mbahdi:
Is it rigth or wrong to send your elder brother on errand?
You have a brother that seniors you with 4years,am 27,he's a final year student,he's going to school is a collective effort from the family but the Lions share always come from you the junior one,as the only person who has a meaningful business doing.others contributes tokens with food.
So as soon to be graduate,your brother is planning to come stay with you for the main time so as to look for work or see or to check if your area will be good for him to put his nysc assignment.so the question now is who's going to be doing the cooking?like you took food items home after your busy schedule at the shop,but he was ahome all through the day,will you still come and do the cooking or indirectly tell him to cook it?wunt he misunderstand you?please I need answers.
I don't mean he should come washing your clothes.but like cooking keeping the house clean since you are the one providing the rents food and every other things.

Xiaomi1:
your are just heaping curse on your head. Sending your brother errands because of his condition is brainless. You are very stupid for calling yourself breadwinner, who knows tomorrow?

mbahdi:

Hmmm.
Don't be stupid and pained bro.
I only asked a question.no body knows tomorrow because you asked your brother to cook what he will also eat from.carry ur nobody knows tomorrow and shift abeg.whats bad in helping your struggling offer stressed brother?
But if I were to say it's my elder sister I mentioned you will say she's a woman and it means nothing right?
You still live under your parents that's why you don't know how had life is,or fending for those who supposed be fending for you.may God give you the grace to grow up

Xiaomi1:
hahaha haha, epe ti mo e

mbahdi:

Lol o mu awon ebi re

Xiaomi1:
sending your senior brothers errands = automatic God's curse

mbahdi:

Hmmm.
Don't be stupid and pained bro.
I only asked a question.no body knows tomorrow because you asked your brother to cook what he will also eat from.carry ur nobody knows tomorrow and shift abeg.whats bad in helping your struggling over stressed brother?
But sending him you hard earned money isn't curse and you and heeping it on your head.but cause it's now time for him to help you,it's now curse.may God help your confused state of mind sir.
But if I were to say it's my elder sister I mentioned you will say she's a woman and it means nothing right?
You still live under your parents that's why you don't know how had life is,or fending for those who supposed be fending for you.may God give you the grace to grow up

Carchoice:
Heart of a man!!


I sympathize with your elder brother in advance. Buy handkerchief for him on my behalf. He’ll need it soon.

ImaIma1:
Nothing wrong with sending your older ones errands especially when it's not like you're ordering them around. And a sensible older one should be able to use his/her sense to do some things without being told, instead of crossing legs and having "senior one entitlement mentality".

I remember me and my immediate older sister working while our older sister was home. We would call and make requests and she would help us. We were not even paying rent or doing all that, but because she was free she was really there for us. Though a lot of the financing fell on us that were working. She was priceless and still is; everyone's favourite. She would cook, clean and do what she could. It didn't reduce the respect as our older sister.

When she had to move, everyone in the family felt it. The issue here is that you guy's ego and pride is always your problem and it doesn't help anybody. Instead, it is a very large problem that should be done away with so that everyone can put heads together.

LilMissFavvy:
Is it really your blood elder brother that you are referring to? So you mean you cannot help your brother for some years to stand on his feet without rubbing it on his face? Your brother will not depend on you forever, he will surely be able to provide for himself someday. people's fulfill destiny differently, some early, some late.

Fact is, if your brother has sense, he will gladly do chores, cook, and contribute his little quota without waiting to be told. Don't ask him to do chores or cook. He should know he is supposed to help out. If he doesn't help out, tolerate him till he finally gets a job and leaves. In my life the few times I have been opportuned to help someone older, i always feel blessed to do it.

mbahdi:

Nothing as such.atleast.we are all humans and one sudnt feel entitled thereby not helping out.elder brother or not,it's annoying carrying ones problem and in return he or she don't help out in little ways u tink it doesn't matter.how is it bad he preparing the meal before you are back.is dat too much to ask?or treating him bad?@xaimo1 need a memory recheck.even his type can't contribute a dime to his family progress but going around looking for whom the gods will curse like his cursed family.....Oni iranu

mbahdi:
Is it rigth or wrong to send your elder brother on errand?
You have a brother that seniors you with 4years,am 27,he's a final year student,he's going to school is a collective effort from the family but the Lions share always come from you the junior one,as the only person who has a meaningful business doing.others contributes tokens with food.
So as soon to be graduate,your brother is planning to come stay with you for the main time so as to look for work or to check if your area will be good for him to put his nysc assignment.so the question now is who's going to be doing the cooking?like you took food items home after your busy schedule at the shop,but he was ahome all through the day,will you still come and do the cooking or indirectly tell him to cook it?wunt he misunderstand you?please I need answers.
I don't mean he should come washing your clothes.but like cooking keeping the house clean since you are the one providing the rents food and every other things.

Carchoice:
Heart of a man!!


I sympathize with your elder brother in advance. Buy handkerchief for him on my behalf. He’ll need it soon.

Cossybob:
There is something about some folks, you came on here asking and seeking advice and there it is, opened with many opinions or rather good advices expedient to be followed but what do they do? They try to bash back.

@mbahdi, since you don't heed to the advices offered by others don't come here asking for advise.

PuZZyNegro:


Deliberately sending him on errands you can do by yourself isn't healthy.

However, he should be able to use his conscience to do some certain things without waiting to be told.

And when he fails to use his conscience, you can tell him to get some things done if you are not able to do them as a result of your busy schedule.

I traveled to the village with my elder brother last December. He's more than 10 years older than me. We needed to buy everything we would use to cook including pots, plates, spoons, knives, buckets, etc. I bought them all.

We went to the market and I bought everything that we cooked including food, meat and gas.

Don't you think it will be haram for him to sit down while I enter the kitchen to cook and let him eat? Of course, he used his conscience and did the cooking.

Since, he couldn't contribute anything financially, while will he relax and still let me do the cooking?

Being an elder one doesn't mean a superior one. Things should be done accordingly that each person must contribute to the successful running of the home either financially or physically.

He's your elder brother, not your boss.

efficiencie:


...if the age of his brother means nothing, then the age his parents too mean nothing...we could equally say the same of the age of anyone older! Yes, the elder brother could be a jerk but as younger one regard and respect him if you want the regard and respect of someone younger...

PuZZyNegro:


Age is a just a number.


He should not respect his elder brother because of just age but for the fact that he is the elder brother.

You should respect your parents not because they are older but because they are your parents.

Are you saying that a woman who gave birth at age 35 should be respected more by her child than a woman who gave birth at age 22?

The relationship here is what you should respect and not the age.

LilMissFavvy:
It is wrong for you to instruct your elder brother to prepare the meals. If he was making his own money, you wouldn't try it. If you don't want to listen fine.

ImaIma1:


You make it sound bad when you say "instruct". Is there really anything bad if an older one compliments his younger ones efforts by preparing a meal or helping out?

LilMissFavvy:
In my first comment I stated clearly that any wise elder brother in that condition should help his younger one with chores, cooking, without waiting to be told. No sensible human would stay in a house without helping out.