This is unfortunate. But it serves her right. How can you marry a man without investigating him? How can you swear before God and man to live the rest of your life with a man that you have not investigated?

I have been saying it. People don't understand what marriage is about any more. People just marry like that. Women are not investigating the family they are marrying into, men are not investigating the family they are marrying from.

Its unfortunate, like you said she is living in regret. Regret is one of the most painful emotions any human being can have.

Romanoff:
Return their brideprice.

A marriage built on lies will come crashing down like a pack of cards.

That's how one scammed a woman I know that he's a pastor and a contractor. He proposed to this woman when he found out she was doing well.

Time to plan wedding, Baba said he had not been paid for all his contracts. Aunty used her money to fund wedding.

12 years down the line, oga has refused to do anything and he was never a contractor. Aunty is still feeding him and their two children, she's the one paying fees and all.

She done old pass her age and the man still no gree give her peace.

All you'd need to do is look at her and you'd see years of regrets.

angelfallz:
This is unfortunate. But it serves her right. How can you marry a man without investigating him? How can you swear before God and man to live the rest of your life with a man that you have not investigated?

I have been saying it. People don't understand what marriage is about any more. People just marry like that. Women are not investigating the family they are marrying into, men are not investigating the family they are marrying from.

Its unfortunate, like you said she is living in regret. Regret is one of the most painful emotions any human being can have.

My dear, hers is one that really saddens me. She just believed everything the man said cause he's a "pastor".

Is he not a human being?

Apart from what he does, does she not like his person? At least she saw and liked him enough to go ahead with the marriage before finding out he's occupation. So, why the fuss?

If she's not comfortable with what he does, let her set up a biz for him. Afterall we've seen graduates doing the oddest jobs.

Man na man. .

Supercaddy:
Both are same Jobs abeg

a specialist mechanic earns more than a car dealer, more a mechanics income is more stable

GboyegaD:


I still feel both of them were canny otherwise, I can't think of how she never knew he was a mechanic and not a car dealer.

I swear she suppose don know tey tey my brother

talk2hb1:

She is single

Errm errmm....abi she dey available

cunny88:
a specialist mechanic earns more than a car dealer, more a mechanics income is more stable

U can say that again

CharisEleos:
Is he not a human being?

Apart from what he does, does she not like his person? At least she saw and liked him enough to go ahead with the marriage before finding out he's occupation. So, why the fuss?

If she's not comfortable with what he does, let her set up a biz for him. Afterall we've seen graduates doing the oddest jobs.

Man na man. .

We should try and call a spade a spade ma/sir. Make I lie call myself Wetin I no be na nonsense. Set up a biz for “fraudster” a thief who go still lie give another “shawty” for town say he be minister pikin

Misternas89:

We should try and call a spade a spade ma/sir. Make I lie call myself Wetin I no be na nonsense. Set up a biz for “fraudster” a thief who go still lie give another “shawty” for town say he be minister pikin

All lie na lie. Tell me you've never told a lie since your were born.

The deed has been done. To err is human, Biko.

I'm not taking sides with the man or trying to support his lying tricks. All I'm tryna say is she shouldn't divorce him.

CharisEleos:


All lie na lie. Tell me you've never told a lie since your were born.

The deed has been done. To err is human, Biko.

I'm not taking sides with the man or trying to support his lying tricks. All I'm tryna say is she shouldn't divorce him.

Don’t get it twisted bros, lie wey I don lie for my life, Na God fit just save me I swear. And I can still swear to God, ever since I started wooing I’ve never for once lied to a lady to call myself Wetin God no call me. Lie to a woman that im a cousin to the SA to the Governor of Kwara State?.....Never in my life.
Seems u don’t get this right, did you ?? I let my present wife knows Wetin I be true true when we still dey court. Lieing and been deceitful to a woman all because u wan marry her Na Wetin I detest in this context. Hope u gerrit now abi make I explain again

Many mechanics sell cars for their clients too.

So, the man didn't deceive her.

Not trying to justify the deceit of her husband, its just that women in their desperation to settle down, easily fall for lies and won't do background check. Also, men subconsciously know that every women have an unrealistical image in their head, and men try to fit into it. If he came out clearly that he is a mechanic, chances are high she would be turned off.

This is why it's easy for a woman to love a man she met online because of his highlighted qualities (lies or truth), even though such calibres of men and even better surrounds her in real life but they didn't fit her imaginary man. This problem could easily be solved if women stop being delusional about their needs in men.

Misternas89:

Don’t get it twisted bros, lie wey I don lie for my life, Na God fit just save me I swear. And I can still swear to God, ever since I started wooing I’ve never for once lied to a lady to call myself Wetin God no call me. Lie to a woman that im a cousin to the SA to the Governor of Kwara State?.....Never in my life.
Seems u don’t get this right, did you ?? I let my present wife knows Wetin I be true true when we still dey court. Lieing and been deceitful to a woman all because u wan marry her Na Wetin I detest in this context. Hope u gerrit now abi make I explain again

I got you perfectly well from your very first comment which was I made that first line of statement that " all lie na lie". So, don't stress.

Like I said, the deed is done. She can only forgive and move on.

I've once dated a guy that lied he lives in lekki. In fact on his FB profile, its lekki he put there.

So, on the day I went to visit, he was to pick me from the church. After service I was thinking we would start going back to lekki ( because the Church was at Aja ilaje) but my bro now took me further and boarded a cab going to Sango tedo. Lol.. I was just laughing in the cab but what will I do? I've already fallen for him so I kept my cool. Imagin, Sango tedo. Hm..

It's just that the woman here is a greedy fellow who's after wealth and not the person involved.

Well it's too late for her to wail. It's now left for those of us who are not yet married to do some thorough background checks and findings about the man we want to marry to avoid stories that touch the heart.

What else is he lying about?

pansophist:
Not trying to justify the deceit of her husband, its just that women in their desperation to settle down, easily fall for lies and won't do background check. Also, men subconsciously know that every women have an unrealistical image in their head, and men try to fit into it. If he came out clearly that he is a mechanic, chances are high she would be turned off.

This is why it's easy for a woman to love a man she has never met online because of his highlighted qualities (lies or truth), even though such men surrounds her in real life but they didn't fit her imaginary man. This problem could easily be solved if women stop being delusional about their needs in men, and seek for men with potential also.

Lol, this is gold...

crackhaus:

Lol, this is gold...

You sef see wetin I de see abi?

Misternas89:

Says who?

Forget o mechanic get grade o!

Misternas89:

Errm errmm....abi she dey available

Not available

Lol. A car mechanic is also a car dealer na. At least he repairs cars not keke.

Is actually the same thing, some mechanics sales Nigerian used cars, some buy, repair and sale , that girl sounds like a gold digger

cunny88:
a specialist mechanic earns more than a car dealer, more a mechanics income is more stable

True

Misternas89:

She was truly carried away and that shows she’s been eager to get married at all cost. Some stupid pressures I guess, maybe peer or whatever

Just checking his fingers would have given him away!

Funny that this lady is now complaining. Unfortunately the heart of man is wicked. If not why would a man do that? Why not come clean from the onset?
Women are also guilty of this kind of deceit, before marriage they're angels ready to do anything to make you "happy"! Few years into married life, the true colors begin to display!! So, she should bear with it and learn to cope... accept the man and his office, thankfully it's not yahoo or mafioso or criminality!

Romanoff:
Return their brideprice.

A marriage built on lies will come crashing down like a pack of cards.

That's how one scammed a woman I know that he's a pastor and a contractor. He proposed to this woman when he found out she was doing well.

Time to plan wedding, Baba said he had not been paid for all his contracts. Aunty used her money to fund wedding.

12 years down the line, oga has refused to do anything and he was never a contractor. Aunty is still feeding him and their two children, she's the one paying fees and all.

She done old pass her age and the man still no gree give her peace.

All you'd need to do is look at her and you'd see years of regrets.

blame aunty and not the scammer.

when a woman is confi


blinded to marry at all costs without do necessary findings about the guy, she is bound to be scammed, when a guy comes ur way and tells you he is worth this and doing that, if such a lady knows what she is doing herself ,she ought to see signs and evidences of the guy worth and work.

but for our naija ladies, they fall for what they hear yakata with just little show off without single findings.


seeing man as a way of escaping poverty is a dangerous mindset.......

CharisEleos:
Is he not a human being?

Apart from what he does, does she not like his person? At least she saw and liked him enough to go ahead with the marriage before finding out he's occupation. So, why the fuss?

If she's not comfortable with what he does, let her set up a biz for him. Afterall we've seen graduates doing the oddest jobs.

Man na man. .

she actually fell for type of job he is doing, and not that she likes and loves him, and many marriages are like that, reason why some wives involve in extra marital after wedding, ( they get money from "A' and feelings that "A" lack from 'B'.)

in another way round the guy resulted to deceiving because that girl might be a kind of lady who is too selective.

pansophist:
Not trying to justify the deceit of her husband, its just that women in their desperation to settle down, easily fall for lies and won't do background check. Also, men subconsciously know that every women have an unrealistical image in their head, and men try to fit into it. If he came out clearly that he is a mechanic, chances are high she would be turned off.

This is why it's easy for a woman to love a man she met online because of his highlighted qualities (lies or truth), even though such calibres of men and even better surrounds her in real life but they didn't fit her imaginary man. This problem could easily be solved if women stop being delusional about their needs in men.

.....seeing man as escape route from poverty has been the mentality of naija lady from time immemorial, 60% of marriage failure attributed to this factor.

Fiscus105:



she actually fell for type of job he is doing, and not that she likes and loves him, and many marriages are like that, reason why some wives involve in extra marital after wedding, ( they get money from "A' and feelings that "A" lack from 'B'.)

in another way round the guy resulted to deceiving because that girl might be a kind of lady who is too selective.

Exactly. Shes after what he does.

Yes, most girls out there are guilty of the bolded. They want to have their cake and eat it.

In this life, you can't always have it all complete and perfect in one stretch. This life is not balanced. So we have to learn to make do with whatever we have at any given time.

Fiscus105:



blame aunty and not the scammer.

when a woman is confi


blinded to marry at all costs without do necessary findings about the guy, she is bound to be scammed, when a guy comes ur way and tells you he is worth this and doing that, if such a lady knows what she is doing herself ,she ought to see signs and evidences of the guy worth and work.

but for our naija ladies, they fall for what they hear yakata with just little show off without single findings.


seeing man as a way of escaping poverty is a dangerous mindset.......

Aunty wasn't doing badly. She was living in a rented apartment in town and had a business she was doing.

CharisEleos:


Exactly. Shes after what he does.

Yes, most girls out there are guilty of the bolded. They want to have their cake and eat it.

In this life, you can't always have it all complete and perfect in one stretch. This life is not balanced. So we have to learn to make do with whatever we have at any given time.

you said it all, only few individually have ur mentality going into marriage

Why did he have to lie? I will pick a mechanic 1000x before I pick a car dealer.

Two occupation I do not rate;
1) Car dealer
2) Contractor

It is better I marry a man that sells okporoko consistently and diligently, than marry these two sets of people.

When they have money, like when they hit big, they just spend and spend. When they are broke, they will be FUCKEEN BROKE, you’ll begin to wonder where the years of hard work went to.

It is low self-esteem that made him think being a mechanic is bad.

I would be pissed off at the deceit, but I will definitely be glad he is even a mechanic. Repackage your mechanic workshop. Don’t stay in one corner drinking shepe and chyking agbo sellers that rub tiro full eye. Men that can operate/repair and handle machines are one of the cutest creatures on earth. Only a mumu doesn’t know that simple fact.

Well Technically a Mechanic deals with cars I love this country

pocohantas:
Why did he have to lie? I will pick a mechanic 1000x before I pick a car dealer.

Two occupation I do not rate;
1) Car dealer
2) Contractor

It is better I marry a man that sells okporoko consistently and diligently, than marry these two sets of people.

When they have money, like when they hit big, they just spend and spend. When they are broke, they will be FUCKEEN BROKE, you’ll begin to wonder where the years of hard work went to.

It is low self-esteem that made him think being a mechanic is bad.

I would be pissed off at the deceit, but I will definitely be glad he is even a mechanic. Repackage your mechanic workshop. Don’t stay in one corner drinking shepe and chyking agbo sellers that rub tiro full eye. Men that can operate/repair and handle machines are one of the cutest creatures on earth. Only a mumu doesn’t know that simple fact.

You can say that again Poco.