Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by kavey10(m): 7:26pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
Matthew briggs: Quite very useful tips. Moreover adding to the op's tips on building confidence. There are 3 core steps to gaining self confidence. I will use my life experiences to relay them.
1. Build your intellect, Increase your knowledge base - I was once a shy person an extreme introvert, in fact my mum told me when I was little when visitors came around I always ran and hid my self. Lack of self confidence plagued me during my early years.
Until at a very young age I got to stay with a lecturer and everything changed, I had access to this amazing library and an awesome collection of books. I was hungry for knowledge and I therefore read ferociously, My knowledge and intelligence grew tremendously. It boosted my confidence I felt more sure of my self and abilities, I knew I was not empty but carried something very few carried. Till today the hunger for knowledge has never died.
Knowledge is the ultimate self confidence boaster. It helps you stand tall in front of your peers because you know what they don't. I got to understand that every one of us have our insecurities, fears, weakness and imperfections, we are all afraid of something no matter how beautiful, handsome or strong we look. Moreover I learnt that knowledge and intellect is not enough.
2. Look and Act confident :- Been brilliant and knowledgeable is not enough, you've got to let the world know you have strong belief in your self and capabilities. The catch is that I think 70% of human communication is non verbal meaning, people access you based on how you carry your self.
The way you walk, talk, sit and stand . With this new found knowledge, I refined the way I walked, I walk like someone that's on a mission no dragging of my feet or walking like someone who has all the time in the world. I sit like an executive that's in a board meeting, I talk assertively, clearly and intelligently, I look at you in the eyes when I have too. I stand uprightly in firm postures. To pull this off you've got to imagine your self as the CEO of a fortune 500 company or have a role model you look up to. Mine was Apple' s late Steve jobs, Oracle's Larry elision and Obama.
3. Build a track record of achievements, gather some bragging rights - The most surest way to build your confidence is putting yourself out there and doing something that you can look back and pat yourself in the back saying "I did this sh*t". That's nothing that more self assuring than looking back at your achievement it might academical, physical, financial etc. and there they stand speaking for you.
In my case I dared to do stuff others were afraid of, taught my self software's people were scared of and went on to do projects that when I look back during my darkest hours I smile and say to my self " dude you did this".
Self confidence is not a destination but a journey. It a process, a state of mind affected by what you feed your mind with.
I have not achieved hundred percent confidence as I write this, I still have my heart beating fast when am about to make a speech, but I have surely come a long way. I have this unwavering belief in my self and ability to deliver.
Finally if you can't act confident, fake it.
#Matthew Briggs Let me quote you sharp sharp for future reading, to reassure myself that I'm on the right track when the haters try to bring me down(they just can't stand my confidence, not pride). Thanks bro. |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by joywendy(f): 7:39pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
[quote author=obainojazz]like when you insulted me.....choi...i can help you sha...you will have to cross seven mountains...seven seas...then you will meet me in a small stream...i will bath you there...tada....u will be alryt...(whinks)[/quote]lol! u aint serious!!haba i was kiddin na |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by Nobody: 7:41pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
I want to ask, inability of a person to be aggressive, is it a sign of low self esteem? |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by omokejiajao: 8:16pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
i love this keep it up, this is exactly what happened to me in the morning when my fiancée corrected my English i was ashamed of myself because it what i supposed to know |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by obainojazz(m): 9:09pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
joywendy: lol! u aint serious!!haba i was kiddin na i want u to create a thread apologizing to me.....hehehe |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by sandyluv01: 9:56pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
Nice one |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by kryptonian(m): 12:20am On Sep 21, 2013 |
Jakeattah: You get too much and it turns to over confidence..... Then another thread will show 'steps to reduce over confidence' lmfao......that's the code |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by Cathaliya: 2:37am On Sep 21, 2013 |
somebody seriously needs to read this.....K**** |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by joywendy(f): 8:33am On Sep 21, 2013 |
obainojazz: i want u to create a thread apologizing to me.....hehehe ah!! obainojazz am truly sorry. pls accept my appology pls. it was a joke na,really and u asked 4 it u knw |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by obainojazz(m): 9:22am On Sep 21, 2013 |
joywendy: ah!! obainojazz am truly sorry. pls accept my appology pls. it was a joke na,really and u asked 4 it u knw *blushing*hehehe....*.checks the time in his gold wrist watch he picked on the floor*...so...can we go out for dinner sometime 1 Like |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by dagr8oy: 11:20am On Sep 21, 2013 |
Chiscomax: i swear.. this is youseful.. it is a very youseful artiko. i am happy reeding this because i always shame alot in people thatare many well well. talkino fit sometimes. i af taya well well... seriously. God bless you o OP.. hope nobody will say _____time_____ no disrespect pls...........are u 4rm where? |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by obainojazz(m): 11:38am On Sep 21, 2013 |
dagr8oy:
no disrespect pls...........are u 4rm where? he came from the past.....so he is still learning english......lets just encourage him to work harder 2 Likes |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by freshblazine(f): 12:12pm On Sep 21, 2013 |
Can't we just buy the self confidence in the market #justkidding Ok now on a serious note, this piece is on point especially for those guyz dat stutter in the process of toasting. |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by StepG: 12:37pm On Sep 21, 2013 |
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Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by StepG: 12:50pm On Sep 21, 2013 |
bbcmike:
Visit www.successimpactlimited..com Matthew briggs: Quite very useful tips. Moreover adding to the op's tips on building confidence. There are 3 core steps to gaining self confidence. I will use my life experiences to relay them.
1. Build your intellect, Increase your knowledge base - I was once a shy person an extreme introvert, in fact my mum told me when I was little when visitors came around I always ran and hid my self. Lack of self confidence plagued me during my early years.
Until at a very young age I got to stay with a lecturer and everything changed, I had access to this amazing library and an awesome collection of books. I was hungry for knowledge and I therefore read ferociously, My knowledge and intelligence grew tremendously. It boosted my confidence I felt more sure of my self and abilities, I knew I was not empty but carried something very few carried. Till today the hunger for knowledge has never died.
Knowledge is the ultimate self confidence boaster. It helps you stand tall in front of your peers because you know what they don't. I got to understand that every one of us have our insecurities, fears, weakness and imperfections, we are all afraid of something no matter how beautiful, handsome or strong we look. Moreover I learnt that knowledge and intellect is not enough.
2. Look and Act confident :- Been brilliant and knowledgeable is not enough, you've got to let the world know you have strong belief in your self and capabilities. The catch is that I think 70% of human communication is non verbal meaning, people access you based on how you carry your self.
The way you walk, talk, sit and stand . With this new found knowledge, I refined the way I walked, I walk like someone that's on a mission no dragging of my feet or walking like someone who has all the time in the world. I sit like an executive that's in a board meeting, I talk assertively, clearly and intelligently, I look at you in the eyes when I have too. I stand uprightly in firm postures. To pull this off you've got to imagine your self as the CEO of a fortune 500 company or have a role model you look up to. Mine was Apple' s late Steve jobs, Oracle's Larry elision and Obama.
3. Build a track record of achievements, gather some bragging rights - The most surest way to build your confidence is putting yourself out there and doing something that you can look back and pat yourself in the back saying "I did this sh*t". That's nothing that more self assuring than looking back at your achievement it might academical, physical, financial etc. and there they stand speaking for you.
In my case I dared to do stuff others were afraid of, taught my self software's people were scared of and went on to do projects that when I look back during my darkest hours I smile and say to my self " dude you did this".
Self confidence is not a destination but a journey. It a process, a state of mind affected by what you feed your mind with.
I have not achieved hundred percent confidence as I write this, I still have my heart beating fast when am about to make a speech, but I have surely come a long way. I have this unwavering belief in my self and ability to deliver.
Finally if you can't act confident, fake it.
#Matthew Briggs bbcmike:
Visit www.successimpactlimited..com |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by Nobody: 1:37pm On Sep 21, 2013 |
freshblazine: now on a serious note, this piece is on point especially for those guyz dat stutter in the process of toasting. i cant stutter in frnt of a gal lai lai. Gals even toast me even |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by ignis: 1:43pm On Sep 21, 2013 |
Nice one |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by Richchibuzor(m): 3:13pm On Sep 21, 2013 |
nice one @OP,keep it up! |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by authecosta911(m): 11:29pm On Sep 21, 2013 |
u did a gr8 job @OP. |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by authecosta911(m): 11:34pm On Sep 21, 2013 |
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Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by femi9naija(m): 8:05am On Sep 22, 2013 |
Nice one @ OP. I'm saving this for easy reference. Matthew briggs: Quite very useful tips. Moreover adding to the op's tips on building confidence. There are 3 core steps to gaining self confidence. I will use my life experiences to relay them.
1. Build your intellect, Increase your knowledge base - I was once a shy person an extreme introvert, in fact my mum told me when I was little when visitors came around I always ran and hid my self. Lack of self confidence plagued me during my early years.
Until at a very young age I got to stay with a lecturer and everything changed, I had access to this amazing library and an awesome collection of books. I was hungry for knowledge and I therefore read ferociously, My knowledge and intelligence grew tremendously. It boosted my confidence I felt more sure of my self and abilities, I knew I was not empty but carried something very few carried. Till today the hunger for knowledge has never died.
Knowledge is the ultimate self confidence boaster. It helps you stand tall in front of your peers because you know what they don't. I got to understand that every one of us have our insecurities, fears, weakness and imperfections, we are all afraid of something no matter how beautiful, handsome or strong we look. Moreover I learnt that knowledge and intellect is not enough.
2. Look and Act confident :- Been brilliant and knowledgeable is not enough, you've got to let the world know you have strong belief in your self and capabilities. The catch is that I think 70% of human communication is non verbal meaning, people access you based on how you carry your self.
The way you walk, talk, sit and stand . With this new found knowledge, I refined the way I walked, I walk like someone that's on a mission no dragging of my feet or walking like someone who has all the time in the world. I sit like an executive that's in a board meeting, I talk assertively, clearly and intelligently, I look at you in the eyes when I have too. I stand uprightly in firm postures. To pull this off you've got to imagine your self as the CEO of a fortune 500 company or have a role model you look up to. Mine was Apple' s late Steve jobs, Oracle's Larry elision and Obama.
3. Build a track record of achievements, gather some bragging rights - The most surest way to build your confidence is putting yourself out there and doing something that you can look back and pat yourself in the back saying "I did this sh*t". That's nothing that more self assuring than looking back at your achievement it might academical, physical, financial etc. and there they stand speaking for you.
In my case I dared to do stuff others were afraid of, taught my self software's people were scared of and went on to do projects that when I look back during my darkest hours I smile and say to my self " dude you did this".
Self confidence is not a destination but a journey. It a process, a state of mind affected by what you feed your mind with.
I have not achieved hundred percent confidence as I write this, I still have my heart beating fast when am about to make a speech, but I have surely come a long way. I have this unwavering belief in my self and ability to deliver.
Finally if you can't act confident, fake it.
#Matthew Briggs Mr. Matthew Briggs, I'm inspired by ur story. Will like to contact u. |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by Cathaliya: 8:15am On Sep 22, 2013 |
I wonder how one can actually fake confidence,,,,what if put in a tight corner, how do you go about it? |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by Matthewbriggs(m): 8:24am On Sep 22, 2013 |
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Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by Cathaliya: 8:38am On Sep 22, 2013 |
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Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by Matthewbriggs(m): 8:44am On Sep 22, 2013 |
Cathaliya: Which one is if I have mb? Na elekwanu mkpari n'isi ututu a. It's not an insult the video is quite large, I was just giving you a heads up. I'm Sorry if I made you feel insulted |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by Matthewbriggs(m): 12:02pm On Sep 22, 2013 |
femi9naija: Nice one @ OP. I'm saving this for easy reference.
Mr. Matthew Briggs, I'm inspired by ur story. Will like to contact u. feel free to send a pm. |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by joywendy(f): 1:47pm On Sep 26, 2013 |
[quote author=obainojazz]*blushing*hehehe....*.checks the time in his gold wrist watch he picked on the floor*...so...can we go out for dinner sometime[/quote] |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by obainojazz(m): 10:02pm On Sep 26, 2013 |
joywendy: you never answer me love |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by joywendy(f): 8:36am On Sep 27, 2013 |
obainojazz: you never answer me love I did na |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by obainojazz(m): 1:18pm On Sep 27, 2013 |
joywendy: I did na hmmmmmm....by shining ur teeth shey |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by joywendy(f): 1:27pm On Sep 27, 2013 |
obainojazz: hmmmmmm....by shining ur teeth shey lol |
Re: 5 Steps To Develop Self-Confidence by obainojazz(m): 1:38pm On Sep 27, 2013 |
joywendy: lol so...that is how you are treating the love i have for you abi..nairaland must hear this |