Why is accommodating people always most time backfires , someone I know , asked that I accommodate her for few days , which I did, I was very receptive and made her as comfortable as possible , she’s gone and it seems like she doesn’t even appreciate my efforts . I don’t think I would ever do this again

What are your views and thoughts

You get to really understand people when they stay with you. Different characters. Undergraduate days weren't funny

Accommodating people to me is one of the most scary thing ever. I never do it especially if I don’t know you, because many people are snakes and parasites

People will always be calm like a lamb when they need something but turn to a wolf when it's time to pay back same thing goes with accommodating people.
* You'd not be appreciated for accommodating them.
* they'd mess up you house
* You'd not be comfortable but they'd be as if it's their house
* They won't render any help to you even while under your roof. This makes me think that if the reverse was the case and I was the one that needed the accommodation I don't think I'd be welcomed by them
* If allowed to some extent they'd bring other people to your house
* When you ask them to leave they'll make you feel like a bad person and some won't even want to leave hence turning to the wolf I mentioned earlier.
But after all this everyone is not thesame, life's to short so help as much people as you can and forget about what you'd get from them or any appreciation of any sought.

Peace.

Liliantalks:
Why is accommodating people always most time backfires , someone I know , asked that I accommodate her for few days , which I did, I was very receptive and made her as comfortable as possible , she’s gone and it seems like she doesn’t even appreciate my efforts . I don’t think I would ever do this again

What are your views and thoughts

it's a trap, don't do it.

Liliantalks:
Why is accommodating people always most time backfires , someone I know , asked that I accommodate her for few days , which I did, I was very receptive and made her as comfortable as possible , she’s gone and it seems like she doesn’t even appreciate my efforts . I don’t think I would ever do this again

What are your views and thoughts

- how did you assume that she didnt appreciate your effort?
- so now that they dont appreciate your effort, you wanna become a negative person (like them)?!

in life, dont do things expecting any rewards etc, just do them out of your good heart and basta. dont change the good person that you are just because "some" may not appreciate your gesture. a negative person should never take away your positive shine.

princeabdul:
it's a trap, don't do it.

really , please explain further

MrBrownJay1:


- how did you assume that she didnt appreciate your effort?
- so now that they dont appreciate your effort, you wanna become a negative person (like them)?!

in life, dont do things expecting any rewards etc, just do them out of your good heart and basta. dont change the good person that you are just because "some" may not appreciate your gesture. a negative person should never take away your positive shine.

noted but it hurts tho. Like people don’t just want it to seem like you did anything for them. I can’t just be allowing people in my space like that .

vickyfrancis1:
You get to really understand people when they stay with you. Different characters. Undergraduate days weren't funny

so true

The last time I accommodated two "Friends", I ended up running away from the house while the rent was still four months to expiration and went to squat in a hostel... It wasn't funny please no matter how sorry the story is, never allow them move into your house.

Liliantalks:
noted but it hurts tho. Like people don’t just want it to seem like you did anything for them. I can’t just be allowing people in my space like that .

again, stay the good person that you are.... with everybody. what they do shouldnt impact your good deeds. i know it hurts but you didnt do it for praise, did you?

Love people from far, always better.

Lol....except you are both sharing bills.... Never accommodate, I learnt from my Dad's mistakes in doing that, until he was termed a bad person, even pastors that he even accommodated etc...

I love accommodating ppl and have never had a bad experience or so I think because I really don't expect much from ppl.
I pretend you aren't there and do my stuff the way I always did it before .

Unless you have houses in all the cities or can afford a hotel always, one could be in a fix and need to crash somewhere. So if you say don't do it, don't also ask another person. Yeah!

I've accomodated a lady from nairaland in the past. Very nice lady, cooks well and homely.

Too many bad memories.
People are so inconsiderate.