand due to the fact that I had a lot to take care of financially and such emergency spending was not budgeted for. She was so much desperate that I couldn't help looking at her. So I had to use part of my younger brother tuition fee and also borrow from my colleague to help her secure a self contain apartment as well as everything needed to make her feel comfortable, she collected the money from me to give to the agent who was supposed to source for the apartment. She resolved to squat with a friend pending when the apartment would be ready and acquiring necessary furnitures.


Almighty God been so good to me, I got a permanent job offer in a multi-national firm in Ogun state. She came to visit me and I had to pay for her flight ticket to and fro, she just left my house on Tuesday after spending two weeks with me. During her stay with me I found out that the friend she told me she was squating with all those while has been her Ex-boyfriend. And the same person we started having issues over previously due to the fact that she was having sex chat with the said Ex and also another guy who is a member of their family church, which she told me is nothing to worry about that the ex was disturbing her that he his still having problem moving on .


I'm at the cross road and unable to decide whether to end it or wait for her to apologise. Though, I haven't told her of my findings, truth be told she's everything of a
good woman and has really supported me
except for my latest findings.



Am as confused as hell now, I be not even confronted her,
my mind is playing games with me. Pls somebody should
talk to me. All the thoughts I have in mind are so far futile.




NB: no insults please. I'm really unstable at the moment.

Terry44:
Hello nlander, Had to create this account for anonymity sake.

Kindly forgive my Errors.


I am a guy in my late twenties, at least I can say am doing good for myself in this Buhari's next level. I've dated this lady for two years and I'm almost considering walking down the aisle with her before I started noticing some changes with her, mind you she is 24.



Issue all started when I left Abuja for Lagos for a contract job, before then she had been a very good lady and faithful too. For the time we dated she never demanded from me untill she lost her Step-mum, even at that her demands were untypical of a Nigerian lady, because she always fended for herself unless I willingly intervened.


Problem started when she first visited me and I noticed her long unusual calls, I confronted her but she convinced me with the normal just a friend stuff from female folks. Fast forward to the present day, she has kept her profile of been a good lady before me and family. I even introduced her to my people and from time to time she spends reasonable time
with my ailing father and younger siblings.

The actual trouble bothering me is this, toward the end of completing my contract job, she had accommodation issues and I couldn't lend a hand due to the fact that I had a lot to take care of financially and such emergency spending was not budgeted for. She was so much desperate that I couldn't help looking at her. So I had to use part of my younger brother tuition fee and also borrow from my colleague to help her secure a self contain apartment as well as everything needed to make her feel comfortable, she collected the money from me to give to the agent who was supposed to source for the apartment. She resolved to squat with a friend pending when the apartment would be ready and acquiring necessary furnitures.


Almighty God been so good to me, I got a permanent job offer in a multi-national firm in Ogun state. She came to visit me and I had to pay for her flight ticket to and fro, she just left my house on Tuesday after spending two weeks with me. During her stay with me I found out that the friend she told me she was squating with all those while has been her Ex-boyfriend. And the same person we started having issues over previously due to the fact that she was having sex chat with the said Ex and also another guy who is a member of their family church, which she told me is nothing to worry about that the ex was disturbing her that he his still having problem moving on .


I'm at the cross road and unable to decide whether to end it or wait for her to apologise. Though, I haven't told her of my findings, truth be told she's everything of a
good woman and has really supported me
except for my latest findings.



Am as confused as hell now, I be not even confronted her,
my mind is playing games with me. Pls somebody should
talk to me. All the thoughts I have in mind are so far futile.




NB: no insults please. I'm really unstable at the moment.

emperorAY:

i will advise you to break up with her because you might never forgive her. apologies don't wash away the sins of a cheating girlfriend

emerazz:
Bro return the farm tool to the street where she belongs simple...

Terry44:
Hello nlander, Had to create this account for anonymity sake.

Kindly forgive my Errors.


I am a guy in my late twenties, at least I can say am doing good for myself in this Buhari's next level. I've dated this lady for two years and I'm almost considering walking down the aisle with her before I started noticing some changes with her, mind you she is 24.



Issue all started when I left Abuja for Lagos for a contract job, before then she had been a very good lady and faithful too. For the time we dated she never demanded from me untill she lost her Step-mum, even at that her demands were untypical of a Nigerian lady, because she always fended for herself unless I willingly intervened.


Problem started when she first visited me and I noticed her long unusual calls, I confronted her but she convinced me with the normal just a friend stuff from female folks. Fast forward to the present day, she has kept her profile of been a good lady before me and family. I even introduced her to my people and from time to time she spends reasonable time
with my ailing father and younger siblings.

The actual trouble bothering me is this, toward the end of completing my contract job, she had accommodation issues and I couldn't lend a hand due to the fact that I had a lot to take care of financially and such emergency spending was not budgeted for. She was so much desperate that I couldn't help looking at her. So I had to use part of my younger brother tuition fee and also borrow from my colleague to help her secure a self contain apartment as well as everything needed to make her feel comfortable, she collected the money from me to give to the agent who was supposed to source for the apartment. She resolved to squat with a friend pending when the apartment would be ready and acquiring necessary furnitures.


Almighty God been so good to me, I got a permanent job offer in a multi-national firm in Ogun state. She came to visit me and I had to pay for her flight ticket to and fro, she just left my house on Tuesday after spending two weeks with me. During her stay with me I found out that the friend she told me she was squating with all those while has been her Ex-boyfriend. And the same person we started having issues over previously due to the fact that she was having sex chat with the said Ex and also another guy who is a member of their family church, which she told me is nothing to worry about that the ex was disturbing her that he his still having problem moving on .


I'm at the cross road and unable to decide whether to end it or wait for her to apologise. Though, I haven't told her of my findings, truth be told she's everything of a
good woman and has really supported me
except for my latest findings.



Am as confused as hell now, I be not even confronted her,
my mind is playing games with me. Pls somebody should
talk to me. All the thoughts I have in mind are so far futile.




NB: no insults please. I'm really unstable at the moment.

Terry44:
Hello nlander, Had to create this account for anonymity sake.

Kindly forgive my Errors.


I am a guy in my late twenties, at least I can say am doing good for myself in this Buhari's next level. I've dated this lady for two years and I'm almost considering walking down the aisle with her before I started noticing some changes with her, mind you she is 24.



Issue all started when I left Abuja for Lagos for a contract job, before then she had been a very good lady and faithful too. For the time we dated she never demanded from me untill she lost her Step-mum, even at that her demands were untypical of a Nigerian lady, because she always fended for herself unless I willingly intervened.


Problem started when she first visited me and I noticed her long unusual calls, I confronted her but she convinced me with the normal just a friend stuff from female folks. Fast forward to the present day, she has kept her profile of been a good lady before me and family. I even introduced her to my people and from time to time she spends reasonable time
with my ailing father and younger siblings.

The actual trouble bothering me is this, toward the end of completing my contract job, she had accommodation issues and I couldn't lend a hand due to the fact that I had a lot to take care of financially and such emergency spending was not budgeted for. She was so much desperate that I couldn't help looking at her. So I had to use part of my younger brother tuition fee and also borrow from my colleague to help her secure a self contain apartment as well as everything needed to make her feel comfortable, she collected the money from me to give to the agent who was supposed to source for the apartment. She resolved to squat with a friend pending when the apartment would be ready and acquiring necessary furnitures.


Almighty God been so good to me, I got a permanent job offer in a multi-national firm in Ogun state. She came to visit me and I had to pay for her flight ticket to and fro, she just left my house on Tuesday after spending two weeks with me. During her stay with me I found out that the friend she told me she was squating with all those while has been her Ex-boyfriend. And the same person we started having issues over previously due to the fact that she was having sex chat with the said Ex and also another guy who is a member of their family church, which she told me is nothing to worry about that the ex was disturbing her that he his still having problem moving on .


I'm at the cross road and unable to decide whether to end it or wait for her to apologise. Though, I haven't told her of my findings, truth be told she's everything of a
good woman and has really supported me
except for my latest findings.



Am as confused as hell now, I be not even confronted her,
my mind is playing games with me. Pls somebody should
talk to me. All the thoughts I have in mind are so far futile.




NB: no insults please. I'm really unstable at the moment.

ONYEUTALI:
I'll give you the greatest relationship advice that has ever been given. It's so alien I fear you might not be able to understand it. If you do, you'll live happily henceforth.

First, know that the perfect partner don't exist. If you still believe in that nonsense, quit reading my text.
Secondly, what do you want in marriage? Your partner, children, the title of Mister or you just want to marry because people marry? The two important reasons for marriage (for a man) can only be one of first two (or both of them). If you want children, you don't forcibly need a wife to have them. If you want a wife (or a wife and children), then remember the first point I made up there.
Here is the relationship advice.
Knowing that the perfect partner don't exist, you marry the better-among the rest (of course the "better" is subjective) and canonise her demons. You know what that means? It means everything about her must be good to you. You must love her and absolutely love her. Whether she's a Nun or a hoe. You have no right to ask your partner to change her nature to suit you. Why this? Because it is her you chose and she has every right to be happy in her conjugal life.
Marrying her and wanting her to stop a certain character is like buying a black car and painting it red. If you want a red car, go buy a red car. But since you accepted with my first point up there that a red car don't exist (that the perfect partner don't exist), buy the next-best colour and stick to it as the best (common sense tells us the Best/Perfect choice can't be edited. If you edit it, it's because it's not perfect/the best).
So if your wife cheats on you or you're suspecting her of cheating, tell her to sincerely tell you the truth. If truly she cheats and you don't want a cheater as partner, breakup with her. If she cheats and you think she's still the "better-among-the-others", go on and marry her but don't ever complain again, ara agbachila gi nti.

ONYEUTALI:
I'll give you the greatest relationship advice that has ever been given. It's so alien I fear you might not be able to understand it. If you do, you'll live happily henceforth.

First, know that the perfect partner don't exist. If you still believe in that nonsense, quit reading my text.
Secondly, what do you want in marriage? Your partner, children, the title of Mister or you just want to marry because people marry? The two important reasons for marriage (for a man) can only be one of first two (or both of them). If you want children, you don't forcibly need a wife to have them. If you want a wife (or a wife and children), then remember the first point I made up there.
Here is the relationship advice.
Knowing that the perfect partner don't exist, you marry the better-among the rest (of course the "better" is subjective) and canonise her demons. You know what that means? It means everything about her must be good to you. You must love her and absolutely love her. Whether she's a Nun or a hoe. You have no right to ask your partner to change her nature to suit you. Why this? Because it is her you chose and she has every right to be happy in her conjugal life.
Marrying her and wanting her to stop a certain character is like buying a black car and painting it red. If you want a red car, go buy a red car. But since you accepted with my first point up there that a red car don't exist (that the perfect partner don't exist), buy the next-best colour and stick to it as the best (common sense tells us the Best/Perfect choice can't be edited. If you edit it, it's because it's not perfect/the best).
So if your wife cheats on you or you're suspecting her of cheating, tell her to sincerely tell you the truth. If truly she cheats and you don't want a cheater as partner, breakup with her. If she cheats and you think she's still the "better-among-the-others", go on and marry her but don't ever complain again, ara agbachila gi nti.

Juliearth:





I think she is confused. Let her in on your findings. If she is truly sorry, she would apologise and turn a new leaf. When that happens, you still have to closely monitor her to know if the change is genuine or similar to that promised us by Oshiomhole's party

PrimadonnaO:
Please marry her. She's a very good woman.

She'll cheat on you even when you get married, but at least she'll apologise.

It's the apology you're waiting for at the moment, right? Don't worry, is it not just an apology? You'll get it.

Terry44:
I found out that the friend she told me she was squating with all those while has been her Ex-boyfriend.