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Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by musa234(m): 2:13pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
You never ready marry.. Why do Christians discriminate like this? To them the church they worship is the best and others are not... Abi Catholics don't worship God or what? Which church introduced Christianity in the world if not Catholics? Nawa 49 Likes 1 Share |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by inumidun2010(m): 2:15pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
Like this, U wan enter express because say e no sabi speak in tongues... Chaiiiii.. Your eye go soon clear when Bro. Matthew go punch your teeth comot... Answer this Questions Sincerely, * has he ever beaten you * Does he lead a Wayward life * Does he have features of a Good Father * Does he respect sanctity of Marriage * Does he have problem with you being a Pentecostal Girl, which I doubt cos most Catholics aren't bothered about other denominations.. Do you know there's a Pentecostal version of Catholics called CHARISMATIC... those people are FIRE, I've met many of them when I was still in Uni... Why not join them and persuade him to join you alsoo..... Your Eye go clear when Bro. Matthew go JA E LOLE ARA. 38 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by multiple4u: 2:36pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
You are not being honest here. Deep inside you, you know there is more to this. Let's do some analysis here: 1. You have been with him for 3 years, yet that's not enough for you to know if he's the one or not. 2. All of a sudden, you gave your life to Jesus. You didn't take him with you when you were giving your life to Jesus. You said you made a mistake by not praying about it at first. Are you referring to the time you have not given your life to Jesus or are you referring to now that you have given your life to Jesus? The time frame is not adding up because if you said you should have prayed about it at the beginning, was it the time you are still non-Christian because that means you shouldn't have prayed anyways or you don't know what prayer is at that time. 3. You are saying that catholics are not real Christians because you are now a non member. That's so childish. 4. Is your bf a chief priest? What made you think he is not the one just because he's a catholic. You think you are better than the guy. Such a shallow mind. You are just looking for an excuse to try the new guy That's all over your Dm. This new guy is making you LOL. You lover his fancy, you just like that he's vibrant. His is bringing something new into your life. You think your bf is just not meeting up. We all love new stuff, but every thing gets old my dear. Women sha. Good luck the new guy. Hopefully you won't change your mind on him too. 62 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by decub: 2:41pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
mugnmuffin: I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church.So you were actually a sinner by being a Catholic. FYI, this assumption alone could make you a fanatic. 27 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by SenecaTheYonger: 2:43pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
mugnmuffin: So his offense is being catholic? Why don’t you just say it instead of writing this long nonsense? 47 Likes 1 Share |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Xilsbridalhouse(f): 2:44pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
mugnmuffin:I would have made same comments like others if I haven’t been studying my Bible and working on knowing God more. I share same view with you, though I’ll never condemn anyone based on his or her beliefs or religion. If you are not at peace with this decision, pray to God and ask Him for a sign. He will definitely show you many signs. Also what ever leaves you confused and doesn’t gives you peace, it’s enough to be concerned about and God is not an Author of Confusion. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by murphyibiam15(m): 2:47pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
mugnmuffin:The above cancelled part shows how stupid you are. You look like one insensitive nicompoop by trying to sow a seed of enmity in Christianity. If you changed church thats no one's business and changing church to pentecostalism does not mean you're saved afterall the pentecostals came from the Catholics. I have no advice for you because the insensitivity you showed here could be the same insensitivity you use to treat your man, so the problem seems to be from you and not anyone else. So fvck off 65 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by murphyibiam15(m): 2:53pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
jaeyking:That's to tell you she is the one with the problem, lol 19 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by ojotobiloba1: 2:55pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
This Aunty is never ready... U will soon hear am 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by murphyibiam15(m): 2:55pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
Eduboy1990:Only God knows who's pure in heart. Humans are worthless to know that 11 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by farady(m): 3:01pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
It's entirely your choice OP. I understand your predicament. Introduction is not marriage and doesn't necessarily have to finally lead to marriage either. Your sounding like he's less a Christian because he's a Catholic is what I find nauseating, after being in a relationship for 3 years! Well, simply talk it over with him and your parents. He will be heartbroken though. Bottomline is that from now henceforth, you must be genuinely lead by the Holy Spirit on your choice of a man for a husband, so that you don't fall into the wrong hands of Bro. Matthew, that will turn you to a punching bag as described by someone up there. I wish you the best. 8 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Pauldollars(m): 3:01pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
[/b]If the Holy Spirit is convincing you that he is not your husband and the right one, then he is not your God given husband. You don't need the advices or have to listen to what Nairalanders who have not experienced genuine salvation and freedom from sin are telling you. In our journey to heaven, you have to choose your partner wisely. Your partner should be one who is also on his way to heaven, encouraging you and building you up in the Faith, not just any man or friend that will draw you back to the world and its glamour and pleasures for sin. Remember, one's spouse can make him/her miss heaven or make heaven. It all depends on who you choose[b] 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Tobechuckwu(m): 3:03pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
Take a step back nd start all over again. Pray about it first nd ensure u are convinced that God is telling u he's d right person, don't rush into it. Just take ur time cuz it's life journey. 4 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Help2020: 3:06pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
mugnmuffin:You're trying to create problem where there is not..I had to read your post over and over again, and all I can deduced is that you're thinking for God..kill this mentality of he is not for me,I didn't pray about it blablabla..The marriages that are breaking up everyday does it mean prayers where not offered before they got married? The only red flag now according to you is that he sees God differently from you..Who knows if God approves his and not urs?Face your life and stop thinking for God. 14 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by doctore212(m): 3:09pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
After reading your right up I begin to question the intergrity of your cerebral domain. Pls do not marry him . Keep thinking otherwise. Very soon now you will end up in Shiloh . Or last last one bad guy go service ur kpekus for you and later dump you. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by LandMann: 3:19pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
Aunty mugnmuffin What I want to tell you is that you'll make a terrible mistake in life if you base your marital decision on the religious orientation you have been socialized and brought up in, especially in Nigeria. I don't know if the guy is right for you because you have said nothing about his temperament towards you, his moral standing, his outlook towards life, his level of discipline and honesty, etc... and then your level of physical attraction and sexual compatibility... Those are the factors that holds a marriage together and those are the factors that I'll advise any lady to consider more in choosing a partner. As long as the person believes in God and obeys the two greatest commandments, love your neighbor as yourself and believe in no other god except God then his other "church" activities counts less. You listen too much to pastors who preach and write one thing but commit tons of sin in their closets... Religion is the biggest scam in Nigeria after politics. That kind of guy will not allow his children to be brought up like sheep that majority of Nigerian youths have become... lazy and relying on God for miracles and solutions to their problems when God created them whole with all the organs and attributes to dominate their environment and solve their problems. If I dated someone like you, I'll make it clear that I'll respect your religious views and lifestyle but I wouldn't want you to force it on me or my children. The problem is you have not had a deep and full discussion with the guy on your religious concerns, it's eating you deep and you're allowing what your dishonest and corrupt god of men say to override your judgement. Perhaps, you have seen another brother in church you fancy and you'd like to add more sheep to the multitude of youths in Nigeria. Go on, have that deep and open honest discussion with the guy and move on if you want. Both of you won't die if you don't marry each other. Cheers 48 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Buziness101: 3:24pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
Just tell us that you are now in love with another man... SMH... Women 29 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Beatswim: 3:52pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
To be honest with you,the holy spirit has been ministering to you but you just decides not to yeild His call.. you are saved and you need to ask God for direction on whom to marry first beforr entering into any relationship at all..pls end that relationship and go back to God on your knees and seek direction from a real prophet of God for a clear direction.. 3 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by chrisifeanyi: 4:24pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
Go and marry chosen member so you two go dey wear apron like mad people. Save ko saviour ni. Those of them that will come with a very heavy bible can even be the worse. They will hide under I'm a born again to perpetuate evil. 47 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Nobody: 4:27pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
Both you and your husband to be are ignoramuses. Nonsense. 2 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by livingchrist: 4:41pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
Can two walk together except they be in agreement. Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed? Spirituality is very important, dont go and yoke yourself unequally. As for me any woman that is unequal spiritually is an absolute NO! 5 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Judybash93(m): 4:52pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
This is one of the dangers of Christianity. The lady is a Christian and the guy is a Christian but because they attend different denominations there's a problem. 29 Likes
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Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by matrixmuzi: 5:01pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
mugnmuffin:Take it or leave it. U are the one with the problem. The guy should distance himself from u. Holier than thou fanatic. 27 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by amadaovie(m): 5:01pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
Another christian Broda from her new church don dey chkye her. 34 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by jassmenn(m): 5:09pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
I think OP Don go join jehova witness. Because me I still dey find the red flags oo 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Misterone: 5:21pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
mugnmuffin:Madam, you are the problem. Over sabi dey worry you. If he was the one doing this shit what would you say? Everyone cannot be like you, reason like you, or be religious like you. Learn to live with others. 20 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by JubrinElSudan: 5:23pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
You said you started seeing too many red flags but mentioned just the laid back spirituality. For someone that ticks all the other boxes, do you intend embarking on a spiritual war in the future? 9 Likes |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Misterone: 5:39pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
livingchrist:Trash everywhere you look. being religious does not mean you will be a good wife / husband or your marriage Would be happy. I have been married for 9 years now. I don't go to Church but my wife is a holy ghost worrior in Church. Initially she wanted to cajole me, I told her not to create problems where there was non and that she should be praying for me not trying to force me. Since then we have never had any quarrels. See, the thing is you cannot change a leopard's Spots. You learn to live with it. If we start pointing fingers at our imperfections, then we cannot live together. be happy with the positives. The OP is not perfect, She has so many flaws. If her man starts pointing them out, I bet She go run. Tolerate others. 27 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Kingsteve(m): 5:42pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
mugnmuffin: You're not serious. I repeat...you're not serious. You can let him go and go look for someone else, let's see how that works out spiritually for you. Ndi spiritual life! Rubbish! 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Unicorno: 5:44pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
Your fiancee sounds like he is a good man,I hope you break his heart and elope with that pentecostal rascal that has been feeding you with lies. I used rate all these church girls but later got to learn y'all the real devil. If Jesus judged you the way you have judged him finish,he would slam your heart at the floor the day you were giving your heart to him ![]() 27 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by GiantParrot(m): 5:46pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
I have some questions for you mugnmuffin: 1. Were you taught not to acknowledge Christ as Lord and saviour in the Catholic Church? Did your fiance receive the same teaching from the Catholic Church? I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged...... So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern. 2. Can you go into details of what you understand by spiritual life? 3. Can you go into details of what you understand by things of God? 4. In what ways do your views about God and his differ? 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by AgentGoat: 6:07pm On Jun 23, 2021 |
Catholics no be christian again? abeg who get that south african coach meme wey he dey clap hands. 3 Likes 1 Share |
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