Tugee:



Let me advise you as a married man myself, try not to make it a big issue and trust your partner more. It takes time for women to settle into their marriage both mentally and emotionally especially if you guys didn't date long enough. Most of ladies are prepared for wedding and completely unprepared for marriage and will still cling to their previous attachments such as Friends, Mother, Sisters, Cousins, Family, etc (although 'Male Bestie' is sort of strange). You will need to invest time, resources and energy into your marriage especially in these early stages to gain her absolute trust until she feels comfortable enough to detach from them. It may take a while, say two to three years but trust me when you get to that stage, you'll be cruising in your marriage like it's a bonanza. There's nothing better emotionally than having a loyal partner, no amount of money can buy you that and the sad reality is that it doesn't come automatically with the marriage certificate, it takes a conscious effort and God's Grace.

I'm a happily married guy myself and I have absolute PEACE. Happy Married Life Brother

as a married man, who is also an adult, I partially disagree with you, though I agree when it comes to family or perhaps females friends but for even ordinary male casual friend it's a no go area, not to talk of male bestie.

a guy who is ready to marry a lady ought to have cut ties of any bestie her woman has even before introduction, we are talking of married woman in this scenario sir.

how will you feel, you and ur legally married wife are at home and she is making excessive calls with bestie, (giving him attention right under nose) asking him to give her advice, when ur brain as husband is still intact?

xpressionx:
My girlfriend will never have male bestie.
From Bestie pant go shift.

The day my ex girlfriend confessed that she kissed her bestie when they were drunk.....the relationship ended in my heart that very moment.

I cant comman kill myself by myself.

You are on point my guy.. No mind all this small small boys talking trash, GOD Forbit for my gf to have bestie not to talk of wife.

You go marry person girlfriend so you no get girl friend wey you for marry, I always tell people marry your friend, no go marry person another person nurture, you might not be lucky about it, nurture your gf yourself and marry you never see any thing ooo Mr husband, she go later bring him son to your house ...Act quick before it's too late, now your money can not even save you , You want a young girl see am naa,

My guy , a stitch in time they said , saves nine. I've bn in dz situation and d more i tried enduring , d more d ties keep getting stronger. And finally i was dethroned. A union doesn't need a third party. Be it a clergy , former friend , just a friend , even female friends , their activities should be curtailed. In my case, our pst would be like ; don't u want her again ! I saw those questions as rhetorics. Plssss , stop ur wife now or give her the freedom she craves by showing her the exit door now lest u regret 2mrrw.

summerflame:


U insulted her mum? Really?.. wow..

Did his mum insulted you?... Wow

Evening newspaper, go get a life, if u are bitter, no one is the cause of your frustrations..

Go get a life and learn to close your legs

your mother is an idiot too!!! Any man that does not respect a woman despite being born of a woman, his mother deserve serious questioning...it is lack of respect for women that make u he goats rape and kill girls, imagine hauling insults on the lady for giving her innocent advice, you, him, your stupid mothers should rot in hellfire....imbeciles

If the guy is reasonable, reason with am on wetin him and ur wife share and make am see reason with u,before u enta one chance.

Lalami3232:
Lol . Oga make I advise you as a fellow man. In this life eeh, na only two things na dey involve in most cases and this same "2 things" law still apply for this ur matter, make I give you the possibilities:

1. Maybe the guy and ur wife na just normal friends wey don share alot in common, though without sex sha. The friendship don too tight sotey ur wife dey find am difficult to leave the guy.
2. The guy na ur wife one time bedmate wey still dey bust ur wife head with he sex and friendship.
So wetin u go na to talk to ur wife maturedly without any shouting or false accusation because u no get proof say dem dey do anything evil. Tell her say u no dey comfortable with the friendship cus preeq and toto matter be like bread and butter for this generation, very easy to eat.
If she still no stop, then u go leave her alone cus if u use force, she go dey dodge dey go meet the guy for back. But my number 1 advise to u be say, OGA DO DNA FOR UR CHILDREN OOOO, E GET WHY.

I don talk am before and I go talk am again "The day my wife go born girl pikin, I go cry like who dem say na Lai Mohammed be he papa".

from the day you met her, you should av told her you are not comfortable with bestie thingy,

but non the less, dismiss the bestie, then if you catch her you can treat her the best way to treat a faulting wife....

Platony:
Una dey try oo.
Which kind yeye bestie be that?
Not in my house,...Women wey sabi dey emotional, d day una go quarrel one kind quarrel be say; she go go the guy house go stay.
Men with their bad life, I believe they're discussing in secret, him go begin express d love wey him no talk since when she neva marry.
Na steady whinning him go dey whine her now wey she don marry

My brother, be a MAN,...cut dat shit off.
If she do anyhow, let her go back to her parents house!!
Marriage no be by force! Na u marry her, not the other way round.

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Na long life we all dey pray for,...any bad energy should stay far away from us biko.

She needs to go back to her parents house and learn for more three years before getting married

Bigdik70inch2:
see ehn........
Yo wife might love u Ooo......reason why she got married to you......but jux know she enjoys the big fat dick of her bestie and wouldn't let go easily ..........

That's just it........

For ur mind now u don talk.

Lovelyn451:
your mother is an idiot too!!! Any man that does not respect a woman despite being born of a woman, his mother deserve serious questioning...it is lack of respect for women that make u he goats rape and kill girls, imagine hauling insults on the lady for giving her innocent advice, you, him, your stupid mothers should rot in hellfire....imbeciles

I pity the parents to have birth to a national disgrace like you...

U should have been aborted or donated to the almajiris cos I can't see anything good coming out of an old haggard olosho with no home training like you...

Enjoy your dick riding... Useless bed warmer, community service agent, Room call girl.. omo ale jati jati

If I may ask, how old are you and or how many years are you older than your wife? How old is her bestie?

I ask this because babes from the age 20-25 are quite difficult to manage and this means you still got like 3 - 5 more years of her gara gara to put up with before the coin finally drops from her eyes.

Sit with her and ask her what is it that she misses in her bestie that you can help step in.

Like someone mentioned above, possible they are not sexual and possible they are, how you manage them is going to determine how long your marriage lasts.

Don't try to be too bossy or husbandy... be a friend and a lover to her.

Nacoss25:
Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old.

Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality.

Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends.

One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her.

My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go.

Lalami3232:
Lol . Oga make I advise you as a fellow man. In this life eeh, na only two things na dey involve in most cases and this same "2 things" law still apply for this ur matter, make I give you the possibilities:

1. Maybe the guy and ur wife na just normal friends wey don share alot in common, though without sex sha. The friendship don too tight sotey ur wife dey find am difficult to leave the guy.
2. The guy na ur wife one time bedmate wey still dey bust ur wife head with he sex and friendship.
So wetin u go na to talk to ur wife maturedly without any shouting or false accusation because u no get proof say dem dey do anything evil. Tell her say u no dey comfortable with the friendship cus preeq and toto matter be like bread and butter for this generation, very easy to eat.
If she still no stop, then u go leave her alone cus if u use force, she go dey dodge dey go meet the guy for back. But my number 1 advise to u be say, OGA DO DNA FOR UR CHILDREN OOOO, E GET WHY.

I don talk am before and I go talk am again "The day my wife go born girl pikin, I go cry like who dem say na Lai Mohammed be he papa".

Lol.....this one is loud oh

Bros things like this are not easy to handle my friend got married 2018 and it took me alot to literally push her away bck to her husband.
We have never had sex before or after she got married, so it is not always about sex
Just that she has always share her plans and ideas with me and strongly believe in my opinion.

After she got married i deliberately cut off dat aspect, knowing that the best person a wife can plan with is her husband.

I made a lot off effort though because i didnt want to deprive a man his place in his own home..

If i share any information or opinion about anything now, i must seek oga's approval.

Now she has adjusted to the new reality of her status.

Whether your wife is a friendly person naturally or not, there need to be boundaries...to everything
There are hyenas everywhere....

Its even better she doesn't keep her friends secretly. Lucky for you the guy understands and keeps distance. Your marriage is a young one I'm sure her relationship with the guy will grow weak over time. I've seen this countless times

There is nothing you can do. She will turn it upside down for you.

Get a female bestie too...have her call you all the minutes.

Her brain will reset.

At times if you don't pinch someone with the nail they r using to pinch you, they won't know how hurting it is.

Your wife is the problem here...not the bestie

Na wa for you ooo, you no even help the guy with the 'week by day'..

Augla1:
Just as you said if you leave it, it will grow 'week by day'. You know what Geometric progression is

Many factors can play here, how did you met her in the first place? Did you initiated marriage proposals at her will? Did you enticed her with money and material things thinking maybe she loves you?

A woman who is happily married to a man doesn't have any business with a male bestie she will erase any past friendship's with a guy/guys from her memories no matter how closer they are before she got married.

Weathered:
this is the old port Harcourt olosho when community dick done bend like question mark.

She's the true life version of the Samaritan woman Jesus met at the well.

Your mama go collect award for raising the unflinching, indiscriminate Mandingo bender

see the fool foaming in the mouth...samaritan woman, jesus, portharcourt, yen yen yen, clinching on straws just to haul insults...low lifer!!! take the award.to your mother, my mum is a virtuos grandma enjoying life alone with her husband. Her last son will be getting married soon so she has no more children to train, I can take you to her for proper training, animal

Ikpongiton:
what did amazon said, that makes you to caustic-tongued her in this manner.she does not deserve this insult at all.

her message is satanic and she's a demonic hoelosho.

So advising married woman to keep close male friends isn't satanic? Telling 22 year old females to be enjoying their lives (prostituting and sampling dicks) isn't a receipt for disaster?

The old 40 year old is a prostitute. And we know what old females who had led bad lived do to get peace: they ruin other young woman as well.

Lovelyn451:
see the fool foaming in the mouth...samaritan woman, jesus, portharcourt, yen yen yen, clinching on straws just to haul insults...low lifer!!! take the award.to your mother, my mum is a virtuos grandma enjoying life alone with her husband. Her last son will be getting married soon so she has no more children to train, I can take you to her for proper training, animal

matter never start, and this snowflake has started telling me about her family tree. this one is obviously as dull and lifeless as the sperm her acidic püssy kills at first contact.

summerflame:


I pity the parents to have birth to a national disgrace like you...

U should have been aborted or donated to the almajiris cos I can't see anything good coming out of an old haggard olosho with no home training like you...

Enjoy your dick riding... Useless bed warmer, community service agent, Room call girl.. omo ale jati jati

pls extend to your mother...the chief olosho of ogbomosho...the only agbo seller wey dey sell nyash join...ogbomosho men cum bag...your mama too much jare

Next time she calls the guy, scatter things, controlled violence, don’t beat her ooo, just make the house hot, bro you have to break that friendship there is nothing like Male and Female besty, except they are family members.

1. Don’t be a vegetable in the house, your marriage is new now stop treating her like your girlfriend but wife take control of her and her dealings.

2. Ban her from calling that guy, then call the guy and issue him a warning as-well, don’t play cool with it, let the two of them know, you as the husband is in charge now.

3. If she don’t want to listen call her parents, report the matter, tell them she isn’t obedient to you and they should talk to her.

Once she sees and feel the negative reaction all this is generating and the rancour, she will be forced to surrender that friendship, you are a man so currently she is toying with your ego and status as the king of the house the law and order.

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Nacoss25:
Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old.

Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality.

Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends.

One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her.

My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go.

Put an end to the relationship immediately.

Put an end to the relationship immediately.

Put an end to the relationship immediately.

Weathered:
matter never start, and this snowflake has started telling me about her family tree. this one is obviously as dull and lifeless as the sperm her acidic püssy kills at first contact.

that how proud I am of my family...the family dey give me serious joy, correct mama and papa wey get sense...no be like some people own wey teach their children how to dey shout olosho upandan like mumu....tueh

Johnlegacy57:


My mom married at the age of 19 and you are saying a 22 year old is not mature for marriage.

To me it is too early.And that was during your mother's time this time is different there is more to life.

My opinion

zeuss:
Have a lady call you always......and let her complain also.

Simple.. Opportunity to get female bestie.. If possible one with globe nyashh.

Lovelyn451:
pls extend to your mother...the chief olosho of ogbomosho...the only agbo seller wey dey sell nyash join...ogbomosho men cum bag...your mama too much jare

this is Amazontopaz, the becrowned 40 year old, port Harcourt street strutter.

She's on a mission to normalise prostitution on Nairaland amongst young innocent girls.

See as people dey swear for you like abomination.

hangout with the male bestie and acknowledged him for recognizing that his friend is married then share your mind with him




this is a simple sturv

Lovelyn451:
that how proud I am of my family...the family dey give me serious joy, correct mama and papa wey get sense...no be like some people own wey teach their children how to dey shout olosho upandan like mumu....tueh

but you be hoelosho nah.

Your toto done lose elasticity.... you're a damaged woman with serious emotional and social angst.

Sundrus:
If u truly want make that friendship wane out naturally, become friend with that her bestie.

This is a very sensible advice ... but it goes either way .. take for instance , if the said guy is a gangsta .. he might connive with the wife to deceive the husband while they engage in their secret affairs ..

this is nothing to worry abt!she even calls him in ur presence and the guy is even trying to keep away from her!what else do u want?ur only bn jealous!she will soon learn to do without him!!

Why do you have to get married to that small girl in the first place?

Guy you just got married to the wrong Lady

You know that she has a male Beastie and you foolishly went in to marry her

Pray you don't have heartache and heart attack over this.

You better call that small girl's people and tell them what is happening so that they will call her to order also tell your people too and tell them what is happening too

And be ready to train another man's children because that guy will soon Father all your wife's kids

You better call the call and tell him that you are bringing the girl to his house

Stop disturbing us with this issue and face it head-on.