MufasaLion:


What would you have him do?

He should have even waited to know if that would happen. He just concluded and left. That's not nice.

His life though.

9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them!

All these talk no dey happen for real life. Nah for book or movie

In real life if he marry that gal there is no way he will escape no not shouldering the responsibilities of his wife family. If he starts complaining they will see am as bad person. He is a wise man because he knows he is not financially buoyant enough to handle that kinda situation

Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.

You go fear fear

Love isn't enough..

There group of people that compulsory to shoulder their responsibilities

Ur kids
Ur wife
Ur parents (even parents its shared among children if u re not only child)

Any other one, do ur best and focus on ur own cross, including ur own blood brother and sisters.

Wise man

posty56:
Chai I wish I fit see that man, I for sell some of my stock market shares buy am drink!!, finally men are waking up relationship is not a poverty elevating scheme I can't date someone that is broke or below my financial level the man na original redipiller kudos, as for the lady you better go fine work ooh! na 21st century we dey the idea of men being the only one providing is stale.

why do you people delude yourselves like this ? Majority of Nigerian families are two income households - but you people keep perpetuating this ridiculous lie that only men fend for the household
Did your mother not contribute anything in the household when you were growing up? You ppl can tell disgusting lies sha.

Uncle wise pass!

Na Coffin be dat - absence of males is also a red flag.

Ur uncle no ready e just won chop d lady kpomo

Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.

By the time you give all the sisters wrapper then come see their list you to know why

Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.

If he try and follow what you just said he will die Young.

posty56:
Chai I wish I fit see that man, I for sell some of my stock market shares buy am drink!!, finally men are waking up relationship is not a poverty elevating scheme I can't date someone that is broke or below my financial level the man na original redipiller kudos, as for the lady you better go fine work ooh! na 21st century we dey the idea of men being the only one providing is stale.

Pls help a brother in need

Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.

Don't be blind by love. Love isn't everything!

My brother, love is never enough in Africa, it's a very different situation the moment you two get married. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

Well, women don't marry unconditionally either.

There must always be something to gain.

Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.

You don't know what you are saying. And there is nothing like an agreement to that. It's definitely a responsibility you would have to absorb as the husband.

Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.

....I guess you grew up outside Nigeria environment. You de learn!

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People in the world today are more concerned with material things. If you have the money, what's there in taking care of all of them?

that man fit don witness small *I need urgent 2k* from that lady's family
Sharp man, na lady he wan marry no be family

At the same time hustle o

RealSolution001:
What do you think? Right or wrong?

Uncle Charles 110 @AkwanCharles wrote: "My uncle refused to marry a lady because she has a lot of siblings with no dad and their income level wasn't that great. Sometimes love is not enough. He was just scared of savoring too many responsibilities and I agree with his decision."

He is very right.

That is one of the reasons our ladies are endangered.

They come with load of problems looking for an idiot to offload on. Hence guy give them promises, turn them to FBO (for bed only) partners. Only for sex or distant baby mamas

pansophist:
For me, it is not about material (financial) brokenness but the mental one. Poor people have a predatory mindset developed over a sustained period of scarcity. Any sign of abundance (e.g, rich boyfriend) is seen as a fleeting resource to exploit, ransack and parasite from. Their personal responsibility will be projected to the other party and made to feel guilty if he refuses to accept such conditions in a relationship. Their family problem becomes yours to carry with pressure coming from different angles like sharp bullet forcing you to comply.

Poor people usually do not understand the concept of a mutual relationship, its all about what they will benefit only. Ultimately, the difference between the rich and the poor is their mindset. A rich person going for a broke woman is like throwing foods to hungry fish, you will be devoured. While the smart one realizes to leave poor people alone and let them date each other, seems they understand themselves better. Different mindset.

We don hear Dangote

Bible said, wisdom is profitable and in all u get, get understanding.

Authority1o1:
Okay...


Uncle is a pitiable opportunist who like every other well-schooled capitalist, studied the stock market and concluded he hasn't grown enough risk tolerance to seal such a contract.

My verdict is that in being selfish, he averted the possibility of future internal crises, nights of dialogues, financial ruination and loss of sanity.

How astute.

I hope you day this same thing when a lady refuses to marry a man cos she feels the man is below her level.

The uncle must be Igbo.

Please stop watching too much Nollywood my dear.

Yves4real:
That may be one of the "don't" in his pre-marriage checklist. His choice and I respect it. But the separation should be on a mutual agreement.
Imagine dude looking for a job in the nearest future and one of the lady's siblings is the CEO of the company. Everyone that applauded the man for his decision now will come out to preach forgiveness.
Future events could come as a surprise no matter how much you prepare for it.
In general, be careful of the way you slam/walk out of the door opened for you by others because you may need to pass through that door tomorrow.

Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.

1) Are you married?
2) is not everyone that has the same heart as you. Some people cannot stand watching their relative going through some challenging situation without helping out.

Nothing wrong in what the uncle did. It is just like marrying a first son with many younger siblings in the university. His father is diabetic and the mum has arthritis, so they need routine drugs. His two sisters that married ended up with broke men and would sometimes call for school fees.

Except you are ready to be their family enemy, any sane lady should japa when she sees this setup.

Citygal:
He marrying her doesn’t mean he would have to shoulder their responsibilities and there has to be an agreement to that.

He probably doesn’t love for real.

what type of agreement is that?

thebosstrevor1:
Very good decision. May God bless him. He didn't come to this world to come and take up unnecessary responsibilities.

And for those shouting love, is it love that will start printing out cash to take care of jobless family members.

We don't need anîmàls like you commenting here for God's sake. We aren't talking about cows here