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Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by Delaw00(m): 8:17am On Jul 31, 2019
With all this relationship talk nd gist 'F' na nhi gbogbo e....all this overated shiicheesy
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by charlsecy(m): 8:25am On Jul 31, 2019
Sonfethopia:
Busy body.we r not condeming it.we r just suprised.
You're new on, or have recently become observant on Nairaland. That's why you're surprised.
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by DSoj(m): 8:25am On Jul 31, 2019
RUBBISH JUNK WRITE UP.

Cant even read the long crap. The few i glanced thru are poopoo talk.
Everybody has wat works for them. Do U and stop dishing junk rules.

JUNK. JUNK. JUNK.
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by baddosky1: 8:27am On Jul 31, 2019
Poshriel:


If you don't have friends that makes you an introvert and or a sadist ... Some Women want guys who are outgoing social and connected and you can't be connected without a network of friends

Fixed!

I am neither an introvert nor a sadist!

I use to have friends but eventually discovered that friends of these days can lead you into unwarranted trouble. I have people who are business acquaintances which means what connects us is a passion which is only work or productivity related. As for the "How far guy..make we go drink" kind of friends, I don't have them...
And NO...I totally disagree with you that you can only be connected with a circle of friends!

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Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by vicsongreat(m): 8:44am On Jul 31, 2019
SpikesC1:


Common sense is not common,don't tell me you have never been dumped
[color=#006600][/color] but some girls shaaaa,
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by vicsongreat(m): 8:47am On Jul 31, 2019
SpikesC1:


Common sense is not common,don't tell me you have never been dumped
[color=#006600][/color] but some girls shaaaa, [quote][/quote] relationship wahala
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by Funmmyastic: 9:14am On Jul 31, 2019
Nice writeup.
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by blingxx(m): 9:15am On Jul 31, 2019
tellwisdom:
Who would be interested in girls who spend their lives watching big brother, talking about relationship, men and sex; 80% of the time??

This, exactly is the reason you hardly find a reasonable gurl at this present Nigeria. 99.8% are not useful to humanity and the society

One just broke my heart yesterday (imagine, hard guy like me) I spent so much time and few dime on this girl, just to find out she is scouting with another guy who have been banging her undecided "how did I know" she comes late to class all tired and stressed due to sex (aye mi o) telling me she hard headache, I even helped her write test once.....this is worse than getting duped by online fraud

Infact my stomach is still paining me undecided I fell for this girl no be small

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Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by Nobody: 9:16am On Jul 31, 2019
aminalib:


i read the post and i still stick to wat i said, its common sense, u know when someone is not into you and just wants to get in ur pants, HELLO is anyone there?
yeah true..
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by TerrorSquad147: 10:09am On Jul 31, 2019
havilla:

***

OK that's it ladies. I'm sure some of you were able to relate with a few of these signs.
Please stop making excuses for him. If he likes it, he will put a ring on it, *wink*
If you know more signs, please share with the rest of us.

On a lighter note, here's a sign he's definitely into you,

http://girlsguideto.com/article/15-signs-hes-not-you
load of bullshit...you think a guy doesn't have his own life to live? If he doesn't call everyday, can't you call him? Abeg geddifock off
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by jeff1607(m): 10:12am On Jul 31, 2019
we need the revised edition as this write up is outdated, since 2011
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by jimcaddy(m): 10:15am On Jul 31, 2019
oya what of the ladies own... We have heard the man's own. It remains the woman.
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by Quinic(m): 10:42am On Jul 31, 2019
Havilah who sent you!!!!! You are ruining the fun!!!
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by Stupidmodes: 11:01am On Jul 31, 2019
havilla:
. He's just not that into you if he's not asking you out.
If a man is excited about awoman, he can’t stop himself— he wants more. If he’s attracted to her, he’s going to want to take it further. If he’s not making a move, it’s not because he is ‘scared’. The only thing he is scared of is how not attracted to you he is.

2. He’s just not that into you if he’s not calling you.
He says he didn’t have a moment in his busy day to call. Rubbish! The real reason is that you are not on his mind. If a man leads you to expect he will call and then doesn’t follow through on such a little thing, he will never follow through on big things. Be aware he is okay with the idea he is disappointing you.

3. He communicates via TEXT and email. By doing so, he avoids the “getting to know you” conversations. He really isn’t interested in moving things forward. He wants the down and dirty. When can he see you? If you have already had sex, his TEXT is to set up his next booty call. He usually steers the conversation towards telling you how sexy you are and how he can’t wait to see you again. DUH!

4. He warns you that he isn’t relationship material. Men usually say what they mean. He is telling you that he is not relationship material-at least with you-believe him! You might be the exception to the rule, but more than likely, you are not. He is probably going to have sex with you and dump you when things get too complicated (you want more from him).

5. He puts little planning into your date. He tells you that he wants to hang out and watch a movie or something. “Something” means having sex in case you haven’t figured that out by now. If you always go to the restaurant, because it is his favorite, he isn’t trying to please you. More than likely, he goes to different restaurants with different women. A guy that is really into you will plan a date. Even if the date doesn’t cost him a dime, he will plan.

6. He makes lots of empty promises. He keeps talking as if you have a future, but he takes little or no action. He talks about having a future together or all the fun things you will soon, but he doesn’t plan a date! Some men promise the moon, sun and stars, but deliver…nothing! He really isn’t that into you. Think about this. If he can’t come up with a few things that make you swoon despite his pocketbook, he isn’t that into you.

7. He makes last minute plans to see you. You are just so glad he calls that you don’t realize that that he is definitely not that into you or he thinks that you have no life and would be readily available at his beckon call. Either way, if you accept, you aren’t scoring any points. You were probably one of the women in his “little black book” and not his first call.

8. He avoids the “getting-to-know you” conversations! He really doesn’t want to get to know you better. He wants to know what he needs to know to get you into bed. If he really wants to get to know you better, he is asking questions about you, your life and what you want. If not, he is looking for the easiest, quickest booty call. He will flatter you! He will tell you how amazing you are! But he doesn’t really know anything about you. If you fall for this, don’t expect a call anytime soon. He will call you again when he is Hot.

9. He is pushy about getting physical. He tries to move things forward beyond the “make out” session with minimal clothing. If you resist, he makes you feel bad that you aren’t that into him. He says that he just wants to cuddle, but he is really trying to get more. (Just so you know, most men don’t really like cuddling. They do it because it gets them sex!) He is kissing and holding you, but in the process trying to take your blouse and pants off, wants sex. If he gets upset or offended when you put the kibosh on moving forward, he isn’t that into you. If someone really likes you, he is willing to wait until you are ready to move things forward.

10. You initiate and he doesn't follow through. If you're really into a guy and you think he may be shy, try initiating a conversation, phone call or texting session. If you start the conversation, he'll want to continue it. However, if he doesn't return your calls or texts or tries to end the conversation quickly, he may not be into you.

11. His actions don't match his words. If he says he'll call you and then you don't hear from him or if you suggest meeting up and he is "too busy," he probably isn't interested.

12. If you have been dating for a month or more and have never met his friends, he isn’t that into you. When men think they have found a great catch, he want to show her off. If you don’t get an invitation to meet his friends, you aren’t that girl. He wants to see you alone but not integrate you into his life, this is not a good sign. If a man is really into you, he wants all his friends to see the woman he is dating. If this doesn’t happen, you are not the woman he wants to be with long term.

13. He says he just wants to be friends. He means it. If you offer up sex as part of the package, he is willing to be friends with benefits. He isn’t stupid if you are! If you offer to satisfy him sexually, why not. If you think being friends with benefits will lead to more, it won’t. He isn’t into you in almost every case. When he finds someone who rocks his world, you are history.

14. He's not that into you if he's still hooking up with other women. Or you even catch him at it, he’s not ready to settle down with you. Even if he still maintains inappropriate contact with exes or even other women friends he’s not ready to invest time in you or ready to have any kind of future. He’s just not worth the time if he’s out looking for someone else. Save yourself the heartache and move on. You’ll find someone who will be so thankful for you.

15. He’s just not that into you if he doesn’t want to marry you.
Every man you have dated who says he doesn’t want to get married or doesn’t believe in marriage, or has ‘issues’ with marriage, will, rest assured, someday be married. It just will not be to you. (Tell me about it, lol)
***

OK that's it ladies. I'm sure some of you were able to relate with a few of these signs.
Please stop making excuses for him. If he likes it, he will put a ring on it, *wink*
If you know more signs, please share with the rest of us.

On a lighter note, here's a sign he's definitely into you,

http://girlsguideto.com/article/15-signs-hes-not-you
If he doesnt this , if he doesn't that. Guys will not kill themselves for you people who will turn back and forget in a jiffy. If he fails to text you then text him. If he fails to call you call him, if he fails to ask you out ask him out. If he doesn't like cuddling allow him. If you don't want sex at the moment refuse him. If he kicks you out move on. That's life. Guys also have feelings and wants to be loved.
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by Stupidmodes: 11:08am On Jul 31, 2019
aminalib:


i am speaking on the beginning phase of knowing someone, when i say all of that is obvious because it is, truly when u first meet someone and they do not put work and effort into knowing you,, end it, and thats what i mean, that's a rule i live and follow by,
You are still wrong. If you are not a guy you can't know their psychology. Not putting energy in knowing a person by a guy isn't a red alert, sometomes it is a green alert which most if not all girls fail to understand.
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by kamtrix(m): 1:25pm On Jul 31, 2019
I am a guy. It is 100% accurate. Op has decoded guys code o. Girls, all 15 points are correct
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by ChineduPeters(m): 3:04pm On Jul 31, 2019
Posts like these is one major reason professional fvck boys are still in the business. They do everything in your "good" books but end up doing the "needful". What ladies have refused to understand is that there are no rule(s) to these things. Just because he keeps to the rules in your book does not mean he's into you and cos he doesn't keep to them doesn't mean he's not

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Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by Shanana1(m): 3:43pm On Jul 31, 2019
SpikesC1:
I can see your CTRL+C and CTRL+V still works,no need of buying you another keyboard.

A guy(spikes) doesn't call you for like a week just to make you miss him and refresh the relationship. He doesn't want to bug you but give you space to live a little of your own personal life,if the girl is INTO THE GUY like that,she calls and asks of him. Even if she doesn't,when the guy calls,she should show that she misses him.if not,the guy grabs the nearest babe.
I don't understand why you girls think that guys doesn't have feelings too,or is it because they don't cry out like chickens
Thank you jare! U said it all
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by AlphaMogul: 11:18am On Oct 25, 2021
havilla:
. He's just not that into you if he's not asking you out.
If a man is excited about awoman, he can’t stop himself— he wants more. If he’s attracted to her, he’s going to want to take it further. If he’s not making a move, it’s not because he is ‘scared’. The only thing he is scared of is how not attracted to you he is.

2. He’s just not that into you if he’s not calling you.
He says he didn’t have a moment in his busy day to call. Rubbish! The real reason is that you are not on his mind. If a man leads you to expect he will call and then doesn’t follow through on such a little thing, he will never follow through on big things. Be aware he is okay with the idea he is disappointing you.

3. He communicates via TEXT and email. By doing so, he avoids the “getting to know you” conversations. He really isn’t interested in moving things forward. He wants the down and dirty. When can he see you? If you have already had sex, his TEXT is to set up his next booty call. He usually steers the conversation towards telling you how sexy you are and how he can’t wait to see you again. DUH!

4. He warns you that he isn’t relationship material. Men usually say what they mean. He is telling you that he is not relationship material-at least with you-believe him! You might be the exception to the rule, but more than likely, you are not. He is probably going to have sex with you and dump you when things get too complicated (you want more from him).

5. He puts little planning into your date. He tells you that he wants to hang out and watch a movie or something. “Something” means having sex in case you haven’t figured that out by now. If you always go to the restaurant, because it is his favorite, he isn’t trying to please you. More than likely, he goes to different restaurants with different women. A guy that is really into you will plan a date. Even if the date doesn’t cost him a dime, he will plan.

6. He makes lots of empty promises. He keeps talking as if you have a future, but he takes little or no action. He talks about having a future together or all the fun things you will soon, but he doesn’t plan a date! Some men promise the moon, sun and stars, but deliver…nothing! He really isn’t that into you. Think about this. If he can’t come up with a few things that make you swoon despite his pocketbook, he isn’t that into you.

7. He makes last minute plans to see you. You are just so glad he calls that you don’t realize that that he is definitely not that into you or he thinks that you have no life and would be readily available at his beckon call. Either way, if you accept, you aren’t scoring any points. You were probably one of the women in his “little black book” and not his first call.

8. He avoids the “getting-to-know you” conversations! He really doesn’t want to get to know you better. He wants to know what he needs to know to get you into bed. If he really wants to get to know you better, he is asking questions about you, your life and what you want. If not, he is looking for the easiest, quickest booty call. He will flatter you! He will tell you how amazing you are! But he doesn’t really know anything about you. If you fall for this, don’t expect a call anytime soon. He will call you again when he is Hot.

9. He is pushy about getting physical. He tries to move things forward beyond the “make out” session with minimal clothing. If you resist, he makes you feel bad that you aren’t that into him. He says that he just wants to cuddle, but he is really trying to get more. (Just so you know, most men don’t really like cuddling. They do it because it gets them sex!) He is kissing and holding you, but in the process trying to take your blouse and pants off, wants sex. If he gets upset or offended when you put the kibosh on moving forward, he isn’t that into you. If someone really likes you, he is willing to wait until you are ready to move things forward.

10. You initiate and he doesn't follow through. If you're really into a guy and you think he may be shy, try initiating a conversation, phone call or texting session. If you start the conversation, he'll want to continue it. However, if he doesn't return your calls or texts or tries to end the conversation quickly, he may not be into you.

11. His actions don't match his words. If he says he'll call you and then you don't hear from him or if you suggest meeting up and he is "too busy," he probably isn't interested.

12. If you have been dating for a month or more and have never met his friends, he isn’t that into you. When men think they have found a great catch, he want to show her off. If you don’t get an invitation to meet his friends, you aren’t that girl. He wants to see you alone but not integrate you into his life, this is not a good sign. If a man is really into you, he wants all his friends to see the woman he is dating. If this doesn’t happen, you are not the woman he wants to be with long term.

13. He says he just wants to be friends. He means it. If you offer up sex as part of the package, he is willing to be friends with benefits. He isn’t stupid if you are! If you offer to satisfy him sexually, why not. If you think being friends with benefits will lead to more, it won’t. He isn’t into you in almost every case. When he finds someone who rocks his world, you are history.

14. He's not that into you if he's still hooking up with other women. Or you even catch him at it, he’s not ready to settle down with you. Even if he still maintains inappropriate contact with exes or even other women friends he’s not ready to invest time in you or ready to have any kind of future. He’s just not worth the time if he’s out looking for someone else. Save yourself the heartache and move on. You’ll find someone who will be so thankful for you.

15. He’s just not that into you if he doesn’t want to marry you.
Every man you have dated who says he doesn’t want to get married or doesn’t believe in marriage, or has ‘issues’ with marriage, will, rest assured, someday be married. It just will not be to you. (Tell me about it, lol)
***

OK that's it ladies. I'm sure some of you were able to relate with a few of these signs.
Please stop making excuses for him. If he likes it, he will put a ring on it, *wink*
If you know more signs, please share with the rest of us.

On a lighter note, here's a sign he's definitely into you,

http://girlsguideto.com/article/15-signs-hes-not-you
wink
Re: Signs His Not Just That Into You by mediainc: 1:32pm On Oct 25, 2021
aminalib:


hmm i think common sense is just that, common sense, and no i've never been dumped undecided 
wink

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