daylay7:
I was wondering why we were raised to be a provider in a marriage. Responsibility should be shared 50/50 but here in this part of the world, it is the man that must provide everything. I was speaking with a woman the other day and she told me out-rightly that it is the responsibility of the man to pay all the bills. I feel if I'm paying the house rent, my woman should be able to pay the children school fees. But No, it is the man's responsibility here. I don't think it is like that in Europe.
So, why can't we imbibe the European culture? It was on the app that a woman built two houses from her earned money without her husband knowing and yet, he pays all the bills including the womans' need and many more.
Why can't we share the bills in a union/marriage? Is it fair enough for the man to carry all these burdens?

SweetCunt97:
Go and check the history of the Europeans. Do u know there was a time their women was raised to simply marry and care for children? They couldn't even have their own money. But then, change is constant. In every culture, d man is d breadwinner. Nothing will change that.

NoToPile:



Loool @ bolded

But then there are men who spend most ( if not all) the money and still do house work.

This OP only wants to share bills, he doesn't want to share chores,it does make sense if he wants his financial burden relieved he should also relieve his lady's domestic burden that should balance out the European system he is quoting.

crackhaus:

Their reward is in heaven...

daylay7:

I will do more research on this and come back to this page.

daylay7:

I will do more research on this and come back to this page.

Baybiibee:



Still waiting for the research you made... Abi you've not gotten more information yet...

daylay7:
I was wondering why we were raised to be a provider in a marriage. Responsibility should be shared 50/50 but here in this part of the world, it is the man that must provide everything. I was speaking with a woman the other day and she told me out-rightly that it is the responsibility of the man to pay all the bills. I feel if I'm paying the house rent, my woman should be able to pay the children school fees. But No, it is the man's responsibility here. I don't think it is like that in Europe.
So, why can't we imbibe the European culture? It was on the app that a woman built two houses from her earned money without her husband knowing and yet, he pays all the bills including the womans' need and many more.
Why can't we share the bills in a union/marriage? Is it fair enough for the man to carry all these burdens?

daylay7:


Actually, I had to let it slide because of the project at hand. I will still do it at a latter time but I will quite appreciate it if you have some links. It will go along way.
Thanks for reaching out.

Baybiibee:


This one is all on you brother... For you to want to imbibe a foreign culture, you must make research, study and maybe likely u will understand it better...
Maybe with your personal research, you'll understand the true gravity of a man and his responsibilities to his home and society instead of making people think you are a lazy, incompetent and irresponsible man who wants shortcuts in his life...
Abi no be you go carry woman tell her family say u fit take care of her, your pikin and yoursef.... Now u want her to split bills with you and tomorrow beat your chest to your family and friends that you do everything at home... Pls don't be unfortunate...
That is why they tell men to get their priorities and beliefs straight before marriage but you lots never listen... A woman is a helper and can support you as she deems fit... Well maybe she's the one that married you.. What do I know...

Fiscus105:



for you to sit down and be controlling grown up adult like you, I think it must come with a price sir, not only in marriage in every human endeavors.

for you to completely remove someone patriarch name and put ur own there for life, there must be pain you too must go through.

for some to go through pains of labour severally and in which the products of such pains will bear your name for life, I think you must take some responsibilities bigger than ur partner.


you guy should endeavors to balance ur opinions before you release stupidity to the public forum. what you uttered can be used to conclude the type of person you are.


meanwhile in European nations, who told you men are not taking huge responsibilities far more than wife?

haven't you heard of man who was ejected from his own house for woman and children to leave comfortably even after divorce?

Go and study (not just read o) the meaning of alimony.

daylay7:


Sincerely, I don't know who made you like this. I won't say any thing to you but to leave you to your folly if you thing forcing someone out of his house is regarded as sacrifice. I come in peace.

I don't know why some people can not be objective for once in their lifetime.
Mtcheew!

NamelessOGBENI:

If you read in between the lines you'd know that the comments was made from one of the honorable knight in shining armour. They don't need objectivity, they need to wallow in the sea of Eves validation..

daylay7:


hhmmmm. wallow in the sea of Eves validation. thats new for me.

NamelessOGBENI:



No worry, I go dey express myself in simple lingua....

daylay7:


Sincerely, I don't know who made you like this. I won't say any thing to you but to leave you to your folly if you thing forcing someone out of his house is regarded as sacrifice. I come in peace.

I don't know why some people can not be objective for once in their lifetime.
Mtcheew!

Fiscus105:





understand ur predicament oga, naija economy has re-changed ur destiny and making you to reason awkwardly.

anyway I sympathize with whoever will sacrifice to be your wife.


...... popular nairaland slogan, marriage is not for everybody.

daylay7:

You missed the point completely if you are talking based on this ideology. From what you wrote above, ... don't be unfortunate... Can't you guys be objective for once instead of using derogatory sentence or cussing people out? You have made your point know. Speaking like that is life given someone a blow below the belt.
ANyway, thanks for your contribution on this matter.

Baybiibee:
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I missed the point? For reals ... Did u discuss with your wife what her expected responsibilities will be in marriage when you were courting/dating... Ordinarily, the society has given each gender a role to play and you clearly don't know yours... You were never enlightened and prepared to be married even with series of topics being pushed to the front-page about marital problems on a daily...


The worst part of everything is that your European culture, that you clearly dont know about, suits you when you want it to favour you... When a woman starts being a Feminist, or fighting for equality all rounder, you will still complain that a woman you "married" with your money is trying to emasculate you in "your" own house. "Me An African man"...


Lest I forget, you are debt ridden and still thinking and talking with an Ex that rejected you and you tell me you don't want to be unfortunate... Oga Rest and think abeg..

So you want to spew trash here and don't want my brutal opinion, then u shouldn't have made it public... Below the belt kwa, You are not ready for anything... You want me to pet you abi so u will think your stupid ideology is ideal right... You have a problem in the house, you discuss with your wife if she can help out with the fees not you trying to make a stand on a stupid ideology in Lagos, Nigeria (AFRICA).

daylay7:
Now I see how senseless you are! Talking to you is a waste of time.
Thank you for your contributions once again

Baybiibee:


... Pele o Mr. Objective... The truth is bitter abi... Confused being...

daylay7:

That means we were both confused. Alawada



Why are you still talking... I tot talking to me was a waste of time ... You just can't help yourself abi ... Still confused with your write-up as usual

daylay7:


Sincerely, I don't know who made you like this. I won't say any thing to you but to leave you to your folly if you thing forcing someone out of his house is regarded as sacrifice. I come in peace.

I don't know why some people can not be objective for once in their lifetime.
Mtcheew!

Fiscus105:





Nigeria woman called police to evict her husband from house in UK. it's in front page already, go there and read it, perhaps, ur allusion on marriage responsibilities in advanced country will soon clear

daylay7:
I was wondering why we were raised to be a provider in a marriage. Responsibility should be shared 50/50 but here in this part of the world, it is the man that must provide everything. I was speaking with a woman the other day and she told me out-rightly that it is the responsibility of the man to pay all the bills. I feel if I'm paying the house rent, my woman should be able to pay the children school fees. But No, it is the man's responsibility here. I don't think it is like that in Europe.
So, why can't we imbibe the European culture? It was on the app that a woman built two houses from her earned money without her husband knowing and yet, he pays all the bills including the womans' need and many more.
Why can't we share the bills in a union/marriage? Is it fair enough for the man to carry all these burdens?

Ebonygeek:


I hope you know it's not only financial responsibilities that exist in a marriage. Hope you're also willing to share domestic duties and babysitting 50/50 too? As well as preparing meals