It is very annoying to see woman trying to put mouth in men's business and investment.

I don't know know if one need to carry them along. But most time they want their wishes granted against man decision.

I don't know if I am the only one experiencing this.. what actually happen is I have a bus and my wife ask me to sell it on scrapt and give her the money to start up business... I told her we can still fix the bus and get it back to normal. But it sound very unpleasant to her...

Now if I intended on selling the bus while she start up a business..the next is is that you see her family kepp asking her for help and assistance before you know the whole money will be mystery.

Kindly advise:

Oga no vex ooo but I think you don't trust your wife with money of her own which means you are insecure, I don't know if there's a past with your wife that contributed to this or just fear of " she won't be obedient any more if she pays her own bills" that some men has.

Secondly, what's wrong with your wife giving money to her people? They are your in laws and when you have you should be giving them from time to time.

Thirdly, I don't think your wife is interested in knowing everything, it seems you are just secretive with information. You don't give her full details on vital things she should know about. Hence any one she gets to know she wants to influence it to her favor.

In conclusion.
I'm not supporting my fellow woman, I deduce the above from your writeup. My husband tells me everything but at the right time, there are things he will tell me before, during, after or may never tell me sometimes for my own benefit he won't tell me so that I won't act it out ( you know women nah) please be more open with most vital things about you she won't find reason to dig deep.

That's my 2 cent

Indeed you need help

Some women are builders and some destroyers.

Na u know ur wife.if she's a builder and manages more than u.i don't see anything bad in it.but,if a destroyer.dont give It a thought.

Like myself.my wife manages me and my funds well.but,dat does not mean weakness.

Indeed marriage is a critical engagement

Una just dey put fear for our body

Married people, una wahala tire person.

No other advice for you than you should do your thing in the best way that will benefit the entire family not just your wife or yourself...you guys should always talk over issues like this, both points should be considered and scrutinize and the best should stand by mutual acceptance...what am I even saying sef?...I just want to see if my grammar follow resemble that of people wey go university

vickydankal:
Oga no vex ooo but I think you don't trust your wife with money of her own which means you are insecure, I don't know if there's a past with your wife that contributed to this or just fear of " she won't be obedient any more if she pays her own bills" that some men has.

Secondly, what's wrong with your wife giving money to her people? They are your in laws and when you have you should be giving them from time to time.

Thirdly, I don't think your wife is interested in knowing everything, it seems you are just secretive with information. You don't give her full details on vital things she should know about. Hence any one she gets to know she wants to influence it to her favor.

In conclusion.
I'm not supporting my fellow woman, I deduce the above from your writeup. My husband tells me everything but at the right time, there are things he will tell me before, during, after or may never tell me sometimes for my own benefit he won't tell me so that I won't act it out ( you know women nah) please be more open with most vital things about you she won't find reason to dig deep.

That's my 2 cent

Where in the write-up did the OP mention anything about his wife's money?

He knows his wife well and he knows she can't account for money because she can't say no when people ask her for money, this is why he's concerned

abeniagbon:
It is very annoying to see woman trying to put mouth in men's business and investment.

I don't know know if one need to carry them along. But most time they want their wishes granted against man decision.

I don't know if I am the only one experiencing this.. what actually happen is I have a bus and my wife ask me to sell it on scrapt and give her the money to start up business... I told her we can still fix the bus and get it back to normal. But it sound very unpleasant to her...

Now if I intended on selling the bus while she start up a business..the next is is that you see her family kepp asking her for help and assistance before you know the whole money will be mystery.

Kindly advise:

You said you have a bus next thing you said is we can fix the bus. The bus is your property not hers'. Learn to keep secrets, seems you talk too much. Just give women little details thats all. Once you want a woman to give her opinion or advice regarding pecuniary interest, she immediately vests her own gain on the forefront.

Make priorities.

Your family matters first.


If you really cannot repair it, sell it and invest the money reasonably.


Your happiness is my concern.

Only give your wife information she needs especially when it concerns money

Bro fix the bus and use it for urself to make money,give her the money u only want to give her so she won't have enough to waste on her family, besides once she begins to make money,ur authority as the head will no more be intact..

abeniagbon:
It is very annoying to see woman trying to put mouth in men's business and investment.

I don't know know if one need to carry them along. But most time they want their wishes granted against man decision.

I don't know if I am the only one experiencing this.. what actually happen is I have a bus and my wife ask me to sell it on scrapt and give her the money to start up business... I told her we can still fix the bus and get it back to normal. But it sound very unpleasant to her...

Now if I intended on selling the bus while she start up a business..the next is is that you see her family kepp asking her for help and assistance before you know the whole money will be mystery.

Kindly advise:

Tell her what she should know and how you think the financial biz of the family should go. Listen to her but take the best decision in the interest of the family. Don't let her blackmail you emotionally

You are the man of the house, act like one! She can't be inconsiderate or too demanding when she knows the financial situation in the family. You need to let her know unless you are hiding something from her or you are stingy

abeniagbon:
It is very annoying to see woman trying to put mouth in men's business and investment.

I don't know know if one need to carry them along. But most time they want their wishes granted against man decision.

I don't know if I am the only one experiencing this.. what actually happen is I have a bus and my wife ask me to sell it on scrapt and give her the money to start up business... I told her we can still fix the bus and get it back to normal. But it sound very unpleasant to her...

Now if I intended on selling the bus while she start up a business..the next is is that you see her family kepp asking her for help and assistance before you know the whole money will be mystery.

Kindly advise:

Stand by your word. But... Repair the bus immidiately and start running it so you can raise money and give her.

vickydankal:
Oga no vex ooo but I think you don't trust your wife with money of her own which means you are insecure, I don't know if there's a past with your wife that contributed to this or just fear of " she won't be obedient any more if she pays her own bills" that some men has.

Secondly, what's wrong with your wife giving money to her people? They are your in laws and when you have you should be giving them from time to time.

Thirdly, I don't think your wife is interested in knowing everything, it seems you are just secretive with information. You don't give her full details on vital things she should know about. Hence any one she gets to know she wants to influence it to her favor.

In conclusion.
I'm not supporting my fellow woman, I deduce the above from your writeup. My husband tells me everything but at the right time, there are things he will tell me before, during, after or may never tell me sometimes for my own benefit he won't tell me so that I won't act it out ( you know women nah) please be more open with most vital things about you she won't find reason to dig deep.

That's my 2 cent

Obviously, your conclusion is your 2 cents, every other thing you wrote up there's nonsense

SavageResponse:


Where in the write-up did the OP mention anything about his wife's money.

He knows his wife well and he knows she can't account for money because she can't say no when people ask him for money, this is why he's concerned

Thank you... This is all my fear. Cos the way I studied her. She can't say no when people ask her for money. And before you know all of the money will go and later she will start to complain that the shop is not good.. that evil spirit is their and all. Before you know she won't go again

LadyRosa:


Stand by your word. But... Repair the bus immidiately and start running it so you can raise money and give her.

Thank you

We never hear your wife's side of the story

abeniagbon:


Thank you... This is all my fear. Cos the way I studied her. She can't say no when people ask her for money. And before you know all of the money will go and later she will start to complain that the shop is not good.. that evil spirit is their and all. Before you know she won't go again

is your wife gainfully employed? if she's not you are having a worse problem looming than you currently have on hand.

one don't make her like she is bad here balance the story, to get the right advice from here.

if she has something doing for herself, a lot burden is off you. establish her in agreement to close monitoring.

remember vehicle is no asset but liability, the more a vehicle stays unattended, the more it deteriorate, so it's expenses increases. the earlier you fix it the better.

SEGLIZ:


is your wife gainfully employed? if she's not you are having a worse problem looming than you currently have on hand.

one don't make her like she is bad here balance the story, to get the right advice from here.

if she has something doing for herself, a lot burden is off you. establish her in agreement to close monitoring.

remember vehicle is no asset but liability, the more a vehicle stays unattended, the more it deteriorate, so it's expenses increases. the earlier you fix it the better.

She use to work before I got married to her, but later the stress of her job makes her develop some medical issues that makes me to stop her from the work to face something else... I told her to learn some handy work, which she agreed but later she kept on saying people are talking about her and all of a sudden she stop going, now I introduce her to some other business that can fetch her money like work at work job, she wants me to start the while she take over after it success but that actually not my problem. The problem I have I that once she have money in her bank account and her small phone that can transfer above 1m, she become charity organization that doesnt care if she need saving. I know of many time I have save her from this flip funds transfer people. Sometime , she will dash out money with fake stories, when people come to her for help, she doesn't say NO. My fear is that giving her money will just vanish like a vapour. I'm thinking maybe I should call on her family to report her, and also she will think am report her and all sort of a thing jare... Like one time I have about $30 dollar in my binance wallet around last year I just abandon it. Later this year the money was about $150 this year without doing any job. Which I sold.i guess that what is called business.

Not she want me to sell the bus while I give her the money. My fear once again is within qwinkle of an eyes the money will vanish with a reasonable account

Don't condemned her for assisting people, you just have to let her understand it's shouldn't be every time and there is nothing wrong if your wife put mouth in your business or investment. I found it funny when spouse are secretive instead of being open and find solutions easily to a particular issue at hand.

It is well

Nairaland and fictional stories like 5&6.

What do you expect

Then tell her and stop disturbing us.

vickydankal:
Oga no vex ooo but I think you don't trust your wife with money of her own which means you are insecure, I don't know if there's a past with your wife that contributed to this or just fear of " she won't be obedient any more if she pays her own bills" that some men has.

Secondly, what's wrong with your wife giving money to her people? They are your in laws and when you have you should be giving them from time to time.

Thirdly, I don't think your wife is interested in knowing everything, it seems you are just secretive with information. You don't give her full details on vital things she should know about. Hence any one she gets to know she wants to influence it to her favor.

In conclusion.
I'm not supporting my fellow woman, I deduce the above from your writeup. My husband tells me everything but at the right time, there are things he will tell me before, during, after or may never tell me sometimes for my own benefit he won't tell me so that I won't act it out ( you know women nah) please be more open with most vital things about you she won't find reason to dig deep.

That's my 2 cent

Supporting your fellow female?

Q

My brother then let her know