Pweetyccee:
Pls what d meaning of Sisi?

Kadejo:
I have been on Nairaland since 2010, today, marks a turning point.

I am overwhelmed with responses so far.

Please note that I wouldn't mind your calls as well because, this is a crucial time for me.

My number is on my signature.

Nairaland team, thank you for taking my heart burn thought to front page.

Iyaebe:
You are wasting your time with someone who's not ready,look for someone who's ready and do the needful.

Guyman02:
Me I waited, she graduated, I said let's get married and she started bringing one reason or the other and making the relationship sour and that she feels we are not compatible for marriage after 3 years of my waiting for her to graduate, I cried over my mumuistic and mugucious behaviour like you are currently displaying, because of her I missed matured and ready to marry beautiful ladies.

Guy move on, you can rock that pussy if you are ready to commit fornication but she is not ready for marriage and most importantly she is not in love with you.
Women who are in love can make any sacrifice on your behalf, na people go dey caution her that she is blinded by love not her giving you conditions straight to your face

VTJN:
Wahala for nairaland

You mean marriage should be a girl priority, especially those in their 20-22?

Are you sure we both attended this same conventional schools here in Nigeria?

There's nothing wrong being single in your 20s 30s, and even 40s. There's absolutely nothing wrong being single without a man or woman. Being single is not leprosy. Stop putting yourself or people under pressure to date thereby dating stupid people.

You're complete with or without a man or woman. You'd be successful even being single. You'd live life to the fullest even being single

Anyone who may come across with this. If you like, let anyone pressure you to be married. If you like allow them tell you there's everything wrong with you because you are single. Na still you go suffer am, it's none of my business

HopeVictor:
What if ASUU strike??

asunmoGGMU:


You're very right. I don't even understand how most give their submissions here. They just give some people unnecessary pressure and give them low self-esteem. People collecting 50k salary are even getting married and they are doing very fine. We've students into business nowadays. The potential wife can be supportive. It's all about plan. If you look at it well, it is those that don't even know what it takes to pull money together that say these things the most.

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.

This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.

But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.

This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.

But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.

Nonexisting1:
Marriage is scam, marrying an undergraduate is scammer but you see marrying a Nigerian girl while you earn less than 70k, that one na the scammest of it all. I see everything ending in premium tears.

igbowoman:


Speaking to you as a female, a married female i will tell you sincerely that she is not the one for you.
She wants to keep you on the side while she gives herself time to hunt for a better catch.
I can bet money on this
She will leave you within the 4 years and marry someone else.
She will only only marry you after the 4 years if she doesn't find a better alternative.
If you were my brother or friend I will say find someone else who loves you now enough to marry you as you are right now.
She is not the one for you and that is exactly what is saying by that condition she gave you.
Cut her loose now!!

delpee:
She's made it clear that she won't be ready anytime soon. She's a bit immature or maybe inconsiderate and not truly in love with you. Still trying to cast her net into the seas. At 25 she should be much wiser.

Bro, look for a more matured lady who is ready to plan and settle down with you. Considering your current pay, you'll be better off with someone who is employed. At least she'll look after herself to reduce your burden.

Iyaebe:
You are wasting your time with someone who's not ready,look for someone who's ready and do the needful.

pocohantas:
When you were younger, girls were rushing you for just having a penis, you thought it will remain like that? You convinced yourself that you will see a wife anytime you are ready.

Now you are 34 with 70k salary and you are looking for a girl in her prime to rush into marriage. A girl that is very sure she can still meet a better man.

You men do not like to tell yourselves the truth. The major attraction to an older man is his FINANCIAL CAPABILITY. If you don’t have that, 300L girls will use you and do yeye. If you have it, they will still use you and cruise, but them no go get mind tell you this kind nonsense to your face . Na Round 1 be this. When they are done with you, you will give up on marriage.

You think say na 1872 we dey?

Better go find one mature lady with a stable source of income and marry.

Darreytinho10:
Bro knack her belle asap

MummyD2020:


Its your type that puts undue pressure on the gullible. 29 is too old. Oya let the competition begin! Single guys, start scrambling for babes below 27 oh. N9 try cross pass 27. Maturity in marriage is more important than been naive

dominique:
She's keeping her options open for a more financially stable man. Better keep your options open as well else premium disappoinment loading.



Youthful unmarried lady. Doing sisi basically means enjoying life as a spinster

larryjonze:





i am curious what do ladies define as maturity ... she is considerably young, she has final yr + nysc ahead which seems to be a priority, thats her truth got nothing to do with immaturity. however whats d probability she won't disappoint within that two years
That a lady has a job or she is independent does not mean she is mature, as far as marriage is concern an 18yrs old gurl can marry, the earlier the better.
What OP needs is a wife material one whu has contentment, there are couples that survive on salary less than 70k ... its all about cutting your coat according to your size. you no get money buh ur taste naa tonto dickeh

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.

This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.

But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.

Parizz:
Another meaning for sisi is hoeing, harlotry

Afriqan:


Bro, you are in for a big heartbreak, mark my words.

A 25 year old girl who still wants to do "sisi" thinking she has time like her 19 year old course mates is a very silly lady, she doesn't know she has a very short time left.

She will probably go for NYSC and taste different guys and if she doesn't see a better lover she will come back to you and serve you leftovers.

If you are serious about your life, go for a graduate who is looking forward to marriage. I have girls younger than her who are currently asking me for marriage cos they are in that stage of their lives where they are ready.

Her age is not the issue, it's her mind and she is still thinking like a teenager who isn't ready for commitment.

Vinnie2000:


If she is cool, fine and respectful generally, Wait..Be patient!

Do not Rush into marriage with any Available young lady because you are 34..
Pple still see Marriage as a Competition!
It's the ability of a Man to bring up a beautiful family and Cater for them, without Stress!

When I see some 29, 30 yrs Guys rushing into Marriage, I just Pity some of Dem!..

Kadejo:


You think so, I have decided to come out to seek for advice so as to guide my decision.
Never say never bro

Sirmuel1:



Why are you even dating a student? An unserious Person for that matter. You better date someone that's ready and leave those 28yrs below that are not ready for anything serious

Kadejo:


You think so, I have decided to come out to seek for advice so as to guide my decision.
Never say never bro