he rarely calls me and doesnt mind wen i call. he' s very comfortable and can definately afford it but i dont know why he never calls.

he says he's always very busy and i shld be patient with him

what do i do?

Is he joking Well does he sent text messages? If yes how frequent?

@stephanay,

In another post, you said you like it when you and your buddy 'endulge' in midnight sex call. How come you are now saying he doesn't call you? Which one you dey sef?


Take your gist elsewhere

Kashif:

@stephanay,

In another post, you said you like it when you and your hubby 'endulge' in midnight sex call. How come you are now saying he doesn't call you? Which one you dey sef?

Take your gist elsewhere

BUSTED!!

in all fairness, she said buddy in that post (some male friend i guess with no strong ties).

@steph:i guess this guy must be the one u are really interested in, rite?

lol
i said buddy not hubby ok?

his text messges dont come frequent at all. im tired on chasing him like i dont have a job, wc i do but i think about him often

@steph:
thanks 4 setting d record straight. i don't mean to make u feel bad, but maybe ur just very far down on his list of priorities and he thinks u'd always be there for him to attend to whenever he feel like. But, ask urself this question, the few times u guys get to talk is it qualitative enouf for him to wanna call back again? cos u always gotta make a guy wanna come back for more, thats d trick.

@ 2dye4

thnks brov! but how do i make him come back for more? do i stop calling him and make him call me instead?

i need tips ok

tnks

hubby, buddy, hobby, body , they all sound the same.

But if you are serious about what you posted, give him some break and see what happens. Most men don't like being pestered. Don't waste your time on someone who is not willing to spend his with you.

@ kashif

thnks man!

i'll definately give him a break and see what happens, if he changes fine, if not, i can't really be bothered

@steph:

there's no clear-cut guide to solving this but try this reverse-therapy (no guarantees though)

don't call, but send messages of how much u'd love 2 talk 2 him but u don't have the time because your busy with other things.  give the impression that your super busy and u av a life too. it mite give him a nudge that u aint always going to be  handy as he thinks. g. luck

@ 2dye4

thanks bro

uve all been great, now i know what to do!

gd luck

tnks babes

i'll need it

@ stephanay,

hi dearie, i feel you. the truth is that not all guys are thesame. just look at the guy you are with, what kind of person is he? is he the type that would notice when you dont call him?

if you try the reverse psychology thing with him and he still doesnt call, no apologies too, then my dear you may have to start looking elsewhere.

sometimes you love someone so dearly and you are just hoping that person is the one!!and you may not see that the person is so not the one!! 'the one' i believe wont give you reason to feel this way, he wont give you reason to wonder whats going on with him!! so when you start to wonder why he never calls you, perhaps you should start wondering if indeed he makes you happy, and if he really and truly doesn't, then you know what to do.

all the best

@steph Delay is dangerous! Just give him a break

@STEPH

DID HE USE TO CALL B4 AND THEN STOP?, if so, then u had better find out the reaosn for it

if not, just ACCEPT IT, some guys aree NATURALLY ALLERGIC TO PHONES, especially when they are not tossing u anymore, or thy are not talking 'business' with one of their guys, so get used to it!!, lol, its a sad and bad habit that can make one feel negleted, but if u cant stand teh heat, omo come out for d kitchen oh

@ aproko

tnks dear i know what u mean and i ve been seriously thinkg about that

@luxoire
no this has been a constant habit, infrequent calls. though we chat online almost everyday from work but most times we cant talk about personal stuff on line cos of work. do u think this counts? i feel that we need to commnicate properlly, like outside work and stuff but he never really calls. i call him though but im not prepared to keep calling.

ive made a decision to stop calling and get my mind on sthg else

@poster,

I believe if a man cherish a lady so much, he will always remember her even in the heat of  business.

I will only advice you not to show too much that u need him. Give a break and see what happens.

Abegy ! bone the guy joooooooooooo

his not worth the trouble.
if he realy loves u, he would come back
crawling on his knees.







guys tend not 2 appreciate wat they untill they loss it.

i definately will

but im kinda torn btw my feelings for him and d shabby way he's treating me.

we were just chatting a few mins ago and he just up and left saying we'd chat again tomorrow

what if there was no internet? wuld we ever get to talk? im so pissed off cos i get d feeling he thinks i'll always be here and im just being tru to him but i dont think i can take ds anymore

@steph

Theres a difference btwn him being negletful, and him not calling because its his nature!!!

u gotta know, it sounds to me like u dont thik he cares much for u. If that is the case, then stop calling and see what he does, if he notices and he misses u, he will call u, if only to make sure ur ok,

if he just being a prat, then he too wont bother and i guess that will be the end of it!!

Bear in mind most africann guys can not express themselves the way women do emotionally, when ur with him does he show same discontempt or is he attentive?

But dont lose somethng good because u do not want to understanding and accept his shortcoming,

thnks

it just breaks my heart that i feel so attached to him yet he doesnt even make any effot.

wen we're togeda, he treats me like a queen and is very attentive but i feel he has a commitment issues or maybe im wrong.

time will tell, ive promised myself i wont call him and i wont even chat with him no matter how tempting it may be!

ndo!

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