She had this best friend, who got married a short while back. After the wedding, my cousin started calling up her friend in a bid to gist with her, like they used to do. Guess what? The married friend suddenly turned cold. She was always either too busy, or just driving or simply in the midst of something & couldn't talk. The girl kept calling her & she wouldn't pick her phone or return her calls. One day, she was overheard telling my cousin's colleague, that she wished to be left alone, as she was no longer in the same class or category with my cousin, because she was now married. Imagine!!

Another married lady I know, went to the extent of ridiculing her single friend by always telling the girl; "Go and Marry," as if she brought a husband to the girl for marriage, or as if she heard that 20 men were knocking on the lady's door with marriage proposals, and she turned them down.

Honestly, a number of married women can be really insensitive to their single friends. Some feel they are now Mrs. Somebody, and so they relate to those single friends as if they are Mrs, Nobody, simply because those ones do not have a wedding band on their third finger.

soulpatrol:

easier said than done. i tire o. if there wasn't so much pressure around, i prolly wouldn't give 2, but the parents, family, friends, even those not related to you, just drive you up the wall.

Olusleeky:

although its good to be married, but it has to b done in frndship.to me, marriage is another name for frndship and not hardship. iam 30 but not in a rush nor despirate, BUT i av to be married. am taking it nice and slow.

moondust:

it's a pretty desperate period in a woman's life,
being 30 and not married could drive a woman to extremes,
in that she then tends to want to please anything in trousers that comes her way,
with the hopes of striking a cord. So all fine ladies on this forum, who are still far
from 30 please play your cards right and stop looking for that imaginary armour cladded
prince charming , just so age doesnt encroach on y'all
nuff said

you guys are very funny!! the question should be, why is that a girl of 30 + is not yet married? is it that no men in town or they are not through with life yet for them to get married?

i know a girl who men crawl around her and asking for her hand in marriage she refused them and do you know why? she said she is not through enjoying life yet for her to settle down. ok! keep on rocking!!!

After she might have sold the good part of her honey pot to every body who cares to eat out of it and her age start climbing, she start looking for husband desperately to give the left over of her honey pot to. for some ladies i know, they are very choosy, they want a perfect man. just like a question posted here some time ago about, would you as a graduate marry a school cert holder? i see how some guys and ladies answer the question i just laugh. you want to marry a man /woman that you can be proud of a perfect man /woman right!! good but the perfection you seek is not what you think. are you perfect? you are marring a man /woman that you love that you will spend the rest of you life with, that you will grow old with. she / he is not a certificate for God sake!!! haba!!!!!!!! i have never seeing a man / woman marrying a certificate!! we all want to marry a societal man /woman who can express her self in public when true love is not there. who give a damn who you marry? as long as you both are happy with each other. just yesterday some one want to cheat on the husband because he pick quarrel on a slightest provocation even beat her up and she is finding solace in another's man's arm. what a life!!! i believe they are both graduate to the core!!! what a sham when a man /woman is married, he /she should not be looking for good man /woman, perfect man /woman stunts. just be the loving man /woman you should be as ordained by God to be and leave the rest to God.

people sef, na wa for una!!!!

Aladunni:

bail me out o @spoilt.
well our friend, its not always because they avnt enjoyed life enough or something. It may be for some reasons they themselves may not be able to explain. All ave got to say is develop yourself the more and make the best use of this beautiful age of 30+, there is no day i wake up without feeling fulfilled in everyway, ave always thot its a consolation, but these days i believe its not. For all singles over 30, don't even look it my dear. then u will see wonders, what is your work? be the bomb there, your spiritual walk, be faithful to it, even in a date don't be desperate at all. i say soon u will see wonders. Single and u feel frustrated? How many seminars have u attended to improve yourself, ave u considered another degree or a professional exam to add to what u ave? ponder on these things, it may help. My mum was the bug, now i got a job elsewhere all we do is call. quid pro que. Married friends, there r some i barred their numbers from my phone completely. Check this out, i think there is a difference in this two greetings
A: Aladunni hw r u? Hwz work? Mum, dad, your siblings and all those that love, still smiling as always? do people still love u the way i always fall for u? I really miss, be your best in all things and we will always pray with u. huzzy and baby r here saying hi.
B: Aha aladunni, hw nw? long time? Av u heard that ronke married last week, that unserious girl? infact i called sis jane last week and i was surprised shez put to bed for her second baby, even lagbaja also wedded last year, and lakasegbe is very heavy now, endlessly.
what do u feel, i think am justified for any action taken.

the people at that age will tell better.but actually it is not easy