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Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by newbornmacho(m): 10:32am On Sep 28, 2021 |
bigpicture001: I wish money could solve the problem. I'm not a poor man. |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by Nobody: 10:36am On Sep 28, 2021 |
mastermaestro: A melancholic is a wrong choice for him because they are highly sensitive and suck in anger till they unleash it on whoever will be unfortunate to receive it. It will only work if he isn't 100% choleric. Take this from someone who is 100% melancholic. 1 Like |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by Winneygirl(f): 10:36am On Sep 28, 2021 |
Modernizer: You are not ready to tone down your temper or work on your obvious behavioural problems, you want to get married? Marriage is heading for the rocks even before it starts. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by blozzynonny(f): 10:39am On Sep 28, 2021 |
newbornmacho: My own is who's the op here? Is it Modernizer or NewbornMacho. How come NewbornMacho is answering personal questions thrown at Modernizer the op in first person tense. Confuse dimakwa 1 Like |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by efficiencie(m): 10:39am On Sep 28, 2021 |
Modernizer: All this choleric or diarrhoeaic stuff has nothing to do with the longevity of a relationship. Mutual sacrifice, mutual declaration of your assets and liabilities, clear determination of the rules of engagement in the marriage, the setting of minimum standards and the desire to change, learn and grow all determine great relationships! Find your match, bond, change, learn and grow. 1 Like |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by newbornmacho(m): 10:40am On Sep 28, 2021 |
LordIsaac: Thanks |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by newbornmacho(m): 10:40am On Sep 28, 2021 |
Walking: Thanks |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by newbornmacho(m): 10:42am On Sep 28, 2021 |
Harddiskng: Thanks bro |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by HapiNna: 10:42am On Sep 28, 2021 |
Each temperament has its own strenghts and weakness so the onus if for the both of you to genuinely work on your weakness. I so much like how Tim Lahaye titled his book on temperaments, Spirit Controlled. You guys should open up to the Holy Spirit for guidance. Marriage is a union between 2 forgiving individuals that are open to learn and talk issues out. If the both of you are the forgiving type and have this willingness and openness to conflict resolutions then I see no reason things will not work out for you. Also pray that God will guide you right knowing this is a life time commitment. You can also talk to marriage counselors in your church or couples that you admire for insights. I wish you well. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by newbornmacho(m): 10:46am On Sep 28, 2021 |
OJEEMAH: If money can solve the problem, then it's all good. I'm not poor. But will money keep her under? If I provide Will she accept to be a housewife? |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by newbornmacho(m): 10:48am On Sep 28, 2021 |
womenareapess: Scary |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by newbornmacho(m): 10:51am On Sep 28, 2021 |
SUGARCyprian247: Hmmmmm...really?? Can two cholerics blend? |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by uracefriend(m): 10:51am On Sep 28, 2021 |
Why don't you sit her down and discuss it. Put it in the open so both of you can manage your temperaments as you go into marriage. Whatever you bring to the open is half conquered. You can also start adopting some phlegmatic qualities you desire. It is possible. Don't keep or maintain things like anger. It hasn't helped anyone in this life or yonder. Speak to yourself, speak the Word of God. Anger rests in the bosom of fools so says the Preacher. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by Asour: 10:52am On Sep 28, 2021 |
Funny how you are hesitant about a trait (Hot temper) in someone else which you clearly accept that you have. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by newbornmacho(m): 10:52am On Sep 28, 2021 |
koyyes: Oga oo |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by BRATISLAVA: 10:53am On Sep 28, 2021 |
koyyes: Seems the guy is a killjoy.. Hear him talk about how he doesn't have empathy. And he doesn't want to change that. That's the last kind of man to go near. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by newbornmacho(m): 10:53am On Sep 28, 2021 |
Asour: I am aware of my weaknesses so I know not to pile on someone with same... but I'm wondering if the two can go |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by mastermaestro(m): 10:54am On Sep 28, 2021 |
koyyes: That's not correct. Maybe you are secondarily choleric. Maybe I should have added that he should go for a melancholic whose secondary temperament is sanguine. Melancholics are the best for cholerics. Why? Properly developed melancholics are very organized, intelligent and very diligent. They give their best. And they avoid confrontations. These few traits are what cholerics crave for. You may want to suggest phlegmatic. Phlegmatics are best managed by sanguine. I would have to write an epistle for you to understand me perfectly. All temperaments have their weaknesses. However these weaknesses can be managed by a correct coming together. Maybe I will outline their strengths and weaknesses, but not now. And please don't mix up the meaning of the concept of melancholic as a temperament and as a mere English word. They totally mean different things. Please keep the discussion refined. 1 Like |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by newbornmacho(m): 10:56am On Sep 28, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA: Even though you say it with some disrespect, you're actually right. I'm not necessarily fun to be with. I'm a workaholic, highly cerebral, always thinking about solutions to difficult problems, hate parties, rarely hang out, hate company, prefer news for my TV relaxation, play very hardball to make money....classic choleric. Will any other temperament cope? Is it not a choleric I need? Very confused |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by bayulll011(m): 10:57am On Sep 28, 2021 |
Modernizer: does she has money |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by newbornmacho(m): 10:58am On Sep 28, 2021 |
uracefriend: Ok |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by Modernizer: 11:02am On Sep 28, 2021 |
newbornmacho: Thanks for holding. I'm done now. |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by EmptyGarden(m): 11:02am On Sep 28, 2021 |
Modernizer:Sounds like you're in a hurry to rest in peace. |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by Modernizer: 11:02am On Sep 28, 2021 |
bayulll011: Nope. I do. |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by Modernizer: 11:02am On Sep 28, 2021 |
EmptyGarden: Bro ...they're on my neck |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by cedricksly: 11:03am On Sep 28, 2021 |
Modernizer:you really need to settle down and you are willing to just do it with anybody regardless the already red flag u are seeing... Maybe u think marriage has recess, or maybe u do not mind a broken or a home filled with abuse..... Save your future kids mental health and get married to who can manage your anger not same person like you.... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by placeofallure(f): 11:03am On Sep 28, 2021 |
@ Modernizer, think twice before you say "I do" it's always better to marry someone who's not exactly like you so you can complement each other. I'm phlegmatic married to a sanguine. We get along well. |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by Modernizer: 11:04am On Sep 28, 2021 |
newbornmacho: You said it better than I could. Guy reconsider your hatred for women. 1 Like |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by Modernizer: 11:04am On Sep 28, 2021 |
placeofallure: But time is against me |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by Modernizer: 11:04am On Sep 28, 2021 |
cedricksly: Kk |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by BRATISLAVA: 11:07am On Sep 28, 2021 |
newbornmacho: You've based your life around so much temperament jargon. Who are you, really? Who do you need to be? Who told you there's anything like a choleric? People are blends. But you seem to revel in your antisocial tendencies as a badge of honor for cholerics. You're probably more of an introvert than a choleric. Being "highly" cerebral isn't an excuse to be a douchebag without empathy, or to use it as an excuse to be high on volatile temperament. The rest of the world is also highly cerebral and volatile tempered. How do the rest of us learn to live with a partner peacefully? You are looking for temperaments, but unless you work on yourself you will still split from anyone you're with. Everyone can change positively. And if they can't, they need drugs for it. Or behavioral therapy. Reduce your judgmental introversion. People learn empathy. 6 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Help I'm About To Marry A Choleric Woman by BRATISLAVA: 11:11am On Sep 28, 2021 |
koyyes: I just knew it's a red pill guy. Once you hear guys that claim they are rigid and strict, just know they want to control women. Meanwhile they cannot change or be better people. Rather the person who they want to enter into a relationship must become a footrag and let it be their way alone, or the relationship isn't worth it to them. People are poorly socialized and it's reflecting in relationships and offices. 3 Likes |
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