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Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by iamSugarxx09(f): 5:04pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
I am Michelle by name a student of ESTAM University Cotonou Benin And am here to discuss what happened to me since February 5th till last night with u guys Ok.... I had a boyfriend in Nigeria that i already planned a future with, we dated for 1yr 5mnt i gained admission to Estam last year September to cut it short i have a friend Osaze by name we are so so close to the extent that my boyfriend didn't believed we weren't dating , my boyfriend broke up with me on 5th of Feb thinking that i was dating this guy , i was so pained and i had nothing to do since his family also think it was true that i was dating the guy(i just decide to cut that part short) going further to d point , i became single and osaze knew what happened between me and my boyfriend,OK i got over it few months later, and OK continue my friendship with osaze ,we became very close to the extent that people in school already seeing me as his gf tho we do things together since i decide not to have a boyfriend for now , so i see him as my acting boyfriend ,we kiss , we romance he fingers me (guys i know this is crazy ) but i just have to do it since i started having the feeling that i am into him and moreover my precious relationship broke apart because if this guy , the crazy part is this guy doesn't want to date me , even for the fact that he has no gf (am FR) he doesn't have a girl thats y people believes i am his gf ,and he is this type of guy that girls use to easily fall for , hmm one day i came to think of it, i asked him if we are still going to switch to relationship this guy was like (no we are cool like this), further more if anyone ask me if am dating him that's on WhatsApp i will have to screenshot the chat and send it to him , and Osaze will be like tell the person we aint dating then after that he will ask me to send him a screenshot of my reply to the person after doing that he will be like BETTER!�� not once not twice , but honestly the guy likes me i liked him too but i dont know y he keep doing this (i know saying this is crazy) but i am being Real .... Okay this guy keep on asking me for sex but i used to reject it telling him we are not dating that i see know reason y we should have sex, i am this kind of girl that is pretty and classy (am sorry i am not trying to be forming here) am just trying to shed light to this story of mine,i feel due to the kind of person i am this is y this guy just want people to be seeing him around me ,feeling like we are really dating but people dont know its not so . now to the main POINT a guy came late as a summer student in my school , TOJU by name he got admission in Jan and i am this kind of person that i dont recognize people easily ,okay how did i get to know this guy, one day around Apr it was one of my roommate's birthday so she invited few people from our school ,the birthday took place at the beach and it was a evening birthday party it was fun with a lot of truth and DARE to cut it short i was dared to remove 5things from a guy's body and i picked this summer student TOJU and i removed 5things from him ,okay the came continues i was DARED again to kiss a guy and TOJU happened to be this neatest guy at that party , i picked him again (not knowing it was a collection to our future) we didnt actually kissed we had a 1min lip peck , okay that was all about that birthday , so the next day because osaze wasn't at the party i had to tell him what happened at the party that i was dared to kiss a guy that i actually didnt know the guy cause honestly i never knew he is a student of our school , osaze searched for who Michelle kissed at the party and maybe they pointed Toju to him (but u wouldn't believe) osaze told me it was Toju who came to meet him him self that Osaze i kissed ur girl in d b.day party (no vex i just dey tell u because i no want make u find out come brake my head)�� not knowing it was a lie ok few days later i and TOJU because little close chatting on WhatsApp (we were actually chatting like trying to know each other nothing more) and about 2weeks later we had a sign out party for our final year student which held in a club , osaze was not at the party and i had to sit next to TOJU because from WhatsApp he told me he was going to pay for my T.fare to the club but we didnt plan to sit together until we got to the club and fortunately we sat together at the club , i was looking so SEXY AND HOT at the party (a photo of how i looked at the club below) so we drank and dance (tho i didnt dance with TOJU) but i was actually dancing and rocking around cause i was kind of tipsy not drunk tho ,accidentally (guys i am FR) i and TOJU kissed in a open place accidentally, i Literally cant specify how the kissing started , i just found my self and him kissing so passionately and that night after kissing i couldn't remember if it was him or one of his friends who asked us to go to the beach , even tho i was tipsy i told them no that he should take me to the hostel but i later agreed that okay guys lets go to the beach since the beach is right at the back of the hostel on getting to the beach ,we started kissing again ,we kissed about good 20min at the beach and i asked him where he lives and i told him i was coming to visit him, i actually said this out of tipsy , before we decide to go to hostel because things here in Cotonou are different from Nigeria the police musn't find us at the beach at that time cause it was already 4am so he took me to my hostel, the next day i was so stupid that i was confessing to osaze that i kissed Toju but as i saw the jealous look on his face i had to change it that i was only joking because i was still into osaze even tho we aint dating and we not ready to date , okay me and Toju continue chatting on phone to the extent that he do whatever i want for me ,he send me money even when i dont request money from him , he pet me like a baby and buy me cloth as well ,so on one Sunday during exam he invited me to his place and i stayed till evening , we continue kissing not until when he decided we should go to the restaurant to get food for me then i decided i wanted to stay over in his place, so while he waited at d restaurant i went to the hostel to pick my cloth , the one to wear to school the next day, we kissed in d night without sex just cuddle , so we started getting use to each other slowly , so i actually spent 3nights in his place before going to Nigeria , okay the day before i left for Nigeria i and osaze had S**(guys i am not crazy e get y) okay i went from Jan down to May without sex ) and i was feeling this absence of sex pain, so i had to chat my friend a nurse if absence of pain for 5month could cause frequent and constant stomachache and she said yes (prove of my chat with the nurse below),and since i dont have a boyfriend i had no option than to tell Osaze that we should have sex (i know its crazy ) but i had NO OPTION , it was just to calm my self down (guys trust me ) the sex didnt last 1minute , i got to Nigeria and osaze when around his friend will call me on vc and he will be like, (how is my baby)?�� like actually making his friends to know that we had S** Bleep!�� not once not twice , okay during this holiday due to the fact that Toju and 2 others are summer student Osaze because close to them because his own friends are back to Nigeria , to the extent that the 2 other guys and Osaze always visit Toju at home, because he stays alone in his apartment , so that makes them TOJU and OSAZE to be very close and at first i told Toju that i am dating Osaze Which was just a lie ,and Osaze will be calling me in the presence of Toju for him to believe that we are dating because it was yesterday i got to know that Osaze has really been sensing something like me and Toju are really into each other (am coming to that part) so while in Nigeria me and Toju do communicate very very well ,chatting, staying more than 1hr calling to VC talking, gisting and laughing , but we only do calls at night when osaze is gone to his house (remember Toju still believes that i am dating osaze) okay now i arrived (this is the main reason am here) i came back from Nigeria 11days ago to join the summer students in writing the 2exams i missed during first semester , i arrived to TOJU's house (guys calm down) without the conscience of anyone because Toju is a very very secretive guy , i wrote my paper on Monday and Tuesday i met osaze on Monday cause i told him i was around ,because even if i didn't tell him, other people in school would tell him, so i just had to , but i only told him i was at a friends place, but do u know this guy was still sensing that i might be at toju's place by saying (y couldn't i stay in d hostel , y did i decide to stay outside hostel) on Tuesday we met again and on Wednesday i wasn't in school let alone the boys hostel, osaze called me to come see him in d hostel but i had to tell Toju on WhatsApp that i was coming to see Osaze that i hope he wouldn't be angry if he sees us together , but toju didnt reply , hmm okay i got to the boys hostel and Osaze wanted us to have sex in the hostel���� while the boys are in school writing exam i said no that i wasn't interested in staying inside the room let alone having sex, he proceeded saying okay we should just stay inside the room (immediate i just sense that) this guy actually wanted those guys to come back from exam to meet me and him in d room like even if nothing happened those guys will be thinking that something happened between us , (this will make those guys look low of me) and he knew Toju would want to follow his friend to the hostel , so he was thinking if Toju should see us together Anything that is btw me and Toju will just end like that (u guys get my point?) And Toju already asked me for sex the day i arrived but i told him to wait that my period was going to come in 6days. time � � i knew that shouldnt have stopped me from giving him sex but i felt it was too early and truly i wanted to give him sex honestly because he is worth it , okay back to when i and osaze had sex even tho the sex didnt last 1MINUTE when i got to Nigeria and i and Toju were chatting we decide to ask each other d last time we had sex and we told each other , thank God i was sincere to tell him i had sex with Osaze that was how osaze would have exposes me by asking how his (heaven fake baby) is , just for the other guys to know we had sex , OK i spent 6days in Toju house already before my period and things was so so beautiful � � we kiss and romance all night,from day 3 we do shower baths together it was so fun, i cook for him and clean the house i wash his clothes and also pet him (but no sex) like this guy was so good trust me if he tell me no sex its truly no sex but we were both Hot (normal) . my period came o �� he said no showers during my period i felt bad but i just feel like he feels irritating during lady's period my pad got finished this guy told me to stay back home and he went out at night and bought me 2 packs of pad i was so amazed , i remembered d day i told osaze that he was going to buy me pad , he was like y should he be d one to buy me a pad (i see no reason y i should be d one to buy pad for u)��� i didn't take it as an offence tho but come to think of what Toju did about pads for me easily without forcing him okay d day before yesterday i told Toju we were going to have sex yesterday cause i was done with my period okay we had shower together , tho i was still trying to figure out if it was a set up BTW him Osaze and d 2 other friends, but i made up my mind that i was going to have sex with Toju no matter whats going to happen later , because me and osaze aint dating and i can do what i like with who i like and when or where i like and the day i arrived i explained to Toju that i am not dating osaze that we never dated and we aint dating( i only tell him the truth because i dont want him to be seeing me like a bitch ) u guys understand? ,toju said he knows , i was surprised ,further more he said the first day he saw me with osaze he asked him if i was his girl osaze said no, he said he asked if he( osaze) likes me he said he (osaze) replied that he doesn't know, further more he asked if the girl (me) like him he said osaze replied YES ��� hmm so i showed him lot and lot of proves for him to know that me and osaze aint dating that we are close, we kissed and we once had sex and i already tell him (Toju) why me and osaze had sex , okay it was time for me and Toju to have sex yesterday that was around past 11pm after shower while kissing i discovered he was reacting somehow , i asked him what happened first and second time he said nothing , so he didnt wait for me to ask the 3rd time he told me HE DOESNT WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH ME ������ i asked him y he said he sees me as a different person and that he doesn't want to lose respect for me that he has so much respect for me, that the fact that he knows whats between me and osaze will not let him go into having sex with me deep down in my heart i was like (wow wow wow) He and osaze are both from edo state , Toju made me understand that in edo they dont take girls serious that they only do chop and clean mouth (u guys understand what i mean) he said he doesn't want to just have sex with me and drop me that because he knows the kind of person he is , i appreciated him for telling me, further more he said he doesn't know y he was telling me the truth that he has the feeling from the first day he start noticing me in school that there's something special about me, that he doesn't see me as one of those girls thats worth doing that kind of shit with (guys i was so amazed) he said if he had seeing me like on my own ,not being close to osaze or him not being close to osaze that he would have decide to make me his ,like to have him to him self i starting sensing that the guy is deeply into me , okay without being shy and letting something hold my voice i told him i am getting use to him, he said him too is getting so use to me, he said osaze is d problem�� that he wouldn't want him to start seeing him as a bad person i replied saying Toju , I AM NOT DATING THIS GUY, he said yes he knows that i am not dating him that but most people in school believes that i am his gf that that is where the problem is and that he is a very jealousy type that if he sees me with him he can start getting jealous and start loosing interest in me , i said okay i can put an end to whatever is happening between me and osaze but he keep saying that if people hear the story they will see him as a bad person ,further more he told me that when he was getting to know me that his 2 other former friends already got a girl and he was told to get one that but he said he was not interested in any relationship that but later he finds out that he started liking me, and he told his very close friend and that that friend was happy that he told him to go for me, (but guys truth is if he had came to me during that time , i wouldn't accept him) because u know as at then we weren't close and haven't known each other better, so when he was asked to go for me he heard i am Osaze's gf that that was y he back off He said we should reduce the things we have between us that we are really getting too use to each other i pleaded to him that i cant go back anymore like reduce it i might fall sick , i told him WE CAN WORK THINGS OUT he said how can we work things out (GUYS PLS I NEED UR ADVICE) no insult please . 1 Like
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Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by MadamVanessa(f): 5:06pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
So in cotonou when people copy and paste, they paste it without arranging it. No paragraph nothing nothing and very lengthy. The person below may have what to say. 2 Likes |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by OSDD(m): 5:19pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
Damn!! I no fit read that beautiful rubbish... The person below me might have something reasonable to say 2 Likes |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by PlayMaker14: 5:22pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
Truckload of Bullshit from a dude with slack balls masquerading as a lady. 8 Likes |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by iamSugarxx09(f): 5:26pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
Sorry guys i never knew emoji ain't allow |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by iamSugarxx09(f): 5:32pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
Sorry guys it is my first time here , i dont really know how things are done here, no insult please |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by maiiilooo(m): 5:35pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
Lwkmd.... reading ur story is wahala ,understanding it is another. 4 Likes |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by BigDick70inch(m): 5:47pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
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Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by SavageResponse(m): 6:09pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
iamSugarxx09: You wrote this epistle without a single paragraph! How did you manage to pass through secondary school?! 1 Like |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by PlayMaker14: 6:12pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
iamSugarxx09:Your first time and you already know how to create thread and upload pictures.... Weldone my brother. 3 Likes |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by Nobody: 6:12pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
SavageResponse:And u quoted this long epistle without considering others. How do u intend to make heaven? 6 Likes |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by PlayMaker14: 6:13pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
SavageResponse:You shouldn't have quoted the long copy and paste post. 1 Like |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by Stupidquestions: 6:15pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
Put paragraph....and edit it... otherwise, people won't read it. 1 Like |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by Mexzy4sho(m): 6:16pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
Werey!!!! |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by VlamesIffect(f): 6:17pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
Omo wetin be this.... See as you jam pack everything. Abeg deal with your problem urself ![]() ![]() No give me headache 3 Likes |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by pregnantMan: 6:23pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
So after going through the stress of Lagos traffic and work wahala, u expect me to read this long newspaper ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by Cholls(m): 6:34pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
My sister what is this rubbish?! First, you got text diarrhea. Try to shorten your message so you can get the necessary advice you need. 1 Like |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by Nobody: 7:39pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
Jesus Christ..... I no fit finish am sef. |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by chris259(m): 7:59pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
SmellySperm:
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Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by Savedday: 8:04pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it. In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them! 2 Likes |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by Queenserah26(f): 8:06pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
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Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by Nobody: 8:08pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
Something long like river Nile and u want us to read it when its not beneficial to me ![]() |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by djpaparazzi(f): 8:16pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
My sister, I skipped a lot of parts in your story cos it's too long. Dear, let me advice you, leave osaze and any other man and focus on your education and yourself. Life is not all about boyfriend and girlfriend. Work on yourself to be a better person. 2 Likes |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by Truvelisback(m): 8:26pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
My sister convert ur Long epistle into novel and print it. 1 Like |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by pussyjuliet(f): 8:29pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
How do you expect us to read this long thing ![]() |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by Nonye1234: 8:36pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
So I actually took my time to read your post. Wow, I just feel like you didn't give yourself a real break. after your boyfriend in Nigeria, I'd have expected you to chill a bit, meet someone different but no, you continued to move closer to the same reason for the break up. Look, the problem about having a male friend who you like is that, you won't know if he likes you back. He'll see you as an object of release, both emotionally and physically. Osaze for example knows you like him, but he doesn't like you like that. He's a guy, he can dig any hole, doesn't matter if he likes the land. And osaze doesn't want to lose the free hole that's why he's putting you on the fence. You know? Like I'll date you but I'm not ready Girl, he ain't never gonna be ready and you having s*x with him just made the matters worse. Now, To the new guy. He might like you but 1. He doesn't like the fact that he knows who you f*cked 2. He see the MF everyday 3. He doesn't want to get into a silly fight. 4. He knows what osaze is doing with you, he just doesn't want a part in the nasty mix. He isn't that deep in it with you, right now, he'd rather endure the heart break than go into it full time with you. It's a good thing y'all didn't go through with the s*x, would have complicated matters more. My advice? Leave both of them, reduce communication. Stop sef if you can but make it peaceful. This is not malice, just a necessary space. If not, the one for you will think you're hooked and go his own way. Plus, you get to focus on yourself and your future. You wrote a long message without paragraph, well I hope you read my comment to the end. 4 Likes |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by tunize(m): 8:41pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
I actually took time to read everything but i was highly dissappointed even though the o.p never appointed me. All i keep seeing was osaze and toju, are we dating, we are not dating. “Anty/ uncle channel ur energy to ur book” your story would have made more sense if ur write up was organised for people to understand. No Advice face ur book. 2 Likes |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by Candidlady: 8:42pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
maiiilooo: Lmao God am dying of laughter here Got to a point I stopped reading |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by Opemiposii(f): 8:54pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
i actually patiently read the story from pali to pali and itz interesting sha... 1 Like |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by prinzstiles(m): 9:07pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
Someone should please summarize the story |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by CheedyJ(m): 9:23pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
My God will judge you.. |
Re: Hi Everyone Its My First Time Here , I Need Your Advice Please Guys Please by luvmijeje(f): 9:41pm On Jul 14, 2021 |
Okay this guy keep on asking me for sex but i used to reject it telling him we are not dating that i see know reason y we should have sex, i am this kind of girl that is pretty and classy (am sorry i am not trying to be forming here) Babe! You are pretty and you are classy but you still hang out with people who don't see you as pretty and classy If you are pretty and you are classy Osaze will say yes to a relationship with you. If you are pretty and you are classy, Toju will say yes to a relationship. If you are not worthy of a relationship, then something is off. 1 Like |
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