You said it all by saying you are a hot tempered person. And you loose temper easily when you are abused which is actually how your girl defends herself.

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The problem lies in you and am glad you know that. First thing is to work on your attitude and anger issues. Read books, visit counsellors or therapist to work on this. Also the issue of money is always a source of squabble among families. You as the head must do everything within your power to provide for your family. Tricks some men use is to empower their wives by opening shops for them or encouraging them to take job so as to increase source of income to the family.

Lastly, never hit or beat your woman. It's better to let go of the relationship than for you to constantly abuse her when she offends you.

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