Why do you need to be diplomatic with someone that is stingy.tell him to his face and break up with him.imagine collecting back money for pad.babde if u make the mistake of marrying that kinda person,u r done for.

Give him sexxxxx always..

Tell him you are mammy-watrrr picking..his priiick won't stand again..he will look for how to run away

othermen:
Did he add his transport fare to and fro?

Confirm

Rozcol:
He came with his ride

He should.have calculated the fuel used and collect the money too

Rozcol:
My friend isn't a leech and does not demand from him as well but however his stingy habits portrays a red flag, a man who does not priotize your needs will eventually be an irresponsible man in marriage, he will extend such stingy attitude towards his kids

This thing you said now, tell your friend to tell the man the exact same thing.

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

If he is not poor ,then probably he is just stringy for a reason,it s not really proper to spend excessively on a woman you have not marry ,he might be shit testing your friend and I hope you don't help her fail , instead she should tell him that she appreciates him but he shouldn't be that stringy,she should say it to his face but not ,in an abusive way ,I'm sure he will change

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Are you still asking us for advice??

Come on will you dump that silly man already!!!!!

I'm a man o, I've said my own

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

What does your friend (or you) do for a living?

tonididdy:


You also be diplomatic and reasonable...he's only her gf and not her husband yet or father.
It may sound stingy taking money back for those items but in the real logical sense she never said 'please buy for me, I have no money',that's when we would have tagged him Mr stingy if he expected money back even after the plea.

Don't deprive yourself of a man you say
yourself is good, he could be a good husband also. No 'rich' husband will not know his primary responsibilities as a man married to a wife who doesn't work(yet).... No man will deprive his family of any necessity if he can afford it.

I think you are just judging by the covers so easily... Give him a chance if everything else checks good.


GL and my 2cents

You just spoke rare sense. Na so these zombie girls dey pursue husband wey God send their way.... That may be is principle. You don't just splash money on a woman you are not married to. If she decides to leave tomorrow, all the money you invested is for another man's property.

Ladies of these days are shallow and superficial because of money. These particular guy they are calling stingy may spoil her silly when he eventually gets married to her. Op that friend of yours is a fool. So it's because of money shes in the relationship in the first place? She can't just love and respect the guy free of charge?

I know her type. Let her leave him na, person wey won marry your silly ass off. Let her go on to the next one searching for father Christmas/ prince charming. When they have pass her round like offering basket finish and she don turn 40 single and unmarried. Tell her I have many cats, I would dash her one to keep her company since she felt too fly and rejected her husband.... I just dey laugh

ThatIgedeBoy:

Bro I am a father of 4 boys, not married, and the last thing is not to be able me to provide for my sons. I provide for their mother too she can't work and she takes care of my sons. But you see if she were parasitic I wont drop a dime more than is needed. Even times when m broke she provides for the kids with money from the little business she does .... A man spends money on value, we no stupid....
My baby mama haa never asked me for transport money or money for pad...
The lady i am currently dating would spend alot of time with ne discussing business, where she wants to be in few months and years, she gives me advice .... .OP and friends are busy looking for pad money when other women are building empires with their husbands. .

Mr man go sit down. Na so dem dey deceive Una.

Vulcanheph:
Op
If it's not your relationship , then mind your business...

Are you a learner?

Of course, It's her relationship

But...

Let's just agree that...

She's just asking for a FRIEND, as usual.

Rozcol:
You still don't get it,there are certain things any lady should not overlook in a relationship, a man who doesn't priotize your needs clearly shows you are not part of his life and if you eventually marry such man he won't care about your needs and that of the kids and besides my friend is not materialistic but a reasonable man should know what to do.There was a day they went out together and he stopped to buy some banana and my friend wanted some as well,he bought his own and paid and stretch forth his stingy hands to collect money from my friend to pay for her own,who does that?stop taking sides and hit the nail on the head

Madam say it's your boyfriend, stop the pretense.

ibedun:


Chai! Weak man

I am weak because I am not a woman beater like you

I am weak because I am not a womanizer like you.

Guys like you are in their grave.

Wise up

Rozcol:
You still don't get it,there are certain things any lady should not overlook in a relationship, a man who doesn't priotize your needs clearly shows you are not part of his life and if you eventually marry such man he won't care about your needs and that of the kids and besides my friend is not materialistic but a reasonable man should know what to do.There was a day they went out together and he stopped to buy some banana and my friend wanted some as well,he bought his own and paid and stretch forth his stingy hands to collect money from my friend to pay for her own,who does that?stop taking sides and hit the nail on the head

If you think you aren't part of his life, why marry the guy then? Abi am missing something ni?

Who was buying sanitary pad b4 bros come into picture? Some Nigerians are something else all they want is ready make guy to provide them with everything.

bluefilm:


Are you a learner?

Of course, It's her relationship

But...

Let's just agree that...

She's just asking for a FRIEND, as usual.

Hahaha you are funny. Make we pretend say she dey ask for a friend

Rozcol:
You still don't get it,there are certain things any lady should not overlook in a relationship, a man who doesn't priotize your needs clearly shows you are not part of his life and if you eventually marry such man he won't care about your needs and that of the kids and besides my friend is not materialistic but a reasonable man should know what to do.There was a day they went out together and he stopped to buy some banana and my friend wanted some as well,he bought his own and paid and stretch forth his stingy hands to collect money from my friend to pay for her own,who does that?stop taking sides and hit the nail on the head

Why did your friend not pay for both his bananas and also pay for her own?

If she do am, she go die?

Must it always be the man spending on y'all?

othermen:
Did he add his transport fare to and fro?

Hahahaha �

Lostchild:


I am weak because I am not a woman beater like you

I am weak because I am not a womanizer like you.

Guys like you are in their grave.

Wise up

You are a very WEAK man!

Dying over a piece of ass. Yeye! Go and cross the road again while agonising over a woman who don’t send you.

You're the parasite that's seeking handouts here though.

Nephilim:
should I take a lowlife dimwit serious!!?
Anyways, You can connect your sis to such a miserable fellow.

Rozcol:
He came with his ride

The guy collect money for fuel

Rozcol:
He knows my friend is very reserved, he will quickly grab that we planned it.Can you imagine he's hinting on proposal, I mean who marries a hardcore stingy man

Your friend still wants him.
You will be surprised to see your friend accept the proposal

Rozcol:
Not as easy because some family and friends are aware of the relationship

And so?
Tell her that she's not serious yet

AutoChick4U:
Mr man go sit down. Na so dem dey deceive Una.

the hardworking independent women are the obes deceiving us. And the lazy leaches begging for airtime, data, pad, transport and food are the bandits I guess.... No go hustle dey find man wer go carry you comot from poverty

ThatIgedeBoy:
the hardworking independent women are the obes deceiving us. And the lazy leaches begging for airtime, data, pad, transport and food are the bandits I guess.... No go hustle dey find man wer go carry you comot from poverty

Yes, we will comot from d poverty together. E pain am

Rozcol:
You still don't get it,there are certain things any lady should not overlook in a relationship, a man who doesn't priotize your needs clearly shows you are not part of his life and if you eventually marry such man he won't care about your needs and that of the kids and besides my friend is not materialistic but a reasonable man should know what to do.There was a day they went out together and he stopped to buy some banana and my friend wanted some as well,he bought his own and paid and stretch forth his stingy hands to collect money from my friend to pay for her own,who does that?stop taking sides and hit the nail on the head

Lol this is kinda weird. Probably he’s not getting his bargain from the relationship so is putting up an I won’t spend attitude. In any case it’s not nice or proper.

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Hi
I think the problem is not him. Firstly its your friends relationship, she entered it she should decide when she wants to come out , some girls are just too slow for their own good , this is the disadvantage of not knowing yourself or being confident in yourself , from what I read I'm guessing that your friend is some one that just agrees to date anyone who shows up when there's no one there , she will learn eventually , if she doesn't learn now , she would end up in more relationships like this till she decides to learn .
Secondly if both you and her are one of those girls who are simply searching or hoping for a stable man to magically fall on your laps when you are not stable yourself then that's a big big problem, its better if you have it and you want someone who has more , than to not have anything to offer at all just texts, calls and sex , i might be wrong but I know I'm at least 50% right , petty things like pad and few stuffs , get them yourself for yourself , spend on yourself ,work hard , make your own , or at least put in the effort , its not like money grows on trees , when you put that much time and effort to your self , you will not have time to think about what a man is doing or what he's not doing, you won't have time for anything like this , if he's someone that really wants your time , he would try to impress you to borrow your attention occasionally , so yeah I think its really all your faults right now ( both you and your friend)
Lastly I never interfere in my friends personal relationships , I listen when they have something and I give advice if they permit me , but ehn saying that I'm here or anywhere asking for advice for how someone else would break up , Darling , ur friend is lying to you , you'll just be wasting your time , she's not done with him , I know coz I'm a lady, I've made excuses to stay at a place that I shouldn't have stayed. I've lied to everyone about something they already knew the truth about , we do it all the time , and it is best for us to decide to let go ON AWA OWN if you try to force or pursue someone to do something they're not ready for , you'll just make it worse , its like expecting a alcoholic or drug addict to just give it up overnight , there will be extreme withdrawal symptoms , it applies to everything , so the summary of everything I just said in simple language is


" drink water and mind your business , and God will bless you"

Rozcol:
Its beyond my imagination, but he spends lavishly on himself, buys nothing but designers,settle his male friends whenever they need his assistance but this man has never spent a dime on my friend no matter how little and petty the situation is.My friend does not know how to make demands and I think he's taking advantage of that.The most annoying thing is she has so much soft spot for him and I think he's smartly manipulating her because she find it hard confronting him on anything.

Does that mean if he marries her, he will not feed or cloth her? How certain are you that when she becomes the mother of his children, he will be stingy to his wife and children?

You are speaking for yourself, if truly its your friend you care about, i suggest you ask her to ask him directly why he doesn't buy her gifts or take her out.

He could be innocent you know. Its possible he has seen that she is comfortable on her own and likes her for being independent. But you pushing her to quit is a bad thing.

You even said it, he supports his friends. So he is not stingy. You friend didn't ask, you have no right to label him stingy and support a break up based on this.

It is even obvious you are the one putting the idea in her head. She is ok with it but you are not.

adanny01:


Does that mean if he marries her, he will not feed or cloth her? How certain are you that when she becomes the mother of his children, he will be stingy to his wife and children?

You are speaking for yourself, if truly its your friend you care about, i suggest you ask her to ask him directly why he doesn't buy her gifts or take her out.

He could be innocent you know. Its possible he has seen that she is comfortable on her own and likes her for being independent. But you pushing her to quit is a bad thing.

You even said it, he supports his friends. So he is not stingy. You friend didn't ask, you have no right to label him stingy and support a break up based on this.

It is even obvious you are the one putting the idea in her head. She is ok with it but you are not.

You will not understand,there are certain things a lady should not ask from you before you do them no matter how comfortable she is,we are talking about CARE here.

Rozcol:
You will not understand,there are certain things a lady should not ask from you before you do them no matter how comfortable she is,we are talking about CARE here.

Spending money is not care. A guy must not spend money to show that he cares for his girlfriend.

The girl is not his responsibility, at least my sisters were taught that by my parents. A boyfriend only buys gifts to show he cares.

Any girl who has genuine problems should ask her boyfriend for assistance if she has no parents or guardians to turn to.