Good day nairalanders, I am posting this here just get your view on my relationship, I have been managing things my self but it is not easy
My post is going to be lengthy for you to get the whole gist.

ABOUT MYSELF
I am currently 29 year not boyant fincially but not poor either as I can actually take care of my responsibilities without bothering anyone infact I am a hustle and I trains myself in University hustling while in school.

ABOUT MY GIRLFRIEND.
She is currently 27, from broken home a graduate beautiful and hard working with a good heart she care a lot that I can't deny her of that.
HOW WE MET
I was in 300l when she gained admission in 2016 the first day I saw her was that I gave her a lift to school because I stayed off camp and on seen a student around my area I decided to help and from there we exchanged contact and started talking that was how I discovered that she was staying in her Aunt's house and that she was really suffering because her Aunt with her children would cook while she is away to school eat and even wash pot before she comes back and sometimes she will have to go for a whole day without food .
So when I learnt about her situation mean while I have already started toasting her, I decided to be buying food in take away sometimes I also her to come to my place and eat and thing was a little bit better for her.

MOVING IN WITH ME
After she could no longer bear with the situation in her Aunt's place she pleaded to stay with me pending when she get a place and I agree and we stayed together for about 6 month without Sex even though she has agreed to date me but it is he opinion so I respected it and we only made do with cuddling.

ABOUT HER PAST RELATIONSHIP
During the time we were staying together there is this guy that do call her once in a while and I demanded to know who he is she told me that he is ( MIke not real name) and is her boyfriend but she have decided to part away with the guy but the guy guy would not let her be.
She decided to part ways with the guy because the guy is not showing any concern about her at all and instead of the guy to even send her something the guy would rather complain and be looking for a way to extort from her. She also told me that this Mike is her first and only boyfriend.
Secondly she told me about another guy (John not real name) who has been disturbing her right from when she was JSS3 and that the guy had in the past attempted raping her twice but he didn't succeed. She told me that when she got admission she agreed for the guy while she is already in school and the guy came to see her in school and it happened that he succeeded with her this time around but ever since the guy left the following morning she have not heard from the guy again and neither is the guy picking her calls and she only agreed for him because she needed someone she can look up to but the guy just dumped her like that.

ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP
When she finally settled down and got a place of her own with my little assistance she moved in in 2017 that was when she told me that she has fully acceptable me and no other man can access her unless I decides to end the relationship before she can accept any man and truly our relationship was the best of it kind that many people even became envious of us, on my own side I also kept to her alon even other girls that came my we got rejected by me the same with her to men.
Our relationship was beautiful we were there for each other and I took the step of introducing to people and she also introduced me to her mom an siblings, we were lovers that other lovers make reference to.

MY DISCOVERY

I graduated in early 2018 but because of delay from school I didn't go to service till August 2019 during my time of waiting I was doing business in the same place just to be with her but when service came I finally Left and in February 2020 when she also graduated she came to see me where I was serving and that was when I discovered that she was chatting with one guy ( we don't hide our phones from each other because of trust) telling that the the guy should not disturb her that he made her fall for him and abandon her so I confronted her and she confessed that there was a time we had issues and that was what made he to do start developing feeling for the guy. based in their chat nothing happened between the am sure of that but she apologized and we moved on but I became skeptical, I also checked her phone and I saw that John has been calling her so pined her call with John number.

ANOTHER DISCOVRY.
Last year after my service I got one job that I was managing and she came to see me because all this while after she graduated she has gone back to the city that she came from while me am in another city.
During that visitation I discovered that through her chat that she and Mike are talking seriously infact they call each other as often as possible and based on the evidence she has gone to see the guy twice in a beer palor and the guy was asking her to sleep over which she agreed but the problem is that the guy said he want a hotel while my girl said she want his house meanwhile the guy is staying with someone an uncle I think.

Secondly she is into serious relationship and romantic chat with another who she was practically throwing herself at but the guy was some how reluctant because I think he stays with his parents. I confronted her her again and she carried throughout the night begging me that nothing happened between them that she only using them catch fun while chatting and nothing else and for mike she opted for his house because she knew he doesn't have a house.

THE BOMBSHELL
This year when she came visiting which she stayed with me for about two months I remember that I pinned her call with John and I decided to and check what has happened only for to receive the shock of my life after the time that John came to school to have her and go, John got married that the same year and probably that is the reason he avoided her, but last year the started making out again even when she knew he was married, the guy was taking her to his friends place or hotel for rumps when I could not take it any longer I confronted her and as usual she started crying for 2 day I called off our relationship but she wouldn't let me she said that she ready to die in my house that she can't let me go she went ahead to swear to all the gods that they were not having Sex but that they did romance on some occasions, her mom got to know about and called to beg that if I can forgive her this time and she ever try such a thing even she herself will not forgive her, her friend too was begging my own friend to was begging me on her behalf because truly she has been good us all. So I finally a agree and forgave her but I couldn't forget as I keep seeing image of two of them on my head all the time and there is no day that will pass without me thinking about it.

MY ENCOUNTER WITH JOHN
During the fracas she gave John my number to help beg me but instead the guy was unapologetic telling that I am a coward and that is why I think that a woman I am yet to marry should stay for me that even if he has another opportunity he will still do the same thing to her and there is nothing I can do about it he concluded by saying that if I like I can go and kill my self..

GETTING BACK AT HIM
Many months have passed and just as the saying goes that the sluggishness of a camel is not laziness but gentlity, I have moved on with the relationship just like that after looking back at my past with especially that there was a time that I was terribly sick at school and everyone including my relatives abandoned me because of the nature of sickness (contagious) but these girls stayed with me all through.
But the truth is that I am determined to make the guy feel a little of what he made me go through especially the way he spoke to me, though I have never been to the City where he is or seen him face to face but today I have all his wife's details and I am going to show her what her husband does behind her.

Forgive me if you find errors but I can't go all over again editing,
This is my story and I wonder what women really want, you have a man who do not cheat on you and he tries as much as possible to make you happy still yet you are not ok with it

SumMary please. ....

Seems you are a simp and woman wrapper. Get a life! How do you expect a woman you have not yet married not to have a fling or two? Even when you marry her, you monitor and try to keep her close to you during her ovulation times and through her child bearing periods. Afterwards you mind your own business. Is that not all you can do. Here you are contemplating fighting a man over a woman you have already dropped and who is not also with the woman. Your reasoning is not correct.

You want to show John's wife what her husband does behind her back right?,... This is exactly how people get Killed for not minding their Business and trying to destroy someone's marital home.

Why not Face only John, why do you want to bring John's Wife into the mess, do you know what John is capable of,

You see this Life eh, I have seen things with this my two eyes, This Life is cold and people are capable of going to the Extreme to prove a point,... Do you know if that John has a squad that he can call upon to cause you great harm, or maim you?,... Do You know that alot of people you see walking on the streets have one or two underground connection that the can call upon to cause you great harm simply because you stepped on their Feet without saying sorry, talk less of destroying a married home.

Oga let me make it very clear for you, if you go ahead and contact that John's wife and show her your evidence and John's Marital home is destroyed because of what you showed his wife, you think that John will just fold his arms and sit back without having Plans to deal with you mercilessly and ruthlessly for destroying his home??.


That your girl has showed you severally that you can't fully Trust her.

Do your mathematics and calculations very well, if you're not ready to get married in the near future, MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE while you focus on your Life and plan your Financial Future.


I Discovered that Nigerians as a whole don't value the beautiful gift of "Absolute Peace Of Mind".

Op this one long sha
I’m coming back
if you don’t have money nobody go call you beg you na because them see potential in you so you better use your head and stop acting like the lady in that relationship
Imagine your Barney friends Dey call you Dey beg you like say them no no..
No relationship is perfect if you don’t man up or if you keep on being the good guy she will keep on cheating because you go still forgive am

Reading in progress

Now that you are still young faaji all you want and let her fight for your love .
Don’t let her move in with you shebi she be graduate you dun try make she go find work

You need help cuz you're worst than a coward

DaddyRochie1642:
You want to show John's wife what her husband does behind her back right?,... This is exactly how people get Killed for not minding their Business and trying to destroy someone's marital home.

Why not Face only John, why do you want to bring John's Wife into the mess, do you know what John is capable of,

You see this Life eh, I have seen things with this my two eyes, This Life is cold and people are capable of going to the Extreme to prove a point,... Do you know if that John has a squad that he can call upon to cause you great harm, or maim you?,... Do You know that alot of people you see walking on the streets have one or two underground connection that the can call upon to cause you great harm simply because you stepped on their Feet without saying sorry, talk less of destroying a married home.

Oga let me make it very clear for you, if you go ahead and contact that John's wife and show her your evidence and John's Marital home is destroyed because of what you showed his wife, you think that John will just fold his arms and sit back without having Plans to deal with you mercilessly and ruthlessly for destroying his home??.


That your girl has showed you severally that you can't fully Trust her.

Do your mathematics and calculations very well, if you're not ready to get married in the near future, MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE while you focus on your Life and plan your Financial Future.


I Discovered that Nigerians as a whole don't value the beautiful gift of "Absolute Peace Of Mind".

impressive that is one of the reasons I why I brought it here, now I get it but for the guy calling me a coward and knowing fully well that as married man he should do things secretly is what put me on thi mission.

All this your story is not worth it
Break up with her and move on with your life abi won bi soyin meja ni

reciting in strides

Bro, just move on, those guys always talking about red pill are not fool, experience like this made them like that.

maxist2020:
impressive that is one of the reasons I why I brought it here, now I get it but for the guy calling me a coward and knowing fully well that as married man he should do things secretly is what put me on thi mission.

Him Calling you a coward will not stop you from doing your best to put Food on your table and paying your Bills.... Sometimes, it's SILENCE is a very powerful means of sending a message.

See eh, this Life is Sweet and worth Living as long as you cut your coat according to your Size.