i926:
Who dashed you 25 year old son? Young girls always live in fantasy world & the social media is where they also seek for free attention through their fables, when they bored.

StacyO, can act like a troll sometimes. But let's just assume that her story is true..I mean someone told her or she over heard another matured woman complaining.

The father and the mom failed to instil some discipline..boundaries by not spanking...smacking the sh!t outta him, when he was much younger. We watch lot of Hollywood movies and try to copy the whites. I know the Black folks beat their kids, when they outta line.

The dad is supposed to teach his sons about manliness mindset, they should be responsible for their actions, nobody owns you anything etc

The parens should find out what he wants to do besides school. Like skills he wants to make money from.

StacyO:

Yes
We sent him off to learn some skills but, he didn't take the first one seriously.

The second skill, same thing.

i926:


What kind of skills?

But why are you too playful?

StacyO:

I'll make this as concise as possible. Please read through.

My son just clocked 25 this year and he very much doesn't seem to be too serious with his life.

He barely associate with his siblings and he seem not to care if he is an adult or not.
I won't blame him entirely cause growing up was all rosy and golden spooned for him. I and his father spoilt him so much, being the first child then.
He had everything at his disposal and anything he wanted was granted him. He was treated like a man and most especially a king.

This habit of seek and you shall find seem to have attached badly to him now. He sells off his fathers properties even with the father watching fully and funny enough, he won't do anything.

As a mother, whenever I try to correct him, his father will always come to his rescue.

What broke the camel's back was when he sold my husband's car engine, fan and generator.

Annoyingly, my husband seemed very much aware of it and still did nothing about it.

He has never for once concentrated on his studies and whenever I make mention of his siblings, he always quote his father's properties being his. And how he can send everyone packing if any misbehaves.

He told us that he can no longer continue with his education and we should keep our money for more important things.


My son is lost and I don't know if he can change. I have spoken to my husband several times and he seemed very much not bothered.

I'm really worried and troubled as it is affecting me psychologically as well.

How best can someone over pampered from childhood change??

StacyO:

We don't beat our children.

StacyO:

I'll make this as concise as possible. Please read through.

My son just clocked 25 this year and he very much doesn't seem to be too serious with his life.

He barely associate with his siblings and he seem not to care if he is an adult or not.
I won't blame him entirely cause growing up was all rosy and golden spooned for him. I and his father spoilt him so much, being the first child then.
He had everything at his disposal and anything he wanted was granted him. He was treated like a man and most especially a king.

This habit of seek and you shall find seem to have attached badly to him now. He sells off his fathers properties even with the father watching fully and funny enough, he won't do anything.

As a mother, whenever I try to correct him, his father will always come to his rescue.

What broke the camel's back was when he sold my husband's car engine, fan and generator.

Annoyingly, my husband seemed very much aware of it and still did nothing about it.

He has never for once concentrated on his studies and whenever I make mention of his siblings, he always quote his father's properties being his. And how he can send everyone packing if any misbehaves.

He told us that he can no longer continue with his education and we should keep our money for more important things.


My son is lost and I don't know if he can change. I have spoken to my husband several times and he seemed very much not bothered.

I'm really worried and troubled as it is affecting me psychologically as well.

How best can someone over pampered from childhood change??

FalseProphet1:

Wait o so you have a child that's over 25 years? That means you must be in your late 40s.

kalu61:


l don't know why l am laughing self.

StacyO:


Advice based on the topic prophet.

What have you seen?

FalseProphet1:

Hmmm.

Send him to live with a pastor or prophet, let him stay with them for at least 6months and above, the Holy Spirit will visit him and he will become a changed person. This I have seen.

StacyO:
This might work.
But, not all men of God are actually men of God.

frozen70:


Take him to a guardian and counselling centre probably they will talk sence to him

Meanwhile make the corrections now with his siblings

Lastly, be strong and don't let his behavior weigh you down

His father is not saying anything because he doesn't want to die young

He will adjust but he needs someone he likes to talk with him

I just wish he has not gone into drugs

FalseProphet1:

Look for geninue ones in your location and send him there, he will become daddy's son, who knows God might even call him into the ministry from there.

StacyO:


I'll see if that can work out.

Thank you

StacyO:


We don't beat our children.