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Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by NoToPile: 11:38am On Jun 15, 2021 |
loffyloffy: True points As for the OP He is even saying he prayed about it you are cheating you are praying who are you deceiving and he keeps saying she's a good woman, she doesn't deserve it yet you keep cheating on her. |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by rex444(m): 11:45am On Jun 15, 2021 |
Funny as it sounds , you have a point ... Marriage is about sacrifices... In whatever way they present itself, endure it and still be the man... If your side chick understands that you are married and is willing to keep up ,then make sure you satisfy your home and conscience before going for your rendezvous dharamanil: |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by talk2hb1(m): 12:19pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
yum01:I am thinking, its either the problem has to do with her: I guess she is not a virgin when you meet her? OR The Problem has to Do With You: You Never had the opportunity to Play Around While Young or Before Marriage and The Hormone is Catching up with You Either Way, you still need to keep your wife. Something must have attracted you to her in the first place Boobs, Ass,... Try to rekindle that. 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by Loisemm2(f): 12:22pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
yum01 , transform her into your spec. Its easy since its the outer appearance. With make-up, clothes, hair etc... anything is possible. I have seen people who did this. Today, they are their spouse's spec. 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by phenzy(m): 12:25pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by Janosky: 12:27pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
yum01: That spec you find attractive today (whether it's big yan$h or big brea$t$ or figure 8 etc ), will it remain attractive for forever when old age sets in ? The shape you had in your school days is that the same shape you have today? You have a good woman in your house mothering your children and complement you to keep the home stable. Rather than appreciate her, you came online to massage your over bloated ego & rant like a teen in puberty. Oga Bros, please appreciate what you have else, you're lose it & those specs in your head would be insignificant. Oga Bros, you're just looking for excuses to continue cheating on your wife (alias midlife crisis, whatever that means). When yawa go gas nau, you no go remember the specs you have been raving about. Abeg shift ! 2 Likes |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by yum01: 1:40pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
Thanks for the advice. Both harsh and mild . All point is noted . I have to make it work . Divorce for me is never an option and a side chick will always be a side chick . She can never sacrifice what a good wife would. |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by yum01: 1:56pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
Sometimes in life we need others to help us press the reset button . Thanks . |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by talk2hb1(m): 2:27pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
yum01:Good Man, just go home, smile at her, buy her gift, and tell her what you expect from her. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by Ogbotobo77(m): 3:09pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
Yxwqq:Let me reiterate . ...men can have sex detached and still love the wife at home....women on the other hand have to be emotionally invested to have sex..a woman that can have sex detached is labelled a HOE...she belongs to the street Men are as faithful as their options...as a man progresses financially his pool of women also increase..cos women are hypergamous in nature and they chase the top 10% of men...now how do u expect a man to be faithful when the things that gives a man value takes years to achieve..while for a woman,she is born with value?? 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by ridge: 3:40pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
All men go through this phase 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by cococandy(f): 3:45pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
You clowns don’t get tired of regurgitating senseless words you heard from struggling and hurting MRA on the internet? You don’t even change it up a bit. You just open mount and vomit it waah word for word. No evidence of reasoning or working logic. Ogbotobo77: 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by pocohantas(f): 5:08pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
Cutehector: Hahahahaha. Why? |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by Mystery9(m): 6:02pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
That you are not attracted to your wife, does gurantee an act of adultery from you. Are you not born again? Maybe you are not. If not you would have take it to God in prayers. And you must know that spiritual spouses can cause such situation before and in marriage. That is why you should have cried to God. Know that you must confess to your wife your act of cheating and desert such act, if not forget about forgiveness from God. |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by GboyegaD(m): 6:03pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
yum01: Uncle, you are doing what you longed to do. What do you find disgusting after 9 years that you cannot discuss and reach a compromise on? How is she different from the other ladies out there? You know what you want and rather than wait on us to support your actions, please go ahead. |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by Benbobola(m): 7:00pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
Physical attraction should be number 1. Everything else come after. Even the Holy spirit can't grant you that because it's your body(flesh) that has that responsibility. Now the deed has been done and you have offended and broken a sacred tie. You have toake amends to redeem your soul. Confess to your wife. She seems wonderful from your description and is the best person to help you through this. Even if she files for divorce which is clearly within her rights now, she is still helping you. All those confessions and advice you seek from other married couples mean nothing until you seek that of God's and your wife. Peace be into you as you do what is right. |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by Nobody: 7:26pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
loffyloffy:I love this.. |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by Cutehector(m): 7:45pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
pocohantas:because they understand men better |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by Justice505: 7:47pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
CharisEleos:In your late thirty and you're still selective.
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Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by Nobody: 7:52pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
Justice505: Yes? Anything wrong with it? Better than being in a hellish marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by djon78(m): 9:39pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
RightToReject: This is philosophically very deep I have learnt from this your contribution The truth is that many men are facing this ops scenario Your contribution is very revealing |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by Ogbotobo77(m): 9:59pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
cococandy:Rest lady |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by frozen70(f): 10:06pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
yum01: The love wasn't really there at first but her character was what swept your feet You went for another woman simply because you started nursing is since you no longer find her attractive You are the only one yo solve this puzzle It's either you have all the fun you want with your girl or girls outside and end that once and come back home fully or you create that love and love your wife and stop playing out You know what, she is observing you and taking records of your change of attitude towards her Time will come, she will wear your attitude like cloth and won't have that feelings on you That's when you will be at the receiving end |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by ireneidiva(f): 10:17pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
loffyloffy:The most reasonable comment here. Op listen to this. |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by IAMBlesssed(f): 11:08pm On Jun 15, 2021 |
funshint: You crave outer beauty because you have inner beauty..OP has a good wife.. He has a loving and peaceful home that's why he's looking for spec...By time he got his spec with karashika attributes, his eyes will clear.. Marriage is a very long journey.. Choose inner beauty first, you can make up the outer beauty or put up with what you have if you are mature enough.. Peaceful and Loving home is being under rated by those who have it..Those who chose looks and specs above good behaviours have their stories to tell..If you have your spec with good character, fine..If not be mature enough to make do with what you have.. Invest in and upgrade your woman and see if she won't look beautiful for you.. |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by Fiscus105(m): 5:55am On Jun 16, 2021 |
CharisEleos: Let me correct ur wrong impression, no matter how woman a marry beautiful is, there must be a diminish marginal return of attraction, man libido towards her must reduce as time goes on, what the guy is doing now, he will still do it even if he married most beautiful girl on Earth. And at the bolded, if what you are saying is true, anyway, you afirmired it already in ur comment to face any consequence that may arise as a result of rigid decision. Love and attraction are from heart but lust and deception come from eyes |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by zed7: 6:06am On Jun 16, 2021 |
People marry their spec and yet they are still not happy and end up divorced. There are many 'power' couple, handsome guy and cute lady who marry but can't have peace. My point is that attraction in itself is not the answer. Why do you think looking for a partner is though? You have to meet physical, emotional, spiritual requirements. You have to be compatible health wise, personality wise and even family wise. For you to have a good marriage, you have to tick at least above average in all of these requirements. As for your palaver, you are in it already. Treat her right and find a way to meet her conjugal needs. We do jobs we don't enjoy doing and yet we do those jobs for 35 years. Find a way son!. 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by sisisioge: 6:17am On Jun 16, 2021 |
Oh my goodness! Poor woman! If I give my advice you sef go fear...chai. 1. Talk to her and agree to go your separate ways. Or 2. Find a stable side chic that would complete your Triangle. She would be the love and madam be the strength. Also, allow her to flex as she will. It's now an open marriage. You're quite the sorryasss sha....who signs up a lifetime contract with someone they dont really care for? Hear what Idris has to say to your madam.... 4 Likes
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Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by Fiscus105(m): 6:37am On Jun 16, 2021 |
Nazgul: Did u also read where he said he married his wife as a first sex partner and after marriage he had additional four girls that he bedded? My question to u, all those four girls after making mistake of unattraction in first instance, are not attractive too abi? U guys should stop hiding under a finger to perpetrate all sort of ur evil desires and yet trying to shift blame on someone else or devil And for ur second opinion , no matter how complete you are, your wife will always meet another men that far more complete than you do, so, going by ur analogy, ur wife must sure commit adultery the day she will meet better men after marriage. If u re short man, every tall men ur wife meets will bed her, ur reasoning is too childish If you don't have car, every guy ridding car will have their ways before her abi? 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by Nobody: 7:10am On Jun 16, 2021 |
Fiscus105: Exactly. I thought as much. The man has had enough of her and wants a younger and fresher girl which is the case most times with married men and the reason they have side chicks. But in his case, he's trying to deceive himself by sounding all churchy about it and claiming he was brainwashed. SMH. You're right. Na long throat dey worry OP. |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by imagrg(m): 8:27am On Jun 16, 2021 |
Are you sure those evil girls out there have not charmed you? They can make you hate your wife and even your children. |
Re: Why Am I Treating My Wife Like This� by yum01: 10:10am On Jun 16, 2021 |
See guys I have erred and I am trying to do better . No matter how we see this I am at fault and I am not the type that blames the devil for anything , I take responsibility. My first child is a girl and recently I imagined what I feel if her husband is treating her the way I am the mother . I told my side chick the same day that ha m done, alto she is still begging but I don’t think my home is worth the bullshit I am doing . I have erred and just trying to be better . Like some people said it has always been in me and waiting for when to manifest . We married virgins guys , I never double dated as a young man and now I wonder why I am like this . I will do better. Thanks a lot . I deserve whatever you throw at me here . CharisEleos: |
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