Hello ladies and gentlemen

I got married early last year and am recently staying in my husband place but my husband is not based here in Nigeria, when my husband was coming to marry me, my parent from their reaction was happy with him n like him but the problem is that each time my husband gives Me money to give to them, they will just say he tried without showing appreciation by calling him to say thank you .when I asked if they HV call to say thank you, they will lay insult on my husband saying is it because of the small money they will call him ,that is the money up to what they used in training me in school ,but I told them that my husband is still building his way and is from the one he has that he happily gave them , if he had more he would HV given them. But they will not listen ,sometimes they will say he is stingy .
With all this am not happy, and when I opted to tell my husband they will tell me not to tell him about it dat is not every tin that happen I will tell him but after much pain I will just tell my husband about it and tell my parents I didn't tell him.

My husband was disappointed n not happy when I told him, he said if not that he love me and married me that he can't continue with the marriage that he noticed that since he know me and started giving my parent money they never thank him or even to call him on phone to know how he is doing, even if is flash ,that he has been the only one calling them on phone but he didn't take it as anything though,

My greatest pain now is that my husband spoke wit them on phone of recent to know how they are doing and he told my mum he will find something for her cus she just recovered from sickness n she was happy , so later my husband give me 10 k to give to her which I send to my sister to give them ,around evening my dad called me asking me who he gave the money to, I answered him is them and he said for what, that does it look like he is begging for money, that somebody should not insult his fellow human,that i should send my account sharply let him send it back .I was so devastated and couldn't even alter a word ,I wept bitterly ,

When I told my brother about it he said he is not supporting them but I know the money is small ,that I should have just told dad is mummy he gave it to ,that if my husband can't take care of me and them now we neaver born when is he going to do that I became more angry , I later told my husband what my dad did and he vowed not to give my parents anything again even if God blesses him tomorrow or to even call them on phone , that he understood the money is small and they are bigger than that but he just gave it to them wholeheartedly , that they dnt no what he suffered to get it, that is what he has he will give

Right now am so angry ,did I do the right thing by telling my husband or should I HV told him to add more in what he gives to them ,is my parents doing the right thing ?what should I do now , Pls somebody should talk to me before I run mad here

Buy gifts of what they will value instead but he should not stop giving to his parents and your parents . If it's the other way around too, parents in law should appreciate whatever their daughters in law give them. From your explanation, I know your marriage is still young , take time to learn the lesson and pray that God will help your parents to appreciate the gifts from your husband. Your husband can explain himself politely to your parents and solicit their understanding for the mean time. God lifts the humble but hates the proud. Humility can help you all to understand how favoured and blessed you all are. Some couples don't have surviving parents while some parents are even seperated and thank God you have a home!

Please don't feel bad that you told your husband, he has a right to know.
Sincerely, this is not a big deal and I will love you to take things easy and enjoy your marriage and husband. Things will be alright. Don't make that man to go do pass himself o.
All the best. This experience will help you and your husband too when someday you become parents in law

Your brother will still marry.

Another parents will still insult your brother for buying Cabin biscuit and Grand malt to come and see them.




Everybody will eat breakfast, dear.

Why tell your husband things that don’t matter to him.. not necessary..
You should have thank him on their behave .. and let it slide ..
Your Parent expected much from him .. and all started on his packaging and doings before and during introduction to wedding..
They believed him.. then. .. then those packages and doings disappeared..

Telling them he don’t have is more like covering for him.. and sound as if they’re hungry and depend on him for survival.

Next time pay directly into your mother’s/ father/ anybody account.. in that way .. person will appreciate it.
Or use the money to buy good gift for them.
Something you know they like.
And learn not to bug your husband with unnecessary talk.. before you put yourself for problem ..

Pray your husband don’t use this against you in the future .. Love do go sour Atimes ..

Don’t worry with time .. experience will teach you how to keep somethings to yourself and cover your parents, husband , and children ass..

no reason or go mad
Life Na lesson

Since the gift (money) your husband is sending is never enough to your parents, Tell your husband to stop sending money as gifts, Your parents are not children, When it's comes to money, adults will always want more..he should continue to send gifts but buy things like raw food stuffs or other things until he finds the right gift for them and when God bless your husband even though na 1 million him give them it will never be enough. I fit finish 10Million before 24hrs

As for your parents, I don't know how you grew up with such ungrateful people, sorry o i mean no offense but to be human is to appreciate every good gestures that comes your way no matter how little. well, thank God you're different. God no dy drop me tea and bread when i wake up oo i no even want money sef but i still thank God for my family and life..relax, remain calm and pray for your family.

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Having a parent that is not reasonable can be very frustrating. Your parent sees you as an investment and expects you to start paying ROI when you married. Unfortunately, your husband doesn’t stay here in Nigeria raised their hope, and they thought they’d hit the jackpot. If it’s that easy to make money, why are they not making it themselves? It’s even worse that your dad supports this.

Your husband should stop giving them money frequently, let him keep his money and buy them gifts instead or send them once or twice a year after accumulating it. After all you’re the one they invested into not him. Once you’re not abroad, all these our parents assume you’re Hush Pupi.

Thanks to you all, I appreciate every one that contributed.